Thursday, March 28, 2013

The Lost Art of the Phone Conversation


“The telephone is a good way to talk to people without having to offer them a drink.” ~Fran Lebowitz

You know what I miss? Phone conversations. Remember those? I remember talking on the phone for hours on end with friends during my teenage years. Such a good way to catch up with people at the end of the day.

In the day and age of texting and IM messages, it seems as if good old-fashioned phone conversations have become a thing of the past. I have several friends that I mainly only correspond with via text-messaging. We all get so busy with our day-to-day lives that it seems the most convenient and preferred method of conversation/correspondence.

Now I am well-aware that many people have a complete aversion to telephone conversations (my dad loathes talking on the phone), but I have always loved them myself.

Perhaps we can start a revolution and bring phone conversations back from the brink of extinction :-)

What about you? Do you feel that phone conversations have lost their importance in the age of texting?

154 comments:

  1. I hate texting and as I grow older I'm not exactly fond of talking on the phone for any great length of time. When I was younger, however, I used to talk on the phone for hours.

    Yes, I believe the TRUE art of phone conversation is becoming passe.....

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  2. I'll occasionally use email or messaging on my iPad, but a phone call is always better. I don't talk long on the phone (just ask my wife) but an exchange on the phone really takes less time than texting.

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  3. Frankly I'd be happy if our phone never rang. After 20 yars of having a phone almost permanently attached to my ear at work....I've had enough. I also don't text and rarely email. Can we all say hermit? lol.

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  4. I think so for the most part, I do enjoy the convenient of text messaging, but It felt good when you hear someone voice saying; HI or HELLO! from time to time. Happy Easter, Keith

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  5. I actually hate the telephone! I do a lot of email and I text my kids.

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  6. Ummmmm... guilty as charged *wink* :) I have worked in a call center for the past 19 years -- so unless I absolutely HAVE to -- I don't call ANYONE! :)

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  7. Oh I have not forgotten I still make sure I use my phone to hear the ones I love. I had a conversation with a few friends just yesterday and it comforts me more than any other. I am not that old if that is what your thinking, I just love it.I still email and text but there is something about hearing the voice of those on the other end that makes you know they are really OK and not hiding something. Mothers instinct maybe:) B

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  8. I still prefer using a phone instead of texts. It's easy,requires less effort and much more spontaneous.In India, we neither have the time nor that kind of patience to wait for the conversation to be finished in half an hour!

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  9. I love communication in general. I'm not calling you to tell you what I think of your blog. I think it's all about convenience and preference. People who prefer to text - I'm all for it. My boyfriend and I will call each other several times a day just to check-in and say hello. I enjoy both for various reasons. :-)

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  10. i think one of the biggest things is that the cell phone has made us available any time...so the importance of a single call has diminished because i can catch you again if i need...or text...and they lack substance mostly...i def remember phone conversations that drug on in a very cool way though...and not wanting to hang up...ha...

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  11. The phone has kind of become a lost art but I was never very good with them anyway and I never really get any phone calls beyond telemarketers.

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  12. I enjoy a chat on the phone. I didn't have a landline for many years...only my cell. But last year I got a home phone again. I love it. Really enjoy a good 3 hour chat with my sister...nothing beats it.

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  13. I do still enjoy a nice phone conversation on occasion. Nuthin' beats hearing a friend laugh.

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  14. Yes, sadly, I do think phone conversations have lost at least some of their importance. My sister and I were just "talking" about this on Facebook chat the other day. ;) It seems we hardly ever talk "in voice," but I plan on calling her today. I'm looking forward to it!

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  15. I don't text. My husband does. It annoys my mom and sisters that I don't text. But I am on FB and I blog all the time. I figure if anyone wants to know what I'm up to, read the blog, check my FB status.

    I don't say things like, "I'm at the Y." on FB. I say things like funny things my kids say, food I've made, or artwork I'm working on. I rarely talk about work because some students are friends with me on there. The only time I do is if it's positive, or if we're doing something fun.

    I started blogging because my husband's family live in Missouri and we live in Nebraska. I wanted them to see our kids; know what we're up to. Slowly I've been doing more product reviews. Still to me the blogging is more of a story of our lives.

    I don't have as many conversations on the phone, as I used to.

