Thursday, January 31, 2013

Soul Mates...


“A soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks” ~Richard Bach
From a very young age I have been fascinated by, and been drawn to, the idea of soul mates. Of two souls being destined to become entwined. When I was in junior high, we read Romeo and Juliet in my Literature class. This was my first introduction to the concept of soul mates. After spending some time studying the written story, we then watched the movie (1968 version – the best in my humble opinion). I was captivated by the idea of a connection and love that powerful. Who wouldn’t be? From that moment onward, I became a very strong believer in soul mates.
The term soul mate means different things to different people. Many an author and poet have written of the unexplainable connection that certain people have to one another. Conversely, many a psychologist and scientist have dismissed the idea altogether. It seems as if your view of the existence of soul mates is entirely dependent on which prism you view things through. There’s nothing wrong with either prism…it’s just that certain prisms tend to put little stock in things that they deem “unexplainable”.
I also believe that soul mates come in all forms, not just the romantic type (although that’s what we normally think of when we think of soul mates). A soul mate can be the love of your life, or a soul mate could just as easily be your best friend. No matter what form a soul mate relationship takes, you know deep inside that it’s eternal and that your life, from that moment forward, will never be the same.
Do you believe in soul mates?

156 comments:

  1. I don't use the term soul mate, but I do believe God has one person picked out for each of us, that one person who will help us be the best we can be.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I agree. I believe that God has someone for us all as well. It's hard, sometimes, to think of soul mates because it is such a concrete term. I've had some friends say that the term even scares them almost.

      Delete
  2. I'm not sure what "soul mate" means. There are different views as to what a soul is. I think it's more of a romantic concept than a reality. So, yes, I believe in them, just don't know what they are or how to explain them. Have I ever had a soul mate? Possibly. It's hard to distinguish from a best friend.

    ReplyDelete
  3. Hhhhhmmmm, I love the romantic idea of a soul mate, but I don't know if that translates into reality. I've been happily married for 26 years but I wouldn't call my husband my soul mate, rather my partner in life.

    ReplyDelete
  4. I believe in it, that there is one person out there for us all. But so many people are content to settle with the first person that blinks an eyelash towards them, they are never truly found, except by a few. But there are a million people out there you can be happy with, you just have to decide whether it's number 999,992, 678 or 1, which would = soulmate. At least that is my take on it.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Yes, I agree with Pat Hatt! I believe in soul mates and even wrote a book on it. My husband came to me in the most unexpected way and there's no possible way to not believe that there was something divine at work in the way we met. He's from the east, I'm from the west...I also believe that to meet your soul mate, one has to believe that this is possible.

      Delete
  5. i do...and i believe as well that if does not have to be romantic...it can be a dear friend...but i am a hopeful romantic as well, so i believe in love at first sight as well, considering it happened to my wife and i...

    ReplyDelete
  6. I've heard people refer to someone as their soul mate but I haven't found mine yet.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Can a cat be a soul mate...if so...maybe I did have one for a while.

      Delete
  7. The term is taken more romantically than it should be. It can be a best friend or a relative, or someone you have a deep connection. And oftentimes the person you are with is out of choice, not because you have "found" your soul mate.

    ReplyDelete
  8. For me, my soul mate is my best friend and future husband. It's the best feeling that any person can ever have. =D

    ReplyDelete
  9. What is the basis, in Literature, of this idea of Soul Mates? Or of the idea of one specific person, completing another specific person? Sort of "2 halfs" bouncing around, trying to bump into their "other half."

    It's old. Very old. Can't remember the name of it. Only remember the first time I saw it used, in another form of fiction.......

    Yes, I suppose I could do a Search, couldn't I? -grin-

    ReplyDelete
  10. Well, I really believe in sole mates! That is, we work it, pound the pavement together, help and aid, carry and be carried, develop relationships based on obligation, responsibility, work ethic and commitment. When one can get this with romance that is certainly a plus but it is still hard work to maintain it. That doesn't mean it is bad, good things in life are never easy and nothing is "free".

    ReplyDelete
  11. I'm not sure. Maybe I used to a long time ago, but I think age and life circumstances have made me cynical. It's a lovely idea, though.

    I like Alex's comment.

    ReplyDelete
  12. no I don't believe in soul mates, it would be a big bummer if you live in Greenland and your soul mate is in Australia - ok maybe I am thinking to hard about this.

    ReplyDelete
  13. I have a friend that I met abroad with whom I instantly hit it off. We were so comfortable together and felt like sisters. We live in different parts of the world now and since then I have not had a friend like that, besides my husband. I think there are people out there who are soul mates because they do connect with us on a different level :)

    ReplyDelete
  14. Yes I do and I do believe it is not always the romantic kind. It is wonderful when you can find one in each area romantic and friendship. B

    ReplyDelete
  15. I question whether I have a soul to begin with, let alone a mate for that bit of metaphysical dubiousness. Be that as it may, I have also found myself somewhat tangled and otherwise twisted up with one or two special individuals over the years and lifetimes that my existence would be lacking without.

    ReplyDelete
  16. I believe in soul mates in the last point you made about them -- they don't have to be (and usually aren't) romantic. Though, to be honest, I really don't think Romeo & Juliet is a good example. I never understood why people like that play so much, hahah. Tybault and Mercutio were the only interesting characters, but anyway --

    I'll have to go back to an old episode of a podcast I listen to called the Modern Witch. One of the episodes, they briefly discuss soul mates and I loved what they said; they were taking a really Greek/Platonic approach to the topic. I want to dictate it when I find that again.

