Sunday, November 25, 2012

We've got Nothing but Time...


“Time is what we want most, but… what we use worst.” ~William Penn

Leisure time. Such a commodity these days isn’t it? One of my good friends is a single mother with two children, works as a waitress, and is also taking college classes. I remarked to her how impressed I am that she’s able to manage those three endeavors simultaneously. She spoke of how it’s all about time management.

As someone myself who works and goes to grad school, I am no stranger to the difficulties of time management. However, my responsibilities pale in comparison to hers! This has inspired me to work on my time management skills.

What about you. Do you have difficulty with time management skills and/or carving out leisure time?

51 comments:

  1. i bet she does....being a single parent is tough...we try to help a few out here locally...i try to set my life so i dont struggle with that...but picking up a second job at times really makes it hard but we need the extra to get through you know...

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  2. Both you and your friend are such inspiring people! I have *terrible* time management skills. My excuse is that I work best under pressure, so I sometimes artificially create that pressure by procrastinating until the last minute. I'm trying to be better, though, and have started using techniques like Pomodoro - it works really well, especially for tasks you really don't want to do. Best of luck to you and keep us posted!

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  3. Retired now and still the clock ticks faster and faster. It is important to make the best use of every second. Time is a golden coin meted out to us, one second at a time. The clock can stop without warning.

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  4. I was just talking to my friend about this last week....I actually had much better time management skills when I was working 50-60 hours a week and going to school full-time. Because I had to. Now, I feel like it is more difficult to stay on track because I don't have as many deadlines to meet. My weekends were spent doing homework and now that I don't have that anymore, I feel a little lost sometimes. And find myself being lazy. And wasting time. I decided to sign up for a photography class in 2013 so I am hoping that will help. I need a hobby! :)

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  5. Time management is always a difficult topic for me ... but I have seen most of the time I waste doing stuffs that are not needed ... perhaps I need to cut off those to get time for constructive endeavors !!!

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  6. We are all life managers. I consider myself a pretty decent manager. That said, I do know how to effectively procrastinate and waste time. Today is a perfect example. Can't seem to get productive...oh well....it happens.

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  7. Good question. Like most folks I developed an inner life, while working through the busy years, which emerged at retirement. I'm surprised there wasn't a spent cocoon behind me.

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  8. Time management is something I've always expressed not having time to sort out, when really if I actually get down to it and draw up a timetable for what I do in a week, the reason I feel I don't have time for anything is because I'm so busy procrastinating as opposed to doing work.

    So tomorrow I'm drawing up a timetable to help me figure out what time I do have. At the moment I'm supposed to be doing work, so I'd better get on with it! Great post though, thank you!

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  9. Woe is me:( My time management skills are deplorable. I'm with Lori. It seems the more I have to do, the more I get done. I'm applying to grad school soon (a low res program) and pray that I will have the self-discipline to do all things well.

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  10. I went to college while raising (and sometimes homeschooling) three children and going through a divorce, working 2-3 part time jobs and it was easier than what I am dealing with now being unemployed and trying to manage my time. Still, people often tease me about how I get up at 4:30ish (usually 5am-ish but don't tell them!). I explain that if I were working I'd have to stick with a real-life schedule and just because I am unemployed doesn't mean I am without some restrictions. I strive to fill my hours responsibly. Today was not a good one for me but at least I'll have chocolate ice cream and how bad can things be where there is chocolate ice cream to be had?

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  11. I have terrible time management skills. I tend to underestimate how long it will take me to get certain things done, then I end up running late quite often.

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  12. I have had to learn to protect, fiercely, my sacred "me" time. I work 7 days / 50 hours a week, volunteer once a week for 4 hours, and value time with family, friends, and carve out time for the gym (never mind cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, etc.) I make SURE to have at least one night a week at home, alone, that is just for me. I have a candlelight bath, watch a movie or write, make myself a delicious meal, etc. It's my date night with myself :-) The busier we get, the more critical time management is AND the more sacred "you" time is.

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  13. Years ago, when we were raising our children, and I was juggling all kinds of activities and responsibilities, I was a pretty good time manager. Since the kids all moved on and my husband retired, the activities and responsibilities have fallen off dramatically, and there's a lot less things to juggle, so time management isn't something I have to stress about. Still, like Delores said, the clock does seem to be ticking faster these days.