    I have a small group of friends from high school that still hang out every once in awhile. Sadly, since many of us have has kids we hang out less.

    Then I have a group of college friends that come down from KC to hang out with us for a few days during the spring or summer.

    You have a great holiday as well! We're going to Lion King on Broadway tonight! I hand painted t-shirts for the boys of my won style of lions with crowns. I'll be posting them this morning. Otherwise on Sunday it's an egg hunt and family time.

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  16. I do feel that phone conversations have been lost, although I must admit I am like your dad- I also loathe talking on the phone! I hate it so much that I sometimes just don't answer the phone at all. I don't know why I hate talking on the phone. Perhaps I hate the awkward parts or the boring parts. I'm just not much of a talker unless I really have something to say and if I don't really have something to say then the phone conversation gets awkward. I can proudly say, though, that I've always been this way and it is not due to new technology :)

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  17. Telephones have been a MAJOR part of my existence at work mostly ~~~ handling 2+ calls at once with a 'physical' person standing in front of me wanting to advise or to purchase a product ~~~ so ~~~ I have an aversion to phones ~~~ they exhaust me and I need peace and quiet in my home. I don't answer phones anymore, just check the messages.

    My life is so much better now.

    Love it.

    Ron

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  18. My parents live in another country and don't text, so I often talk to them via phone. Very pleasant indeed.

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  19. So true. I seldom talk on the phone anymore. Just a quick call here or there, or for business stuff. I am not big into texting either, mostly email. It is sad though, as we have somewhere lost the importance of depthful communication by human voice.

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  20. I hear what you are saying Keith.
    My livelihood is phone conversations, I spend most of the day on the phone in interesting, deep conversations with incredible people and it is my income. I would like to talk to you in person or on the phone anytime!!

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  21. Phones and phone tag were all I did some days at work. Since leaving my job, I gave up my home land line and went to the flip phones...still using my flip because I don't want all the complications of texting, etc. Just talked to my brother this morning to make plans for Easter. Much better than a series of emails...if you have a direct line to someone that really matters in your life :)

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  22. Never liked to talk on the phone, so not getting phone calls pleases me to no end. I prefer texting + email with friends. Unless, of course, we can get together in person-- which is really the best way to communicate, imho. Great questions.

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  23. I got texting disabled on my phone

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  24. Keith, one of my brothers is mad at me right now because I haven't talked to him on the phone in "quite a while." My other siblings have tried to assure him by saying, "She rarely calls anyone." And this is true. I don't care to talk on the phone. My mother was that way, and so are my daughters. My youngest daughter's cell phone minutes equal exactly one every month. That's the one or two times a month she calls me when we get separated in the store.

    But I will text...or email. :)

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  25. I do not like talking on phone, I prefer texting .

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  26. I'm not very fond of talking on the phone actually; I was glad to discover texting lol! Nor am I one of those people who text entire paragraphs -- if I had that much to say to the person, I'd rather just meet face-to-face. P.S. Madison is certainly welcome to pop by, though she might prefer reading Becky's post on the subject -- she gives the ballet synopsis there :)

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  27. Because I talk on the phone all day at work, I really don't enjoy talking on the phone later on in the day. BUT, I prefer talking to texting!

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  28. This is something I've been thinking a lot about lately, because I do keep up with people via the phone. I can now tell who has a smart phone and who doesn't, due to the muffled voice coming across the line. I find I don't really want to talk to someone under those circumstances. I can't get a good rhythm to the conversation going because I'm always asking them to repeat themselves. Smart phones are not built for talking. That is clear. And a bit sad.

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  29. Interesting. I never text but rely on e-mail mostly. While I seldom initiate a phone call, I have family and friends all over 40, who do call. When they do, we talk for quite a while and you are right, it really is a pleasant experience. Ah the good old days when a ringing phone stirred me with excitement. "Is is for me?" "Who could it be?" Now days it is too often an invasive telemarketer.

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  30. i am a bit of a phone-a-phobic - have been since an older guy started 'stalking' me as a teenager by calling our house in the middle of the night. kinda stayed with me...

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  31. I love phone conversations. The reason I don't have them any more is that everyone's time is so squeezed. Phoning requires both people to have space for a conversation at the same time.