    ReplyDelete
  17. Soul mates are there ... they are meant to guide and help us throughout our lives with love and care ... the tough part is finding them :-)

    ReplyDelete
  18. I just found your blog!! Jackie at 'Expressions Needed" profiled you as her blog of the week and I can see why. Reading your posts, I feel as though you may be an old soul who was transported to this time to remind us of all the beautiful things in life. The world needs more people like you roaming the earth.

    Also, I am from KY too! I live in Louisville. Small world :)

    Regarding your post. YES I believe in soul mates!! I think that we all have a soul mate. Sometimes we meet them at 15, sometimes at 65. But we DO meet them.

    Great blog and I have now subscribed via email :)

    ReplyDelete
  19. I have a friend and we call each other soul mates all the time ;) when little things we say are exactly the same, or it felt like we read each others minds. Love it!

    ReplyDelete
  20. I like the idea of a soul mate, so I hope there is that one special person out there for all of us. With that being said I think that the majority of people don't end up with their soul mate which makes the whole idea of romantic soul mates seem almost impossible. On the other hand I think a lot of people have best friends who are practically their sole mates, those people are friends for life which in my opinion is just as significant as romantic soul mates.

    ReplyDelete
  21. I believe more in "kindred spirits" -- people with whom we connect on a deep level. I think that can be in love relationships and in friendships. My husband is my best "kindred spirit." I feel connected to him like I've never been connected to anyone else. And that connection has developed and deepened over time. It's not the same today as when we first met, and I wouldn't want it to be the same.

    ReplyDelete
  22. Adding my 15 cents... I really like the 1972 Romeo and Juliet, as well as the one with Leo D in it. The modern twist on an old classic - plus the cast. Er, back to the topic...

    Yes, in both forms. I have my best friend - she's my hetero-life mate, my everything. As far as the romantic side of soul mates, my Hun doesn't believe in them so he doesn't get to be my soul mate.

    ReplyDelete
  23. I believe in souls, karma, reincarnation and soul families. As far as one soul mate, I believe it would take countless incarnations for 2 people to ever achieve that kind of perfect love that poets write and dream about.
    For instance, Jeannete MacDonald and Nelson Eddy were supposed to be soul mates. Obstacles galore stood in their way and they ended up being married to other people. That hot, cold, zinging feeling is often only lust. I think my friend Marilyn and I have a deep soul connection. We've been best friends for over 50 years and never had a bad feeling between us. We've been regressed and had so many lives together.... sometimes as men, sometimes as women. This time, just true friendship. I don't really know. Do you think this indicates a soulmate?

    ReplyDelete
  24. Soul mate is a term which many people dream about.
    I, personally, believe in love.
    No one is perfect, yet as long as we all accept each other's differences, communication and love exists.

    However, there may be people in our lives to whom we feel
    connected as brothers or sisters :)

    Great post !

    http://pt-en-life.blogspot.com/

    ReplyDelete
  25. I definitely do. I am blessed to be married to mine. For a very long time! I also have a couple of close female friends who will be friends for life.

    Have a great day...

    ReplyDelete
  26. i have certainly had connections with souls - friends - so deep it is unexplainable.

    ReplyDelete
  27. YES!! And my definition, the way I view it, is exactly as your wrote it :)

    ReplyDelete
  28. I can't believe you wrote this today. It hit me like a mallet.

    ReplyDelete
  29. No, I don’t believe in soul exists! But the way u conveyed mates, fascinates me. I believe its pure love and harmony connects each other.

    Nice post :)

    ReplyDelete
  30. I think we can all be enthralled with the idea of a soulmate, romantic or otherwise. I used to believe in these kinds of things, not so much anymore. The world and life have hardened me a bit and i no longer think about things like this, although here lately I've been wondering if i should. Some things are to remain unexplainable, and they can "be" just as well as gravity, i really do think.

    ReplyDelete
  31. I do believe in that special connection or bond between souls, though it is quite difficult to articulate. Some things defy words and maybe that's how it should be.

    ReplyDelete
  32. I am a believer in soul mates. Always felt that from when I was young. Even though I was so shy as a child, I always had a deep friendship with someone, that changed me. In fact, all of my relationships wake me up at some level, and help me to be more authentic.

    Some things are just too unexplainable, using our current language, and concepts. Like, how we can automatically like or dislike someone, even at first glance. I read once that people incarnate on Earth in soul groups or soul families, so to speak, and that they are always going to meet at some point, even if it is just the ''stranger'' fixing your car, when it has broken down on the side of the road. Funny as I have met a lot of friends etc, in funny, very fated ways, it seems. Very deep. And they are the ones that have lasted for me.

    It seems that there are particular people in life that we are destined to meet in some way, for a long time or a short time. They help us to grow in love, and to become more ourselves, to see our true beauty in this existence. I feel very lucky in my life for sure.

    Love the picture, quote, and article. :)

    ReplyDelete
  33. I truly wish that the idea of a consumate soul mate could be a reality, but the concept is extremely rare - almost to the point of non-existence. Perhaps I've had too many bitter experiences, or perhaps I'm just too independent.
    I agree with you that the 1968 film version of "Romeo & Juliet" is the best.