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  14. i'm always with my watch on hand to catch up everything and that's psychoconsuming... weekends are the only time that differs, when i can slow down and eenjoy some peaceful moments doing absolutely nothing.. i enjoy doing all these activities, i wouldn't want to stop any of studying, working, householding and training so i try to keep up on schedule. In fact i have a laaarge notebook.

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  15. time management is the key. It makes all the differences. I mean even I'm in the grad school, and if things like competitions show up, the ones with the best time management wins normally. I feel that how things jolt up in our lives too. Not much of a difference. It's all about time. The best part is a successful day at time management means sound sleep and there's not a better price to pay.
    Take Care!

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  16. Time management actually seems to increase the amount of time I have. At present I have less things to juggle than I have had before, and I am not using time management. Perhaps I should - I am feeling just as short of time now, as I do when I am much busier!

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  17. Surprisingly I find myself to be more productive when I have LESS time. I'm a bit of a deadline obsessor. I work much better when faced with a million things to do that I do when I have a lot of free time. I'm a bit of a procrastinator. I guess my point is that I'm great at time management when I have no time...but awful when I have plenty of time...

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  18. I have a constant battle with time management, and while I usually get things done that need to be done, it's often not without stress, panic, and guilt. This thing called time management doesn't come naturally to me. Sometimes I wonder if I belong in a more laid-back, not-as-conscious-of-time culture. :)

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  19. I used to be one of those super busy people who never made time for leisure. But I have definitely changed over the last few years, and I purposely make time for leisure. Good post. *and new follower*

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  20. Hi Keith .. totally agree - I think without a doubt I have great admiration for mothers ... they really struggle to do the maximum they can for their kids and family ... or just make absolutely certain their kids are ok if they're on their own. Always amazes me -

    Time is another matter ... next year I'll have to ensure I hit maximum intensity - but keep the balance ... I know what's ahead ..

    Cheers - and I see you're prepared for Christmas .. oh well - I'll find my decorations anon! Thanks for coming by the blog, following and the lovely comment - Hilary

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  21. Hi! Thanks for commenting on my blog! I did go Black Friday shopping, for about 10 minutes after I worked all day.

    This is a great blog!! I look forward to reading more =)

    The older I get, the faster time flies...and I don't put aside enough time to do the things I really love. I'm trying to be better with that.

    xo Katie
    bewitchinghourblog.blogspot.com

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  22. I don't, actually. Being the stay-at-home mom of just one little munchkin, I am the type who does not overschedule. I value, deeply, connection, but I also value solitude and time to reflect. Generally, our schedules reflect our priorities, I think.

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  23. "The faster I run, the behinder I get."

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  24. My husband and I are pretty good at finding leisure time. Usually after dinner every night we will catch up and just hang out together. We don't have kids, so this is easier for us than most people I'm sure!

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  25. This a central part of my day: time management. I use priorities and make a time schedule. It helps. However, I only schedule the next two things on my list.

    If other things come up while doing these two tasks, I adapt my time and do the next two priority items on my agenda.

    Key here, is scheduling time for fun and time alone, so I can decompress. Having a Quiet Time is essential for my serenity and sanity, not to mention my emotional safety and ease.

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  26. wow, your friend has quite a schedule!! i think time management is truly an art that will lend to productivity, but at the same time, may interfere with much needed leisure time, or time with loved ones.

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  27. I don't know how you two do it. I have three kids and I could never balance all that. My full time job just about did me in. And I know about the demands of grad school.

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  28. An appropriate question for me. I haven't had a "day off" since Hurricane Sandy removed our electric power, nearly a month ago. If you don't count that imposed Sabbath, then it has been over a month. I've analyzed it to death -- my lack of "down time" has been truly out of my control.

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  29. As my kids get older I find time management is becoming much harder. Not only do I need to schedule my stuff, their activities are ever increasing. Adding theirs in proves quite a challenge at times! I also want to learn better time management skills!

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  30. Sometimes I do. I try and do too much.

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  31. Sometimes I do because I try to fit too many tasks into my day. But I've gotten better about it and am learning. I think it comes from working and going to school; I had so much to do that I had to pack my days with different tasks so even now that I don't have to, I still try to fill my days with different tasks.

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  32. Now the kids have grown, and work and universities are part of their schedule, quality time spent as a family is hard to snare. Both my sons are drummers in bands also, and seeing them perform live as much as possible is my biggest joy. If I'm honest, I've always led a chaotic, loud and cluttered lifestyle, I don't think I'd manage organised!!