    Two people with jobs, kids, travelling/commuting and other commitments mean simultaneous down time to have the kind of conversations worth having just doesn't happen. Emails and texts take the pressure off and create a time lag so we can engage with each other properly when we can, rather than on demand.

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  32. Yes, pretty much. Us older folks will still talk on the phone, but the young just don't want any part of it. What really gets me is two people sitting across from each other aren't talking to each other they are texting. Good grief.

    Have a terrific day. ☺

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  33. I'm not much of a phone person, and I refuse to join the world of texting. I'd rather meet people and chat face-to-face. But because there is quite a distance between me and my family and me and my closest friends, I do talk on the telephone occasionally. I do love emails!

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  34. Every Sunday afternoon my BFF and I have a lengthy phone conversation. Since we live a few states apart, the closest thing we have to being close--hearing the voice, the laughter, the tears--can only come from the phone. Email, texting? Doesn't cut it.

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  35. My best friend and I growing up would talk on the phone for hours, and we saw each other all the time! When I met my husband we would talk on the phone like that too. There is something really nice and relaxing about a long phone conversation where you can let your guard down. That being said, I hate calling strangers! I don't even like to order take out. Lol.
    Happy Easter :)

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  36. I actually do talk on the phone, almost every night I chat with one of my daughters to catch up on their day. I love hearing their voices, a story they tell me has more drama when I can hear the excitement as they tell it or the laughter when we exchange a funny experience. That kind of gets lost for me in a text. I miss talking to my son but when he is in port, we use Skype.
    I miss hand written letters, though I hardly ever write them myself. I do hand write all my thank you cards though and sometimes tuck a letter in with a birthday card.

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  37. Aha, my human friend, Keith,

    Now then, I don't text and very seldom does my human. In fact, the cell phone or mobile phone has brought on a new form of technology rudeness. Somebody visits my human and then they proceed to have a conversation with somebody else on their cell phone or mobile phone. My human then wonders why the person even bothered visiting. He has done this topic, but we'll it at that.

    Phone calls from the brink of extinction? Landline calls, perhaps. However, just for the heck of it and what do you reckon to this, Keith, I leave you with this.

    Have you ever noticed that a lot of folks talk so much LOUDER when they are speaking into their mobile phone? Or, as it's called in North America, a cell phone. A phone in your cell? I'm sure that wouldn't be allowed. However, I saw a documentary on how you get said phone into said cell. Cell phone equals smell phone.....

    Maybe some people insist on talking really loud into their mobile phone because they think I've got to know what's happening in their vastly important lives. You've probably heard those calls such as, 'HELLO! YEAH, I'M ON THE BUS AND IT'S ABOUT TO LEAVE THE DEPOT. NOT BEING FUNNY... TO BE HONEST, AT THE END OF THE DAY, YA KNOW, UM I'M GOING TO PROVE THAT UM THE DNA RESULTS PROVE THE KID UM AINT YOURS AND THAT IT'S ACTUALLY YOUR BROTHER'S KID...LOVE YOU....... SEE YA LATER! BYE ....'

    On a side note, I wonder why some folks think it's okay to visit me and when their mobile rings, they proceed to have an hour long conversation with somebody else. Unless it's vital that someone leave their phone switched on, I believe technology has created a whole new rudeness. I pointed this out to one dude and he hasn't done it since.

    Pawsitive wishes from a non-texting dog,

    Penny :)

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  38. I don't enjoy phone conversations, since they never seem to be at a time, when they are convenient for both parties.

    But I do fear that REAL communication, of all forms, is being out-dated by all the technology. Which is scary!

    Bring back any form of real conversations, which you wish! and good luck, with the project.

    Gentle hugs,
    "Auntie"

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  39. I do not like phone conversations. I cringe when the phone rings. I do talk to my mom several times a week, and those conversations usually run about an hour long. I don't mind those. However, everyone else, I prefer to send a quick text to. I do love talking in person though. I love visiting friends and chatting and laughing for hours on end.

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  40. Umm ... I agree ... However, I find texting a better option most of the time ... sometimes, a person might not want to be disturbed through a phone call. A text message serves the purpose at those times !!!!