    ReplyDelete
  34. I believe in soul mates, and I think I know at least one person who has found theirs, but I'm not sure how well what I think fits in to what other people think. I think that not every soulmate is a lover, and that sometimes your best friend could be your soulmate.

    ReplyDelete
  35. Like someone else just commented: I believe in kindred spirits. I don't really believe in soulmates. Also, I'm not convinced that Romeo and Juliet were great examples of this. I mean, they were under 17 and they saw each other once and were in love. I don't think that's very realistic.

    ReplyDelete
  36. I believe in soul mates, but not necessarily the notion that there is one person out there that you're meant to be with. I'm much more practical, and think we all have a hand in finding our own soul mate(s) and keeping the connection alive.

    ReplyDelete
  37. I loved your definition of soul mate-- including best friends. I wholeheartedly believe in this concept. It explains so many relationships that we have in our levels and at the differing levels they occur it. It also satisfies certain questions or longings in our lives-- it gives life depth and context in my opinion.

    I loved this entry!

    ReplyDelete
  38. I believe in soul mates, but not in the romanticized Hollywood version of them. Your description that it could be any type of relationship makes sense. My husband is my soul mate, but not in love at first sight type of way. :)

    ReplyDelete
  39. Heck yes i do! But I prefer the term "kindred spirits", only because of Anne Of Green Gables, its pretty much the same thing :D

    ReplyDelete
  40. I am not a believer in "soul-mates"

    This is weird for me to say as I grew up waiting for my soul mate to find me and vice-versa. And there lies the reason I no longer believe in the term/concept. I think if you leave it up to the fates you are not taking responsibility for the love that occurs.

    Love is a struggle. A choice. I believe that you can find someone who suits you. Someone who makes you better. Someone who lights you up when they are near and when you find those qualities you work really hard to CHOOSE to love them.

    I do believe in forever and the lovliness that is eternal friendship/love, but I don't want to chalk it all up to fate. In that, you can make excuses and say "Oh, you aren't my soul-mate that's why it didn't work" In my opinion it doesn't work if you don't choose the actions that come with loving someone. And that's fine...but don't blame the fates.

    ReplyDelete
  41. Here's a piece of my opinion on this :
    If we consider the concept of "soul mate" as someone that satisfies us on many levels, someone we feel we want to share everything with, and come back to endlessly, then it can't be analyzed, and it's not random, to me it's not unexplainable, or magical, or whatever, but first it's important to notice that most of actual human relationships are corrupted by the egoic self, the judgments, the concepts, with which the mind put the world and people in boxes, so firstly to have a pure relationship and so be able to find a "soul mate" we have to be able to love, without judgments, without our mind, that is accepting what is, the nature, the people, the situations, around us, accepting it without being hurt by it, that's knowing how to truly love, and that's the first point, but then there are other factors that have to be taken in consideration, because you can be open to love, encountering someone without labelling him/her, and still recognize that this person won't be able to transcend your emotions, to vibrate on the same level as you are, and that's fine, there's a lot of different vibrations in people down there, and all have a right to be, but to find someone that fits yours you have to consider some other things like : values, tastes, hobbies, opinions, preferences, so some things to share on the form level, some things that put the both of you on the same path, the same mind direction, but at the basis without judgements, and without expectations; i'm probably not exhaustive on that analysis but that's a part of what i think. And many appologies for that long text but i can't answer questions without bringing up an attempt at a full analysis, as long as i have things to say i prefer to reply sincerely, and i hope it doesn't bother you if i take the opportunity of your questions to publish my thoughts on my blog or it would be lost here amongst the many comments.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I meant to say "it can be analyzed", sorry!

      Delete
    2. oh and yeah, it's useless to search for perfection, the perfect match on every level, every detail, that we think makes who we are, after the few pre-mentioned steps loving then becomes mostly a choice, a belief.

      Delete
  42. I really enjoy this post and the many thoughtful comments. Your use of "entwined" is beautiful and I share your opinion of the 1968 Romeo & Juliet.
    I believe the definition of soul mate differs from person to person and can be emotionally charged. For me a soul mate is someone we make a powerful connection with and we can learn deep lessons about ourself with. I believe that we have many soul mates on our journey here; not just one and that we chose them whether we are aware of or not.
    Thank you Keith.

    ReplyDelete
  43. I definitely believe we all have a soul mate. I had mine for 50 years.

    ReplyDelete
  44. Hmmm, the romantic in me wants to believe in the magic of soul mates, but the logical side of me just doesn't. I've been with my husband for 16 years. We have a bond that is beautiful and unbreakable. Now, had I not met my husband, or should he pass before I do, I do believe I could have had or have this kind of connection with another. The same with my best friend. I think there are many people on this earth that we share similar beliefs, interests and ideas with that could be considered "soul mates". I am just not one that believes that the people in my life were destined to be there. I made the choice to welcome them into my world. I do not believe a force beyond my control put them there because of some destined fate.

    ReplyDelete
  45. I do believe in soul mates! My husband is definitely mine. I feel like we were made for each other and we have such a deep bond.

    I've also had a chicken soul mate! It might sound strange, but I had such a deep connection with one of my chickens named Aster. She would always look up into my eyes when I talked to her, and always wanted to be on my lap. She passed away last summer and it was one of the hardest days of my life!

