Wednesday, December 26, 2012

Conquering our Fears...


“When you face your fear, most of the time you will
discover that it was not really such a big threat after all.
We all need some form of deeply rooted, powerful motivation,
for it empowers us to overcome obstacles so we can live our dreams.”  ~Les Brown

I was reading an article in an old issue of Readers Digest that said 97% of the world’s population has a phobia.  Whether it’s spiders, closed spaces, germs, or what have you, it seems that we all have something that gives us a case of the “heebie geebies”.  

From the time I was a little boy I have had a paralyzing fear of heights. I'm not sure where it originated, but it's been there as long as I can remember. I’ve never even ridden a roller coaster in my life due to this fear. Crazy eh?

Lately, I have become determined to conquer this fear. I am thinking of conquering my fear of heights by participating in one of the following three activities: zip lining, rock climbing, or parasailing. Of the three, I am leaning towards parasailing since it’s offered where I will be vacationing this summer!

I think it’s very important to conquer our fears, and I feel that by conquering this fear I will be able to engage in activities that I have previously missed out on.

What are some of your phobias?

80 comments:

  1. Heights, water, fire, flying insects.....life in general lol.

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  2. i have arachnophobia. and whatever phobia is being afraid of sharks and crocodiles. i have that too. and monkeys. can't stand monkeys. -_-

    i'm determined to go sky diving and rock climbing someday.
    i'm not sure if i'm scared of either of those things, but i guess i'll find out sometime, i do know that heights don't effect me though:)

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  3. I have a fear of heights, too, and until a couple years ago, I'd never been on a roller coaster. But I recently discovered that I really enjoy dark roller coasters. Apparently, if I can't see how high I am, I'm golden!

    I also managed a zipline on Catalina Island. I still don't know how I forced myself to jump off the platform, and heaven knows if I would ever do it again! My family was proud of me, though.

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  4. You can do it! I had recently developed a full blown phobia of flying. It was so bad, i would have panic attacks just thinking about being in a commercial airplane. I decided it was time to let go of it... breathing slowly helps a lot too :)

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  5. I have a fear of heights as well. We went to Chicago this summer and went up their ever famous Sears / now Willis Tower. I had a hard time standing in the glass area that was above the city. I had an even harder time watching my boys act like monkey within the glass. We did it though. I took pictures and everything.

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  6. i think you have to face it or the fear will keep you from things...i went rappeling...a 60 ft cliff...than a 300 foot cliff to face my fear of heights...pick something you can start small and work your way up to....

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  7. love how you're going to conquer this fear with those 3 options!! update us when you do...it will be a celebration, indeed :)

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  8. Sounds like an excellent plan for vacation and approaching your fears. I have a fear of heights that comes and goes, haven't managed to figure out why exactly but suspect it comes from some anxiety I've managed to suppress so it pops out elsewhere.

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  9. Or just hang over the top of the Eiffel Tower, and take pics!!!! -grin-

    Yikes what a photo that is!!!!!!!!!!! Could make me sick, to look too long, at it. So you can guess what my phobia is. Or rather, which one we share. ,-)

    You are young enough, to conquer it. Go for it!!!!!!!! And best of luck!!!!!!!

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  10. keith you are so brave, i have a fear of heights also and dont want to go on a high rollercoaster too for this reason. i have quite a few fears, i have a fear of falling- today i was on a sea pier and was scared i was going to fall in the sea. but in the past i have suffered from an anxiety disorder which is a form of phobia!!! so lots.. but i am trying to get strong and conquer some of them.
    good luck with facing your fear!! xx

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  11. J-walking. And even more so at nighT. Lame, I know but it's a real fear for me.

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  12. I've never fully been able to overcome my fear of living in Texas (there's supposed to be humor in that statement), and Texas is filled with things that I'm genuinely afraid of: spiders and scorpions.
    I'm afraid of heights and you'll never catch me rock climbing or parasailing..... Although I would enjoy watching others do these activities (from a safe distance).