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  41. I hate both, such a nuisance. But I'd rather talk n it get everything out at once and not sit there texting all damn day.

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  42. I miss phone conversations so much I can't begin to describe. I can't tell you how many of friends I will call & then they will text me about what I left in the voicemail. It is a lost art... =/

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  43. I always find myself getting distracted and losing the flow of the conversation if I'm on the phone. I've always been the same. Most of the time I'll text instead of calling people.

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  44. Yes, I much prefer a convo on the phone to texting...especially for longer conversations.

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  45. I must admit, I'm not one for talking on the phone much anymore, much prefer emails for the most part and of course, talking to someone in person. As a teenager though, hours on one phone conversation were not unusual. :<) Thanks for another great topic to ponder and Happy Easter!

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  46. Things have changed so much - I have to even admit that I would prefer to send a text message or email before talking to someone.

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  47. I could not agree with you any more - sandie

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  48. I think phone conversations as a preference are long gone, especially w/the new generation (if my own kids are a fair indication).

    Interestingly enough, I heard on talk radio this morning that adults text more than teens WHILE DRIVING! Hard to believe, but maybe so... evidently the results came from personal, random surveys given to AT&T customers.

    I liked talking on the phone as a kid too. So did all of my friends. Not sure our families liked it so much though. ;)

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  49. It's totally strange, but it's almost like you're inconveniencing someone now if you call them out of the blue! I read an article a while back that said it's now considered rude to just call someone up without first sending them a text to set up a time to call. I always talked on the phone for hours in high school with my friends. I remember the cool kids got their own phone lines and I was always so jealous!

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  50. Texting is preferred by many people because it frees us from having to respond instantly. Talking on the phone is not really my favorite thing in the world. Too often people call and I'd the time isn't just right, I don't accept it.

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  51. Each has its own place, but talking with my loved ones FEELS much more rewarding than texting...

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  52. NO! I hate talking and gabbing on the phone. I have an aunt that wants to talk every day for 45 minute stretches. Ugh.

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  53. I used to spend hours on the phone - now - not so crazy about it. I hear what you're saying, though. Text is not the same. Although, I do really like FaceTime.

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  54. Yes, we have lost the art of conversation ~ Sadly, these gadgets made personal interactions trivial and impersonal ~

    Wishing you a happy day ~

    Grace

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  55. I hate texting - I mean if you have a phone in your hand just call the person. That said I hate phones. I hate talking on the phone. When I was in high school there was a contest to see who could keep me on the phone the longest. And you know what the 'funniest' things is? I spent most of my working life in positions that required a huge amount of phone work - from personnel, to real estate to a research job that required cold calling ...How's that for irony?

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  56. I also miss real cards and letters in the mail. Now all I get are bills and the snail mail equivalent of spam. I like keeping in touch with friends and family who are far away, but there used to be that special feeling while opening a letter . . .

    BTW: Thanks for stopping by Victorian Scribbles and commenting. I hope you'll come by the new blog often. I have a new post up on Tennyson (if you like his poetry).

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  57. I fear there are generations who have established means and patterns of communication without using phones for voice to voice conversation of any length. Instead of chatting we text. There is something rewarding about hearing a friend or family member, being able to laugh or cry or simply listen. I think actual conversation is more fully human.

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  58. I love talking on the phone. With unlimited calling I can usually last 45 minutes to an hour. LOL

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  59. I agree. I love to indulge myself in a long deep telephone conversation with a good friend. It doesn't happen often, but I still have them.

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  60. Oh, my . . . you're so right on this, Keith, for the most part. I do have one friend from childhood, she and I still have those 2 hour conversations from time to time. And my DH and I talk on the telephone when he travels. And the daughter in college calls once a week . . .

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  61. I do miss phone conversations along with letters and real cards via snail mail. Whilst email and text have their place I fear we are losing our desire for, and ability to, truly communicate.

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  62. Oh, OE. I so want to agree with you on almost everything 'cuz you're such a good guy! But I avoid the phone whenever possible. I like face-to-face conversations, and I appreciate the text for a quick message that you don't want to get tangled up in for 30 minutes or longer, and letters. There's where my old-fashioned bit comes in.