    ReplyDelete
  46. Yes, I do and I'm married to mine. 41 years yesterday. : )

    I also have a girlfriend who I've known my whole life. We have always connected and no matter where we go or what we do we are always there for each other. I believe she is another soul mate of mine.

    ReplyDelete
  47. I've been sitting here thinking about your question and have come to this conclusion: I don't know if there is such a thing as a "soul mate," but if people believe they have found theirs and are happy - so be it :)

    ReplyDelete
  48. Nope. The whole idea of soulmates is laughable, to me. But then again, that's probably why I'm single.

    ReplyDelete
  49. Keith,

    I most certainly believe in soulmates...A guardian angel, a spirit, or a human being with a special connection.
    I have great faith in the directions I have taken in my life, in tandum with a guiding hand:)
    Lovely thoughts to consider Keith...
    Best Wishes,
    Eileen:)

    ReplyDelete
  50. I like the idea of soulmates. It's promising and certainly appeals to the romatic in many. However, I think that true love takes work. Whether soulmates are real or not, there will always be challenges to overcome with that person and bumps along the way to smooth out.

    ReplyDelete
  51. I do. I think there are more than one to. If my husband passes, there is someone else out there for me.

    ReplyDelete
  52. Absolutely.....I have been lucky in my life...I have had both a lover and a friend which have been and are my soul mate..
    I also think a soul mate can be an animal...... Does that sound too wacky?

    ReplyDelete
  53. this is an absolutely beautiful post. you Really bring about the most inspiring ideas!
    I never thought I would, but I definitely believe in soul mates. I think sometimes you don't realize someone is your soul mate until later in life perhaps when you realize the vastness of the world, and of all the millions if people in the universe...something or someone gave you the blessing and the chance to meet that special ONE. how magical. love is the closest thing we have to magic! embrace it. have a lovely day!!

    ReplyDelete
  54. I've never much liked the phrase 'soul mate' much but I do believe in those that come into our lives that were totally meant to be there.

    ReplyDelete
  55. I guess in some terms I could label my hubby as a soul mate but it's probably fairer to say that we've grown to know each other really well........I'm not totally convinced about the soul mate stuff, but I am amused at Alissa's comment!

    ReplyDelete
  56. Although Romeo and Juliet knew each other only briefly, I agree that the poetry of this play begins to describe what a soul mate can be. I think we may all understand the idea of soul mate a little differently - but I would also look to shakespeare - and poetry - to see how it can best be described.

    ReplyDelete
  57. I'm not sure about the soul mates thing (or the soul thing, for that matter). I think the idea of soul mates is one of the reasons people are so dissatisfied in relationships. I think some people have this idea that once they find 'THE ONE', a relationship is easy. Everything is perfect. But that's not the way real life works. Any relationship, be it marriage or friendship, takes effort, takes a constant commitment to be supportive of one another. I like to think that my husband and I are together because we choose to be, not because we're meant to be. I realize it's a silly distinction, but I guess it goes back to my idea that I am the master of my own fate. I choose to love.

    ReplyDelete
  58. hmm...I am torn on that one. I think having a deep connection, or experiencing love at first sight, or being kindred spirits or having a depth of understanding or another rewarding type of relationship are possible of course. So I guess, maybe my answer is a question, what really qualifies a person to be a soul mate? Any or all of the above? Is it just how we feel about someone and they about us? I do know I love my mate with all my soul though. :-)

    ReplyDelete
  59. I don't think it is fair to say that the prism of science has 'dismissed altogether' the concept of soul mates as it is unexplainable. The whole driving force of science is to attempt to explain phenomena that initially seems unexplainable.

    ReplyDelete
  60. I absolutely believe in soul mates! I've been with mine for over 20 years. :)

    ReplyDelete
  61. I don't know. I think people can be really well matched, but I also think most relationships take work, and the notion of a soul mate might make it seem like there is no work involved in the relationship.

    ReplyDelete
  62. Your post made me think of this from Elizabeth Gilbert in Eat Pray Love:

    "People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

    A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.

    A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master...”

    ReplyDelete
  63. I absolutely believe in soul mates. There has to be something to it. How else to explain the attraction you feel for one person and not another (I think it goes way beyond looks)? For instance, I haven't seen this one person in over 30 years. And yet....

    ReplyDelete
  64. I love this. And I totally believe in soul mates! I believe you can have more then 1 and like you said in friendship form as well. I know my first love was definitely my first soul mate and if I hadn't have ever been with him I never would have known how to love at this point with my second soul mate! I've had a ton of friend soul mates too! And a some I've met through blogging. I love your posts.

    ReplyDelete
  65. I'm a romantic but also have a practical side. Relationships take work. It may be magic in the beginning but love takes commitment to thrive and grow. I believe my husband is my soul mate--it may have been fate that brought us together, but it's a conscious choice every day to stay together. :)

    ReplyDelete
  66. As somebody said up there, I believe in kindred spirits. In high school I remember reading The Tunnel By Ernesto Sabato and I thought the idea of one soul mate for each person was real, but then I never found any signs of this in reality. Relationships are complex. Kindred spiritis would be a better way of describing it. We can make meaningful connections and meet kindred spirits (this is truly special and not easy to encounter either), but I find it difficult to believe in the soul mate idea.