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  33. Thank you for stopping by my blog, and leaving such a nice comment. :-)

    Well, you see, we are retired, and in our 70's... So, we don't have many time management issues. -grin-

    Good luck to all of you *Youngin's,* who need such!!!!!!

    Gentle hugs,
    "Auntie"

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  34. I can't see a dreamer being an efficient time manager in the way your friends are, and neither should you. A dreamer will let the mind wander freely, unfettered by time and will create and invent. A dreamer will discover the whys and wherefores while a time manager does the chores, so we need both.

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  35. I make a list every morning of the things that need to be done throughout the day. The highest priorities go at the top. If ever I find myself bored or wanting something to do, I check the list. Just keep in mind that plans change. As long as all necessary deadlines are met, the rest can wait. The important things are not what you got done when, it's what you accomplished and how. That's how your memories are made :)

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  36. Um, YES! (yes and yes) It IS so difficult to cave out leisure time or alone time - but I do try as I know that it keeps me sane ;) I've heard that a good rule of thumb is to take 3 vacations or small get aways each year: one with your significant other, one with your family and one just for yourself. . .. Good time if you can get it :) Kristin

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  37. I probably don't take enough time for leisure activities, even though I know it refreshes me when I do. I'm a full time elementary school teacher and an author on the side -- and suddenly the author thing has heated up. (I have deadlines!!)

    But taking a bike ride with my husband, watching a movie with my daughters, reading a book for fun, walking the dog in the park ... all these things are important too. (And good for me.)

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  38. One of the few things I remember of my Grand-mother is her often telling me, "tempus fugit." I know it means time flies, but I always got the feeling she was referring to something more than that, like regrets or wasted time perhaps.

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  39. thanks for the visit to my blog. I see from scrolling through some of your posts that you have been decorated for quite a while already! :)
    I love all things Christmasy too.
    As for time management, I am retired, but I still make lists every day so that I can get done what needs to be done, and what I want to do.

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  40. Yes I do struggle with it. My husband is a cripple and I'm responsible for his care and that's a demanding chore. I find time for myself by giving up sleep. Doing what I like to do when he is sleeping and doesn't require my attention.

    Thank you for the lovely comment on my blog.

    Best wishes
    Anne

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  41. It's something I struggle with as well, but it's mostly about prioritising things - like I realised i missed reading, and yet I never ever make time for it.

    We've basically stopped watching tv - because it doesn't really fit into out we consider as leisure time.

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  42. Hi Keith, I've always been an early riser usually around 6 in the morning and a couple of times a week around 3.30 am and its amazing what you can do in those early hours.I do feel for your friend its hard being a single mum(i was for a few years with 3 young ones)especially when your work as well, I can remember many a night hanging out the washing at 10pm after dinner,books,homework,dishes etc........... Now they have grown into beautiful young adults and all the hard work was well worth it!!

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  43. I have very little in the way of responsibility, so I have plenty of time for myself, then again with all the writing that can be tricky.

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  44. This is something I'm actually good at.. but then again I don't have much going on besides work. LOL

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  45. As a member of the GerryActive club and now only painting for 'work ' I should have plenty of time. Yes I cycle,walk, work out, write poetry etc etc BUT I used to do that and work too!! There just doesn't seem to be enough of it. Love your blogs keith, they are always thought provoking. By the way my real name is Chris.

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  46. Haha - I have lots of problems and issues - but I am pretty good at time management - lol - it is probably my OCD! lol sandie

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  47. Many thanks for reminding me of its importance.
    A good piece this.
    Disciplined time management can help one maintain a comfortable life with no hassles, no last minute rushings and no disappointments.

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  48. I am lucky enough to have age on my side even though I am not retired (I am a farmer) I have realized how important time for myself is and I MAKE sure I find that.
    I am impressed with your friend she is a great example of modern motherhood. A role model to her children. B

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  49. I am lucky enough to have the financial support from my parents as I finish my undergraduate degree. So I really only work 9 hours and go to school 17 hours. I just had a conversation with someone about time management. My friend has three jobs and is taking fifteen hours. This world!

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  50. I'm wonderful at managing others time but when it comes to doing the same for myself, the left side of my brain is at serious odds with the right side.

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  51. Ugh! I'm the Queen of Procrastination I'm afraid... not great at time management unless I'm under a deadline.

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