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  63. I think there's room for both. If it's short or I just need to relay information, I much prefer to text. If I need to talk to someone who is at work, I love being able to text and say call when you can. But if I want to chat or catch up, then a phone conversation wins hands down. Great question!

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  64. In my day to day life the phone is just a practical convenience made up of brief calls or far too long calls to some utility or a customer service person. However with my distant sisters and a couple of friends it becomes an hour or two visit. It is delightful to hear the "real" voices of my distant dear ones. My kids and grandkids are always asking me to start texting and I may just to keep in touch with them in their busy lives.

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  65. Not me..I don't text. I don't have a cell phone, just a landline. I talk to my younger brother on the phone every single day. My dad doesn't have a cell phone so we talk at least once a week.

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  66. Hi Keith! I don't text because I have a dumb cell phone which I share with my husband. I love my landline! I enjoy talking to family and close friends and can talk for hours. I can see the advantage to quick communication when appropriate. I was very sad to learn that the Geology Department at Acadia had turned its coffee room into an office ~ no students were using it anymore because they weren't gathering in it to socialize. Everyone was texting! I wouldn't have given up my time in the coffee room for anything. It was so much fun: coffee, conversation, cards, hanging and joking around! Hope that you are having a good one!

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  67. I don't really text that much - mostly with my son.
    Most of my friends still talk on the phone.
    In fact I talked with my friend Lin on the phone this morning. She calls me when she is walking and I'm walking too so we walk and talk together for a couple of miles. : )

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  68. Oh yes, I think telephone conversations are a thing of the past, although I always speak to family on the phone and my boyfriend if I am away. The rest of the time it's emails etc. A friend of mine wants to bring back letter writing! Imagine!

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  69. So true.
    I miss sitting past it, waiting for some one expected to call.
    Sometimes, the strangeness within blank calls.
    How fast are we treading? leaving so many things behind.
    This wasn't something we wanted to give up, did we?

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  70. I still enjoy conversations with friends on the phone. I don't text much. I let others know,by text---when they text me---to call.

    Can't pick up inflections of voice and mood by text.

    Nothing beats face-to-face communication. Fortunately, I have a lot of that. We get what we tolerate.

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  71. I like the choice between different ways of communicating today and that includes the phone. I wish I'd had these as a student years ago, instead of having to queue up outside a phone box with other students waiting to ring home.

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  72. I think that the art of communication is dying on many fields. One of my favorite quotes used to be: in the age of communication nobody communicates. Even such things as Facebook is more about forwarding things...and Twitter...retweeting. I guess it's adapt or die...I choose life!

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  73. Some people I know can even text without looking!!! I must say that I have never known a man who likes to talk on the phone, it is nice to see that you DO!! And one other thing I cannot stand...when you are trying to visit with someone, or have dinner with them, they are glued to their smartphones and will not pay attention to anything!

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  74. au contraire - I think more and more people are talking on cell phones just because they can. I wonder how many of these "conversations" are meaningful. It seems as though some people abuse the use of their cell phone by talking loudly in inappropriate places and disturbing others around them.

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  75. I do agree, many people have given up a good old telephone conversation! There is an art to a good conversation, too. And I agree with Ginny above, it is rude for people to be constantly checking their devices when you are trying to visit. We are now in the age of the instant message and there is an art to that, too. How do you think up something witty in one sentence? Sometimes it's hard to do! xx

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  76. Phone calls are a life line for the older generations, many of which haven't made the jump to computers nor mobile phones.

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  77. I love long conversations on the phone, the majority of the time I text people because it is convenient and easy. However; nothing beats a one on one conversation with someone:)

    When my D and I talk, it is for hours and we laugh, you cannot get that in a text..

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  78. I am with your father. I dislike talking on the phone. I like the way a text or email gives you time to consider and time to think up an excuse for declining an invitation.

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  79. um...I come from the generation that used letters to communicate with friends etc whom you did not meet on a regular basis...so, perhaps, I understand where you're coming from..I think?! :D

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  80. I am SO old fashioned. I love a good talk on the phone. My phone spontaneously combusted so right now I am actually without a phone, texting, or calling capabilities...and I am probably the only one in this day and age who is doing just fine that way! Happy Easter, Keith! :)

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  81. Yes, yes, yes! Very much miss the art of the telephone call. I have very fond memories of long phone conversations. Most communication happens via a text/email. Of course, I am often guilty of this myself. This post really hit home for me. :)

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  82. I have to admit that I've never enjoyed talking on the phone. But when I lived far away from family and friends, it was the only way (back in the day) that I could communicate with them quickly. That was before email, before texting. So I depended on the phone a lot then!