    ReplyDelete
  67. Absolutely. I have one friend that has been my best friend for almost 50 years. We see each other once in awhile (we live in different states) and call every so often, but the thread gets picked up again as if it had just been yesterday that we talked. There's never the smallest hesitation.
    And my husband and I? I've always felt that he was the missing piece to my puzzle. He fit into my life soooo seamlessly. I really feel as if we were destined to be together, but we both had a lot to learn first - hence, the first marriages. I don't know if we would have appreciated each other as much if we'd met when we were younger. But now? Perfection.

    ReplyDelete
  68. I definitely believe in soul mates, and all kinds of soul mates at that. People generally think of only the romantic kind of soul mates, but as you mentioned, I believe there are many many different kinds of soul mates.

    ReplyDelete
  69. Yes, I do believe in soul mates. I think it's a wonderful way to journey through life, with one you are so joined to on so many levels.

    ReplyDelete
  70. I don't necessarily believe there's one person out there for us but I do think that the people in our lives are there for a reason. Every single person brings something to us that we need, good and bad. Have you heard of the Chinese concept of yuanfen? The idea is essentially that all of our relationships are predetermined, from our postman to our spouse. The odds of us meeting any one person in the world are so slim that you are said to have 'relationship destiny' with those you come in contact with.

    ReplyDelete
  71. Richard Bach is a favorite author of mine, and my husband and I really enjoyed the 1968 version of Romeo and Juliet!

    ReplyDelete
  72. I don't know if I consciously believe in a soul mate, but from a young age I always believed there was someone out in the word for me.

    ReplyDelete
  73. My husband and I are definitely soul mates. We were engaged four months after we met and have been married almost 25 years. But it would take entire post to tell how I know we are soul mates. :)

    ReplyDelete
  74. I've been married to my wife for almost 39 years and it seems like only a moment. She hasn't cut my head off with a paring knife and left me twitchin' in the kitchen yet. I think that's a good sign she might be a soulmate :)

    ReplyDelete
  75. I'm not sure how I feel about the idea of soul mates. I have always been and will forever be a romantic. It is in my nature to always hope for the best, so a part of me is always intrigued by the idea of soul mates and love at first sight. Over time, I've also learned to be a realist. I don't believe there is one person for every person. Some people spend their whole lives without a great love or a great friend, and some people have many of one or the other, or both. I know with certainty that each and every person who has come into my life has never left it the same as when they came in, and I believe that is the beautiful thing about the human experience: I think we're all soul mates. We are eternally changed by every moment of the world. Now THAT'S romance.

    ReplyDelete
  76. I most certainly do...and am married to mine!

    ReplyDelete
  77. Definitely! I also agree that we have different kinds of soul mates. In fact, I have three! My childhood friend who I also consider a sister. My creative friend, a guy who's also a writer and a romantic like me. And, my husband, of course. It was love at first sight. A timely post since we're in the month of friendship and love. ;)
    Cheers!
    P.S. thank you for stopping by my blog.

    ReplyDelete
  78. Although I am not sure how I feel about soul mates, I do think that some people naturally get along with their opposites, in a way. What often happens with two people who are too much alike is that they often end up butting heads. That has been my view, anyway. Great post.

    ReplyDelete
  79. I suspect my true relatives are scattered throughout the universe and often wish they numbered among my immediate kin.

    ReplyDelete
  80. This is something I've always wanted to find and believed existed. A person who will understand another and accept them, quirks and all.

    ReplyDelete
  81. I believe in soul mates...that someone who is the other half of you...and they are there...sometimes you can feel them...there's this weird throbbing in your heart...I feel that sometimes...and the loneliness vanishes...

    ReplyDelete
  82. I don't think I believe in soul mates. My disbelief in fate may put that in perspective, but I am a lover of love. I believe that there are many people that we can be in love with and soul mates (romantically) usually limit the ending love to one person. But love is not consistent. Eternal love is something that we simply cannot accomplish. But love, love is lovely. Being in love. Being out. It is the only universal thing of the world along with death.

    ReplyDelete
  83. the term soulmates n various stories n theories revolving around them....have also fascinated me to a great extent...since i was a teenager...i never gave way fr a casual relation cz i was too firm abt finding my soulmate n luckily i found one...life becms a fairytale once u r with ur soulmate or love..but then what is life without compromise n complications...hence what is more imp is abt looking fr the right way to manage your relation rather than believng in a fairytale....soylmate is the one who understands us completely...hence the basic term is ' Understanding'....

    ReplyDelete
  84. I am fascinated by your definition of a soul mate because it puts a different spin on it. If we're talking about the definition of soul mates being two people destined to be romantically linked, then no. I believe that there are people who could be a good match and that a couple just finds one of those people and makes a commitment to be together. But even though I don't believe in soul mates, I love stories about them. Your definition of soul mates is intriguing, though.

    And I agree that the old version of Romeo and Juliet is the best adaptation!

    ReplyDelete
  85. (I also love the Richard Bach thing going on. Love him.)

    ReplyDelete
  86. They are out there somewhere - but sometimes you have to travel half way around the world to find them!

    I can see that Kentucky would not be a rich hunting ground for Lighthouses!

    Stewart M - Melbourne

    ReplyDelete
  87. I absolutely believe in soulmates. Romeo and Juliet is one of my favourite movies too. Thanks for visiting my blog.

    ReplyDelete
  88. nice article. I've always and continue to believe in the idea of soul mates. I like how you mention that they can come in various forms, I agree. And as far as scientists, psychologists etc.. there are a lot of things in this world that they dismiss, many very worthwhile topics to believe in. Excellent discussion. Thanks

    ReplyDelete
  89. Love this question! For me, finding a soul mate is a combination of compatability and choice. You have a natural affinity together... and then you invest time and love in solidfying it into something permanent and beautiful.