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  13. Yeah I hate germs, but aren't afriad of them. Just wash my hands after and that is that. For fear I feared flying but that was easy, once you do it, you usually find there is nothing to it. Spend more time fearing the fear.

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  14. I don't know if I have phobias per se, but I certainly am not attracted to high heights. ;) I am also a bit of a germaphobe.

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  15. I am glad you said some...as we seem to have more than one.I do not like caves or watching people swim. I have OVER COME fear of lightening, fire, getting on the expressways and loss.I agree with you on the importance of conquering our fears. The best way to conquer them is to face them. :)

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  16. I'm scared of flying as in airplane. Heights give me vertigo.. but I'm not super scared I just get thrown off balance when I'm up high for some reason. But flying/claustrophobia.. oh man, that's a bad one.
    You've never ridden a roller coaster!!? I remember I went to 6 flags and there was like a batman ride.. or spiderman? I dunno some sort of ___man ride and it had several loops. I was terrified, my friend and I got split up. I ended up sitting next to a guy who was just as scared as me and we cried together before it started, it went SUPER fast, couldn't even tell when we were upside down and it was one of the funnest things I've ever done. At the end, the guy and I laughed, hugged and got back in line. It was one of my favorite experiences.

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  17. I have a really bad fear of heights too. It got to the point where if my feet weren't on the floor, I would be scared. So, say I sat on a wall, and my feet weren't on the floor, I'd be afraid. I know I should conquer my fears but I'm in no particular hurry to.

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  18. I have no phobias or fears, but the other day I was so terrified after the shooting of the firefighters that when I heard somebody ringing my bell I did not go to open the door. It turned out it was a neighbor I had never met before who had the beautiful gesture of bringing a Christmas gift.

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  19. As I've gotten older I've gotten more claustrophobic. A few years ago we were camping and the complete and utter darkness was crushing. But I spend my days flying around in a pressurized metal tube and that doesn't bother me at all. I think because I can move around.

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  20. I have what I would call an absolute horror of large sized cockroaches. It is extremely easy for me to trace this fear back to my mother who, when I was a kid, would ask me, "Did you wash your face?" and when I said I did, she'd say, "Well, if you haven't,cockroaches will come in the middle of the night and crawl on your face and eat big holes in it." And she'd say this using various horrible facial expressions and even pretend she had just woken up to find holes in her face. Hmmmm. Like I said, a no brainer as to why I am petrified when I see a large cockroach. I have dealt with this by drawing on rational thinking e.g. it's just an insect, it can't really harm you etc. But the best thing I've ever done is go to a hypnotist. Now, when I see a cockroach, I feel this almost overwhelming rising of fear in my body, tight chest, fast beating heart, nausea, ready to hysterically scream my head off, and then I feel this wave of something like relaxation come over me.In this state I am able to face my fear, spray the cockroach and quickly put a plastic container over the top of it to stop it crawling on everything, as seeing them do this upsets me even more. I'm so happy about this. It's like a weight lifted from me. I can even pick up a dead one with tissues to dispose of it. I'm not saying my fear is 100% gone - far from it - but since my hypnotherapy, I can put my fear more to the back of my mind, and this then makes it easier for me to do practical things to deal with it.

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  21. Make friends with your fears. "You must do the very thing you think you cannot do." Eleanor Roosevelt

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  22. hmmm. not sure. there's lots of things i don't like but not sure if i have any true phobias.

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  23. I get vertigo looking down from tall heights, but it doesn't stop me from going! Maybe fears are very healthy ways of keeping us from doing dangerous things? I have a real fear of coming face to face with a large predator, but I have faced down a bear and at the time, I wasn't afraid. Afterwards I collapsed for a whole day! I think para-sailing might be fun, but never would I bungee jump. I think my body would suffer permanent whiplash! he he

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  24. Spider and height phobia. Also, Merry Christmas to you too.