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  83. Yes, indeed. Talking on the phone is an art form now. Having said that I choose to text people that I don't necessarily want to talk to. Also, my reception sometimes forces me to texting. Before texting became popular everyone was walking on the street talking, that was annoying too. I personally prefer to use a phone that has a cord. :)

    Happy Easter!

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  84. I agree 100%! I'd also like to see real letter writing return!

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  85. I miss phone conversations and I don't. In a lot of ways I feel more disconnected from my good friends because we don't talk on the phone that much but on the other hand, I oftne don't have a lot of energy to spend hours on the phone after a long day of work, etc. I do miss, though, MEN picking up the phone to ask you out on a date. Now all we get are emails and texts. It's so rare I get a phone call that when I do it's swoon-worthy. ;)

    xoxo,

    Jules of Canines & Couture
    www.caninesandcouture.com

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  86. I dislike talking on the phone. Mostly because I don't hear real well. If it is a short "conversation" I'll do a text, but there is a point to which it is just easier to pick up the phone.

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  87. My family didn't have a phone until I was around 16. Even then, using it was discouraged. I've never gotten very comfortable talking on the phone, but I love email.

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  88. Great topic! It's true, we don't talk on the phone as much as we used to do. Walking down the street talking on a cell phone hardly counts and is certainly not the same as curling up in a comfy arm chair for a two hour heart to heart. Now I often text first to find out a good time to call.

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  89. Interesting subject Keith - over here many many people don't have landlines anymore only mobile phones, and if one isn't with the same provider as the person you're calling you pay TOP STD rates....... so texting is preferred (cheap or free)
    My teenage years was in the times when hardly anyone had a home phone (showing my years here I say) but my kids were. The battles over time on the phone etc!! Whew! Most homes here at that time only had one phone so you can imagine the tiffs over the phone!
    Oh dear I'm with your Dad, don't like the phone much at all, only for information passing and business but for a chat? Nope. Come visit me in person and there'll be a cup of tea and probably a scone with jam and cream.
    (I do occasionally chat with friends who live far away, but even email is taking over from that)
    On the communication topic, I think letter writing by snail mail has really died. -sniff-

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  90. I can't remember having a long telephone conversation since e-mails came around. Now a days it's all about quick conversation, on the phone, texting or e-mails.

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  91. we need a revolution! even the sports channels advertise more technology gadgets instead of cars! wow..what a change!!!!

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  92. I still have long conversations with good friends from time to time, but it's usually through Skype which is nice because you can see and talk to them at the same time. What I do miss is writing letters to people. It's just exciting getting an unexpected letter in the mail. I actually am going to start writing more letters (I've just decided). Who knows? Maybe I'll get one in return! :)

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  93. i prefer phone call than texting. but sometimes, texting is good too. i think it's the balance between them. i usually have long conversation over skype too.

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  94. It depends on who you're communicating with. With most people and acquaintances, a quick email or text does the job. But there are some friends that just require a good long conversation. It heals my soul, rejuvenates me, and makes me love life after a nice chat with them.

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  95. I like your style


    ALOHA from Honolulu
    Comfort Spiral
    ~ > < } } ( ° > <3

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  96. How about writing letters? When I worked at a summer camp that took away all the staff's technology (phones, computers, iPods, everything!), I learned to adore writing and receiving letters. I had always enjoyed them previously, but they literally became a lifeline to my family and friends hundreds of miles away. (Did I mention that the camp was several states away from where I was living?)

    Once I got my technology back, the passionate affair with letter-writing cooled off a bit, but I still enjoy a good old fashioned handwritten letter.

    "Remember phone calls?" you ask. I ask, "Remember pen pals?" :)

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  97. I only have a phone and of course the internet, but i hate taking phone, always have, always will

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  98. How about when use used to answer the phone, but not have any idea who was calling you? And that thing were a person would answer the phone and announce the name of the family and phone number. "Hello, 000664433 Carter house." :)

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  99. Yes phone calls...what are they? I do still have some with close friends but texting and quick messaging seems to be the way it is now. Sometimes it's good because at least there's some contact when there might not be any but there's nothing like a good yarn.