    ReplyDelete
  90. Most interesting. For me'soul mate' is shorthand for affinity and can be experienced at many levels and with different species.

    ReplyDelete
  91. Hi Keith .. I'd love to have a soul mate - not having one .. I take my pick when in need - thankfully I'm fairly self-sufficient .. but I do love seeing friends and couples who are so obviously soul mates - makes me feel life is good ..

    Cheers Hilary

    ReplyDelete
  92. I do,we are all soul mates, but we forget and try to love only one person, which in the end doesn't work 'cause you can't make one person you reason for happiness, two happy soul can meet and become soul mates and still knowwe are all soul mates :)

    ReplyDelete
  93. Richard Bach's key fits my lock. Interesting post.

    ReplyDelete
  94. I think that when one is in love and the love is shared one often believes in soul mates! Or when one has a good friendship and the friendship is shared, the soulmate word is tossed around. If / when these relationships end, the people become once again cynical of the word 'soulmate.' I like your article and the ensuing discussion!

    ReplyDelete
  95. Yes!!! I agree, you can have several soul mates and they come in more than just the form of a romantic partner. I've had 2 lovers I view as soul mates, my very first and my current (there is a 20 year span between them). I have a best friend of 30 years and my sweet dog that I had from a 3 month old pup to the age of 12 who is still very much a part of me (cheesy, I know but it is what it is). :)

    I have a feeling that you and I could talk for hours. :D

    ReplyDelete
  96. I totally do! But the man doesn't which is quite ironic. The hardest part I have with Romeo &Juliet is that she was 13....but then again my husband and I were 11 when we came into each others lives. Ps that pic looks like Katniss and Gale from the Hunger Games....

    ReplyDelete
  97. yes i believe in soul mates both in friends and romantically. you can have more than one and they appear from time to time :) xxx

    ReplyDelete
  98. ps thank you for visiting my blog and commenting on my posts xx

    ReplyDelete
  99. I absolutely believe in soul mates and I believe one you've met your soul mate you can overcome anything together.

    ReplyDelete
  100. I do believe in soulmates, that there are people that come into your life for a reason and will leave a lasting impact.

    ReplyDelete
  101. awww, beautiful quote!
    and sentiment!
    so glad to have the internet since i & my soulmate friends always move away!
    guess i should look at it as a chance to meet more!

    ReplyDelete
  102. Wonderful post! For some people a soulmate could be found in nature or perhaps a pet, as well. Life is short, the important thing is to find joy wherever you can :)

    ReplyDelete
  103. Absolutely! I have several soul mates- women that I have known from childhood and my sweetie pie Russell. He and I
    think differently which can make for many interesting conversations, but we also know what the other is thinking before a word is spoken. He's my best pal and I am so lucky!

    ReplyDelete
  104. I believe in them so much! No way someone can move across country and back and then leave the country and then back and then somehow go to the same bar they never go and meet someone they accidentally saw without their being such a thing as soulmates! =)

    ReplyDelete
  105. i really like the idea of soul mates, but i don't think i actually believe they exist! x

    ReplyDelete
  106. I do believe in soul mates, but I think we have more than one. Since I believe in reincarnation, I think there are souls we are linked with that we have had a connection with in previous lives. In some lives we end up with one person, in other lives, we wind up with others - or not at all (related to karma). I could go on and on, LOL .. but I will just say, yes. I believe.
    Nice post!

    ReplyDelete
  107. I love your idea that soul mates can be friends, not just romantic partners. It's amazing how there are just some people we are drawn to and we don't even know why. Lovely.

    ReplyDelete
  108. Destined to be entwined? God has one person selected? It's eternal? I admit to being pretty skeptical about those ideas. On the other hand, it's undeniable that some people seem to have chemistry that works out perfectly with one another. If the term "soul mate" can recognize that perfect fit, without assuming that it was meant to be, then I can embrace it -- passionately!

    ReplyDelete
  109. I do so love the concept of Soul Mates.
    Not sure have ever met any of mine yet though.
    Maybe I will someday...if I'm very lucky!!

    ReplyDelete
  110. Most of us are fortunate enough to feel a kind of "cosmic click" with at least one other person in our live. You know, on the same wavelength. You "get each other" and have shared so many experiences, you can communicate in verbal shorthand. You can laugh at the same jokes... without having to spell out the punch line. Is that a soul mate? I dunno. Maybe. Whatever it is, it's glorious.

    As for there being only one romantic soul mate in the world who's destined to be our life partner, I don't buy that. I've been married for more than 43 years, and we've both worked hard to make our marriage work, but I think if any two reasonable, loving people are willing to work at it, they can be happy life partners.

    ReplyDelete
  111. I do believe in soul mates, but I just haven't found mine yet :(

    ReplyDelete
  112. I don't believe in soul mates. I do believe in two people having a deep love and admiration for one another as well as having many things in common.

    ReplyDelete
  113. I do! I think you can have more than one too! Happy Weekend!

    ReplyDelete
  114. It's interesting how there's a natural chemistry with some people while others are uncomfortable to be around.

    http://joycelansky.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  115. I definitely think there is a connectedness and a kindred spirit forming the likely soul mate. I also believe you can have more than one, in different aspects of your life, at different times. Another post to ponder, Keith!