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  25. My fear is of heights too, but only at first. I get a weird feeling and then after a while I feel like I could just step off and fly away. My husband was a wreck when we went to the Grand Canyon worrying about me! : )

    I also have a fear of talking before a group, and drowning though I am a good swimmer. I fear being trapped under water!

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  26. The fear of heights has also been something of a challenge for me. I am determined to conquer my fears, thankfully, and am continually progressing. As one who also did not ride roller coasters (etc... for that matter), I'm happy to announce that this summer I made mental progress and after convincing myself that there was nothing to fear I went on two rides that went very high - and LOVED it! :D Check out the link below and just scroll down through the photos (you'll find them). You will appreciate it, I think. Perhaps it will inspire you. OR you may be thankful you don't have as much to conquer as "some" people... :o LOL http://moorememoir.blogspot.com/2012/10/september-blessings.html

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  27. PS. Congratulations on determining to overcome!!!! :D

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  28. I have to admit, that photo does make me very uncomfortable! I have a mild fear of heights and being in enclosed spaces. I don't like public speaking either. I read somewhere that in a survey most people said they fear public speaking more than death. Crazy, right?

    Good luck overcoming your fear of heights! Zip lining does scare me, but I'd love to do it someday :)

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  29. Hi Keith .. well done for determining to overcome your fear .. and give things a go. I'm not that keen on heights now - but I'll go up things ... can't say I'd much like to do your choices ... I've done my fair share of fears in life ...

    Claustrophobia is something I'm definitely not keen on ... I'll handle lifts .. but if full won't get in! Cheers Hilary

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  30. Eek, fear of heights - I can understand that one for sure. For me, it's fear of water - not the drinking of it, but the 'swimming' in it, bleugh. Can't seem to get my head under the water, although I can happily go in hot springs, which are very nice. But swimming, yes. I almost went for lessons this year. Maybe 2013 is the year...

    Peter

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  31. I have vertigo sometimes and dont like airplanes:(

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  32. You are going to laugh, but my full blown phobia is vomit. It totally freaks me out.

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  33. I also had a terrible fear of heights it was crippling actually. I decided to fly to Vancouver another fear I have alone., I had a window seat and looked out the whole time. I was so frightened and thought I was going to die. Four hours later we landed with a hard bump I thought I was going to die again I did not die I was fine. I then realized it was only the fear itself that had been holding me back. I am NOT afraid of heights or flying now. I did not die:) Fear is fear itself. B

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  34. You know, there's this book I read and even a TV series that was based on past life therapy that said every phobia had it's reason hidden in the unconscious mind.
    Apparently, my last post was based on this book and finding the same answers. The one by Brian Weiss.
    The time there's knowledge about the reason of the phobia attained to the conscious mind, the phobia dies out.
    You should give it a thought. Hypnotism serves the key to the unconscious mind.

    You portray each message beautifully, the appended question adds to the excitement.

    Take Care :)

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  35. Good for you for making plans to conquer your fear of heights! I, too, have a certain fear of heights, but my main phobia is about snakes.

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  36. I used to love heights, but seem to have become more apprehensive over time. I tried parasailing a few years ago even though I didn't really want to - I was just so motion sick on the boat that I would have done anything to get off! It was great - I think it might be a good option for you - and kudos to you for wanting to conquer your phobia!

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  37. Over coming a fear is very wise, I've always believed. I have many and have slowly been over coming them. One is heights as well, so I can understand that fear. It is a hard one to over come and you are brave to try such things to conquer it.

    My main phobia is spiders. One I'm not sure I want to over come...

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  38. I also am afraid of heights. I like you plans for parasailing - combining fun with courage.
    I try not to resist my fear because resistance gives it more energy. I took a class where we welcome our fear, embrace it, sit with it a while and then release it. It works for me because it takes the emotional charge out of it.
    I love this photo, what a cool perspective! Thanks for sharing it!!!

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  39. I hate heights too. They send me into a panic. Or maybe it's the fear of falling. Or both? I force myself onto roller coasters and take my kids on big building tours and airplane rides, but that does nothing to conquer the fear. It's still there at the end of the day, even though I was brave enough to face it.