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  100. I loved it when I got a phone in my own room when I was a teenager! It was so necessary to phone my friends even though we had been to school together all day. And then came the boyfriends, ahhh, ages talking about nothing :)
    I only use the phone now in emergencies, I much prefer it to a 'chat' by text but at the same time messaging seems so much easier now friends have kids and are so stressed all the time. I do chat to my hubby every lunch on the phone though :)
    There's nothing better than a good face to face though, right? x

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  101. Agree absolutely. A text just doesn't begin to cut it.

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  102. When I was a teenager you couldn't get me off that phone with the curly cord! Now, the only time I look forward to yakking via cell phone is my Sunday morning call to my parents. Other than that, TXTing is the next best thing to writing letters. Or postcards, rather! :)

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  103. totally agree!
    love your blog, so you'll have me here again :)

    hope youll follow back <3
    www.malesclutch.blogspot.com

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  104. I'm a bit ambivalent about it. I don't really like talking on the phone for hours anymore (yeah, I did it as a kid). A quick conversation that goes on no longer than necessary is ok. Even when I'm talking on the phone, I tend to be doing something else at the same time: fiddling on the computer, washing dishes, whatever.

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  105. I used to enjoy talking on the phone - still do as I have time. I think you're right; we've lost a lot in our technological society in the way of real personal connections. Sure, now we can send a brief "I love you" type text to brighten a loved ones' day, but somehow overall it doesn't make up for real conversation. I think too, that letter writing is another lost art. To make up for it all, I try to keep real connections going with friends and family.

    Have a great weekend!

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  106. I'm with you on this.
    I used to talk on the phone for hours
    talking about silly and trivial things
    but I enjoyed it a lot.
    Now I hardly have any conversations on the phone that last more than 5 minutes
    may be its the cost or our world now is just different or I've changed.

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  107. Absolutely! We really lost the significant of talking to text messaging and busy with our own world. The communication has reached summits and goes unending… but the wealth and health of talking has shrunk into few phases. We need to understand and exhibit the source of talking.

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  108. Wow...honest? I hate the phone...I have always felt that being tied to a phone was a total waste of time..kind of like being trapped by a cord in one place. I love to talk to the people I love and the best time for me is while driving, so this is when a cell comes in handy. I like you, used to love long conversations on the phone...so romantic. In my old age I have increasingly become anti-social...a hermit...eccentric and distant with the attitude a phone is for my convenience. Eeekkk that sounds pretty grouchy!

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  109. I prefer email for regular communication so it doesn't interrupt my writing time or time with family, but if I want to catch up with a friend or family member who is far away, the phone is best. What bothers me the most are people checking texts and emails on their phones when you are physically with them. Face to face time is also undervalued.

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  110. Hi Keith .. I've a few friends who still ring - and many who email ... I don't do Facebook (thankgoodness!) ...

    I know how to communicate to most people and do what suits them ...

    However I prefer visiting if possible - however most of my friends are scattered in England, or overseas ... still a good excuse to visit when I get going!

    Lots of relatives to see too - as I haven't caught up with many of them since my mother died ...

    I text occasionally - but don't live with my phone - and object when people assume I do ... it's not umbilically attached ..

    Happy Easter though! Cheers Hilary

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  111. I retired about 10 years ago, and that was just about the time or soon after that texting and these advanced cell phones came into play. and where we live the cell phone we had been using for years no longer worked.
    and we decided we were not going to get tied to cell phone any longer. we do have a trak phone so just we have one to take along. so I am really glad I never got hooked on texting and all that. as to phone conversations-I love it-I have a couple blog friends that we talk up and back, and my husband has a couple friends he met online too and then can talk for an hour or more-I love it

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  112. I agree! Let's bring it back. And letter writing too! It's so fun to get a call or a letter from a friend.

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  113. I don't so much miss phone conversations as I miss people putting aside "uninterrupted" time to talk to each other. I know someone who always puts me on speaker phone so they can continue to multi-task while we talk - not much of a real conversation.