    ReplyDelete
  116. interesting post!!! i somehow believe in soulmates. i also remembered Serendipity... :-)


    ..trek..

    ReplyDelete
  117. I do - I have believed in it all my life, and finally found mine... it's true what all the poets say :-)

    ReplyDelete
  118. Yes and no - Anne of Green Gables has a similar term "kindred spirits" and it's always fit a bit more nicely to me then 'soul mate.' I think I do like kindred spirit because it refers to any person - not just a lover.

    ReplyDelete
  119. I strongly believe in the existence of soul-mates, although I'm yet to experience it. Man/woman, night/day, matter-anti-matter, the universe revolves around opposites that balance each other out perfectly. I hope to find her someday...

    ReplyDelete
  120. I'm more on the "kindred spirits" side too. Of course with platonic friendships, but even in the early stages of a developing relationship. The idea of soul mates is lovely but in my opinion it's a bit grandiose and can set people up for unreasonable expectations and disappointments. When you meet a new person, and you hold them to that kind of standard, that you are supposed to feel infinitely connected to them instantaneously, you can deprive yourself of a potentially fulfilling and satisfying relationship. My opinion is that we're ALL interconnected metaphysically, and of course more so with some than with others, and that it takes some time and interaction for any true soul-connection to become realized. Just because you aren't totally blown away during the first few interactions does not mean the person isn't a good match for you. On the other hand, I personally have had many experiences where I felt immediately drawn to someone on a visceral level, believing they were a "soul-mate" type connection, only to become deeply entrenched in an unhealthy relationship. Therefore, because of my personal past experiences, I tend to reserve judgement on the concept of soul-mates. But, I'm also not the type of person to ever give up hope in any romantic idea. :-)

    ReplyDelete
  121. Soul mates, formal or otherwise are one in heart, body and soul! Can never be a better relationship between two people! Nicely!

    Hank

    ReplyDelete
  122. Finding soul mates can be plural, almost as if we have known some people before but we know we did not in this life. I believe in soul mates, I have some, I am one.

    ReplyDelete
  123. Of course I believe in soul mates. I found mine. It took me years.
    I said, good God, what if he's living in China, and I'll never find him.
    I also have a couple female friends with whom I can talk wholeheartedly and then we're silent for a year, just to meet an pick up the conversation as if that year never had passed.

    ReplyDelete
  124. Yes! I do believe in soulmate. I found mine. Thanks for visiting my humble site:)

    ReplyDelete
  125. I found my first soul mate at age 9 - I think of that time still. But oh yes I have my love soul mate in my Hubby but I guess I am lucky to have a few others in the shape of friends too.
    I was Juliet when we studied the play, I got to do that amazing scene at 15 and it simply confirmed everything I believed - they were my own words.

    ReplyDelete
  126. I believe in soul mate. And I hope I would find him soon!
    Nice blog :)

    ReplyDelete
  127. I love this post about soul mates, really love it!!
    love all your post:)

    ReplyDelete
  128. I agree with you; I do believe in soulmates. In fact, I met mine when I was sixteen; he was nineteen. We married and fifty-four years later are still happily married.

    ReplyDelete
  129. Your blog is absolutely beautiful. Please keep posting, so many people these days seem to have forgotten about their blogs.

    Thank you for being amazing. ♥

    ReplyDelete
  130. Keith, my friend,

    Soul mates, kindred spirits. Romantic or otherwise. I believe in a soul mate. Yet, what I believed to be true, was a misconception. I cherished, I adored and cared for a lady who had gone through the nightmare of sexual abuse. We had one child, my beloved son and that was planned, rather clinical because our relationship was virtually platonic.

    When I had a complete breakdown, 'my soul mate' got pregnant again. I wasn't the father. People sometimes wonder why I'm mentally ill. A lot of contributing factors.

    I still believe in the positive focus that can be the ideals of soul mates, or whatever you wish to call it.

    For years, I have written postings somewhat similar to yours. I'm delighted you get the awareness that can be shared.

    With respect and goodwill,

    Gary

    ReplyDelete
  131. Well, I needed a good blog to read and I am glad you left a comment because with just one post, I know I like your writing.
    I have never found a romantic soul mate. I have, however, had that in friendship, and you are right, that connection is eternal.

    ReplyDelete
  132. With pictures like that.. Why do they always lie on grass? lol.. Just kidding

    Hope i'll find my soul mate too..

    ReplyDelete
  133. I believe in soul mates to a certain extent. I believe we meet the people we need at different times in our lives to help us grow. Someone may be your soul mate for a period in your life, but you may grow apart as you change throughout your lives. However, this is not to say you don't look back with fond memories and cherish the times you had together, it simply means time has passed and you're on separate paths that are taking you to different places. Ultimately I think this journey through life is an individual one. If you find someone to share your journey with that is wonderful, but that is not the case for everyone and I don't think that makes their journey any less valuable. However, like you said a soul mate can be a best friend even. As long as people have someone in their lives to count on and help you through hard times, lovers or not, I think that is what is most important. Sometimes as I get older I notice people I always thought would be in my life forever I have drifted apart from. But it is bittersweet because then I find people I connect with on deeper levels. There are some people that I know will always be in my life because we have been through so much together. And even though things might not be the same as they once were, they are still people I care for. Sometimes if you are lucky you grow together rather than apart; as life happens you grow closer. So I do believe in soul mates, I just think soul mates can change as you change and grow if that makes sense.