    I hope you have a great time parasailing! If you do it, I can't wait to hear your experience!

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  40. Definitely public speaking! I can't think of anything worse. I do love me some roller coasters though.

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  41. I fear death but it's a hard thing to overcome.

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  42. I don't think I have any phobias. Nothing I can think of, anyway. It's been a long time since I've been on a roller coaster, but it isn't because I have a fear of heights. Once when we were on one, my husband said, "Just think... the company that gave the cheapest bid built this thing!"

    Good luck overcoming your phobia. Parasailing sounds like a fun way to do it.

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  43. Oh yes, heights, spiders and public speaking...I'm not sure they are to the phobia level but the fear is there. I like your plan for conquering--go Keith!

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  44. I fear going underground as down in a mine. That must be claustrophobia but I usually think of as being afraid of small spaces. The fear of going underground must be a little different because small places don't bother me if I'm above
    ground.

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  45. I didn't think that vertigo was one of them until I sw your image! Magnificent!

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  46. Very true! There’s something fear perhaps however strong or brave we are. I scare for insects! Lol

    Hope u drive away the fear of heights. All the best :)
    Happy New Year

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  47. I have several fears, one of them being heights. It's something I didn't used to be afraid of, but has "magically" developed. There are certain places, though, no matter how high up, that I am fine. It's all a matter of whether or not I feel safe. I suppose that's why we have such fears--that there is something that tears apart our feelings of comfort and safety. Spiders, honestly, is my biggest one. I found one in my bathroom this morning. It was crawling over my lotion bottle--and I had almost touched it. It took several minutes for me to work up the nerve to kill it.

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  48. thanks for the thoughts on my cat, man....hope your holidays are continuing to go well...

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  49. Parasailing sounds more peaceful than the other two options. Good for you! I'm afraid of roaches, tight spaces, driving over bridges in the rain, and heights. I'm sure there are more, but those are the ones I thought of first.

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  50. i always appreciate when you stop by with a comment. just your blog handle gives me hope. :)

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  51. I get vertigo too. I think rock climbing is a bad way to try to overcome vertigo because there are too many chances of freezing on the rock face (or at least that's my experience). I've never gone to the extremes of parachuting or similar but I don't let vertigo stop me from climbing the hills i want to climb or walking across high bridges with lovely views....

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  52. I'm apprehensive when I relate with alcoholics and fear sociopaths. Perfectionists I avoid. Nothing else worries me. I love public speaking, something I do often.

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  53. Spiders for sure. Makes my skin crawlllll!

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  54. Fear of heights, that's it! Looking down either from higher floors or atop a building will trigger it off. My knees will just feel weak. A sudden surge of some feelings will rise upwards. I'll overcome it by not looking down but still it's not the best solution! Nicely Keith!

    Hank

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  55. Ughhh! Heights terrify me. Went to see The Hobbit yesterday. Thought to myself, "I am soooo glad we are not watching this in 3D!"

    I'm pretty cool with spiders though, very thankful for the number of bugs they consume. And, I'm totally cool with public speaking, love it actually:)

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  56. i;ve done all three, but still have my fear of heights.

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  57. May I suggest a Balloon ride. I went up last summer. We rose to 1,700 metres and I didn't have the slightest feeling of being so high up; even though one was well aware of being so. It could calm your fears, but I make no promises!

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  58. Come visit NYC, Keith, and go to the top of the Empire State Building. I've done it, and the view is magnificent. Happy New Year :)

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  59. I'm scared of thousand leggers (a.k.a. centipedes). I can handle almost any other bug, spider, even roaches ... but those things make me hyperventilate. Perhaps something from a past life, haha.

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  60. one time in high school i wrote an article for the newspaper, i wasn't on the newspaper crew, i just did it for fun. i wrote about phobias. i said if i HAD one it would be something about dealing with everyone doing something and me being out of the loop. not sure what that would be. new follower, hi!!