    ReplyDelete
  134. Soul mates. They certainly exist. They do not have to be a member of the opposite sex, and a soul mate may not necessarily be a spouse. I believe that even though close physical proximity with a soul mate is not necessary, you will certainly be connected, eternally. I think a soul mate could be a college roommate, an elementary-school love, even a professional contemporary. While there might be an element of "romance" to being a soul mate, I don't think it's just made up of all passion and being "in love." And actually, I think the possibility of having multiple soul mates exists. Different people fill different needs that you have at different points in your life. If we're open to connecting everywhere we go, all the time, we will connect. And we never, ever know when the connection will be deep and lasting.

    ReplyDelete
  135. I believe in soul mates, mostly because I believe I have met mine (still undecided if more than one can exist). However, I do not believe that just because you have an unusually powerful connection with someone doesn't mean you should be or need to be romantic with them - at least that's what we have decided. I also think that history and hardship that our friendship developed out of made it easier to be what people may consider "soul mates." So for that respect I think context matters a whole lot - we were forced to be vulnerable as we coped with life and we found developing our friendship through that was incredibly powerful.

    ReplyDelete
  136. i am not sure whether or not i do believe in that.
    it seems very...final.
    however...the way that i met my husband and the path
    that ultimately led us to each other makes me wonder sometimes...it seemed to be perfect timing and that was
    almost 19 years ago...
    :)

    ReplyDelete
  137. I do believe in soulmates. I married mine.

    ReplyDelete
  138. I do not believe in soul mates. Philosophically, if one were a Christian, then his or her soul mate would be Jesus. In other one-god religions, I think that particular deity would be a soul mate for a particular person. Personally, I do believe in God ... but I do not think that he has only ONE person for me. Only one, no one else. God made marriage sacred, yes, but he also gave us the option of remarriage if our first spouse dies. A person can just as rightly love their first spouse as they do their second ... that said, how can you say one is a soul mate, and the other is not? Also, I think that a person, if they try hard enough, can make a marriage and a relationship (any sort of relationship--friendship, marriage, etc.) work with just about anyone. You need only love and respect for the other person.

    ReplyDelete
  139. To me Soul mate is just a term for a deep bonding friendship. My husband of 42 years...we dated for three. My best friends Sue and Barb of over 50 years would fall into the categories of soul mates. We are each different but yet something binds us together.

    ReplyDelete
  140. Two halves of a soul looking for each other... yes, I do want to believe in soul mates... And I like very much your choice of picture for this post.

    ReplyDelete
  141. Ironically Romeo and Juliette is also the first classic I've ever read and I was around 12 that time. It was easy to slip into the notion of love and two people made for each other.

    I guess soulmates don't happen to everyone. Every relationship takes a lot of work. And sometimes people find their soulmates at a wrong juncture in their lives.

    Love your pix!

    ReplyDelete
  142. I totally believe in soul mates, although unfortunately not everyone will be lucky enough to find theirs...

    ReplyDelete
  143. I completely believe in soul mates... I found mine when I was 15 but didn't know it until I was 48... My David is my soul mate... and although we are just friends now... we still have an amazing connection,

    When I saw this post... I knew it would make me cry... and feel things I don't want to feel because lately my D and me are not as close... just in the past couple of days.

    We text every day and we always say good night... we are there for each other, which in my book makes us soul mates... we are always destined to be in each others lives... in one way or another

    Fantastic Post Keith

    ReplyDelete
  144. I absolutely do believe in soul mates of different varieties. People come into our lives when they are meant to at the right time. You have a beautiful blog here and I look forward to many more musings of an unapologetic dreamer! :-)

    ReplyDelete
  145. Hi....
    Good post…. I agree, love is one of most powerful feeling, and everyone needs it. Everyone in life come across this beautiful feeling.
    Soul Mate Book

    ReplyDelete
  146. I never did believe in soulmates. I thought life was something that we make with someone. I had previous long-term relationships and I did love them. I became friends with my husband and we immediately clicked. At no point in time, because he's 29 years my elder, did either of us ever believe we would be anything more than really good friends. Then through unfortunate circumstances I was without a place to live and moved in with him. It wasn't very long before we realized that we had something more special than friendship. We married a year later. At this point, we did love each other very much, then something happened over the next couple of years. ALL of our defenses were completely gone. And it was like waking up one morning and realizing that we both had something more special and powerful than most people even dare to dream. Although he'd been married for 22 years before, he knew this was something so different than most experience. We were really destined to be together. Our hearts, our minds, our bodies, our deep friendship, and most of all our souls are not two different entities. We are one and were always meant to be. It was at this point that I realized that soulmates do exist. I think so many people settle down with someone who makes them happy and content and love does exist here and can live a lifetime this way. These people never know how much deeper love really goes; love is not a strong enough word. There is no word to describe this. But when you find what my husband and I have you know it is not a love of a lifetime, but rather love that lasts an eternity. And that is the best definition of a soulmate I can give. The only bittersweet and devastating truth is that my husband will die decades before I will and I will live for decades alone until I am able to be with him again for the rest of eternity. I know I will never be with another person. Ever. Ever. But to me waiting a good 30 years without him is nothing compared to an eternity with him.

    ReplyDelete