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  61. So true! Mine is spiders. I'm so typical. I own a snake yet fear spiders. Go figure!

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  62. Something that has been on my mind a lot too, lately. Conquer the fears that stop us living life to the full. I really want to go down into a cave...have had such a fear of them for a long time. This is the year! :)

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  63. important point .. some even describe success as progressive conquer of your fears.

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  64. I also think it is important to conquer your fears. One of my phobias is heights, like your picture. I went sky-diving a few years ago and loved it. I realize my fear is not being strapped in to something high up. I love roller coasters, but freak out on cliffs. Facing my fear made me realize that I can enjoy heights sometimes :).

    Great blog, I love how you end your posts with a question.

    Happy New Year,
    Mariamma

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  65. I have a phobia of being sick to my stomach or having a stomach ache! It's a terrible phobia to have since it is such a common ailment! I like to laugh at myself about it until it occurs! :)

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  66. I totally commend you for doing something to laugh in the face of the phobia! I have this same phobia, which I didn't realize until a Yankees game put me 2nd to last row to the ceiling. I hugged the railing all the way down to go to the restroom. I delayed going down at all because it was frightening! I've never been on a roller coaster and I'm not feeling at all bad for it. I have dreams that I am on planes that I never wanted to ride. LOL....deepseated much?

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  67. Good luck with this!

    I was never afraid of heights as a kid... but as I've grown older I've started getting a bit nervous about being perched precariously high off the ground, or seeing someone else in the same situation. It's very frustrating!

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  68. Good luck! I think parasailing will be a great choice. It's something that I have always wanted to do!

    I have a fear of ladders... the regular ones and step ladders. I'm not sure why, they just seem rickety to me. I also don't like walking under them, but not for superstitious reasons. They just look like they could collapse at any moment!

    I also have a fear of bees, hornets and wasps because I was stung a lot as a child. I had a professor that stopped class to ask if I was allergic once because he noticed that I was very aware of a bee that entered the classroom.

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  69. That is truly inspiring. You can do it!!

    I have a serious fainting fear of public speaking :( To this day, I am still too terrified to face it.

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  70. spiders and mice. Totally creep me out!

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  71. Love this post! I have several phobias/fears- public speaking, also going places by myself/eating alone, overcrowded rooms. I would love to work on my fears and overcome them this year. I would think that once we face our fears, an entire new world of possiblities open up for us :D

    http://mylifebeingrenewed.blogspot.com/

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  72. Hey Keith I love that picture from the Eiffel tower...I have one similar but it is looking down to the Seine River back in 84.

    My phobias? Death (sometimes), Height, survival in the world alone.

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  74. I'm very afraid of airplanes! So much so that I waited ten years in between flights to places that I love! In July my boyfriend that I thought I was surely going to spend the rest of my life with ended things and I was absolutely grief stricken. My friend who lives in New York was flying to Atlanta to take me on a date and get me out of my head. He couldn't get a flight in and offered to fly me to New York...I was clearly so scared but I was so miserable that I said what the hell and hoped on the plane at 6am the next morning. I was so proud of myself. I'm equally sure you'll feel the same way!! :) It was one of the best things I'd done for myself in a long, long time! I was actually just looking for flights this morning. It's funny how life presents us with things like that!

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  75. I definitely don't have a fear of heights. I love rock climbing, hanging off of tall edificies, ladders, roofs, or anything else up high. The fear I remember from a child is a fear of the dark. Its not a phobia by any means as I love camping in the back woods. That being said, if I let my mind wander while in complete darkness (usually outside as inside I am perfectly fine) I sometimes get a little uncomfortable). Aside from that tingly feeling of discomfort, which I attribute to heightened senses preparing myself for some onslaught in the dark, I can't pinpoint any real tangible fears or phobias. I do commend you for tackling your fear of heights. I have many friends and family who absolutely dread heights (which makes me wonder why I love them so much) and I have experienced first hand through them how debilitating it can be.

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