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    1. Ugh I hate that. Speaker phone? You might as well be having a conversation with someone else. Or call me back later.

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    2. I completely agree with you Claudeen :) One day I'm going to have the courage to tell her that!

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  114. am a big believer in always going verbal.....there's no nuance in text and where would we be without nuannce??

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  115. Not for us oldies but goodies...we still talk.

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  116. I probably shouldn't be admitting this but I haven't got a clue how to text nor do I care. I can see how it would be convenient if you want to relay information quick but if I want to talk to someone I want to actually talk. too easy for words to be misconstrued - you're missing that essential part of conversation, intonation, laughter, silence. telephone limits you already by not seeing a person's face but texting removes everything. how is that a conversation?

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  117. Not at all. I still have plenty of phone conversations. I was, however, glad when my son made a comment about not being on Facebook much because it's more fun to see people in person.

    http://joycelansky.blogspot.com

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  118. Yeah it's become such a culture. I myself don't like speaking on the phone unless I want a fast answer from someone. At the same time texting has become so dominating and while I admit that it is more convenient, I get lazy replying to people. Haha.

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  119. I think it depends on how close you are to the person. I prefer speaking on the phone with close family and friends. I use email pretty much for work only. Texting is really just for a quick message; I wouldn't have a whole conversation by text! But meeting face to face is the best. Enjoy Easter with your family, Keith :)

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  120. No texting for me... I spoke a lot on the phone as a teen, hours at a time, but now I kind of dread the phone... :-)

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  121. I don't like talking on the phone -- didn't grow up with it, so I'm just not used to it / comfortable with it. But i'm forcing myself to get better with it! Actually called 10 or so architecture firms the other day to ask about jobs - much better than waiting and hoping for emails that will probably never get answered!

    --asmallpieceofgodsplan.blogspot.com

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  122. I love talking on the phone! Not really hours, but half an hour!
    No messages for me, fax, etc.
    Happy Easter, Keith!

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  123. I remember with tremendous emotion the phone conversations I used to have with my first love. You're right, it was much more intense and yet...the nowadays technology satisfies me ...much more :).

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  124. My parents never allowed me to have long conversations on the phone when i was growing up.....

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  125. ...as for me... i still prefer to use both... i use telephone when i'm indoors...while mobile phones to me are for outdoors sake or event...i am not a 'txt' type person as i only send txt messages either for my family or business related purposes... i dont think the art of conversation thru telephones is lost already... maybe undergone massice innovations and people tend adapt as part of modernization & globalizing oneself but no... not at all lost / gone... the purpose or kind of usage fitted for the current situation is rather a better concern here... smiles...

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  126. A lot of my day involves telephone conversations - the nature of my job - something SMSs can never replace, thank goodness. Texting is way too impersonal for my liking :)

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  127. This is a great question. I have been in long-distance relationships on and off (mostly on) for 4 years so I have long phone conversations almost daily. I also grew up in two different states in the U.S. and have kept in touch with my old friends, mostly via the telephone up until recently where skype and facetime have become for popular. I don't really enjoy texting. I feel like a five minute conversation can be dragged into an hour of texting back and forth and I find it pretty rude or just annoying when people are constantly pausing from their interactions with people right in front of them to text another person. It used to be rude to take a call during a lunch date but now, texting someone even while someone else is talking to you isn't perceived as horribly rude.

    I am living in Brazil right now and I was told to buy a cheap Brazilian phone to walk around town with because iPhones are worth twice as much here and pulling one out in some places could be risky. I have this little annoying pink phone that has buttons that you have to press three times in order to make them work so I HATE texting on it. It has definitely made me start calling people instead, which is so much more time efficient.

    Thanks for the awesome discussion question. Sorry if I went overboard :).

    Mariamma

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  128. I have to be perfectly honest, Keith, and admit that I haven't had a phone conversation for at least six months!
    I guess I've become one of the lazy ones...texting etc. is so instant and simple.
    Perhaps a phone revolution is exactly what we need!:)

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  129. They really have! I used to love them too!

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  130. I get anxiety talking on the phone! The only people I can talk to are my BFF, my husband, my grandmother, and my daddy. Other than that, I RUN when the phone rings. Haha. I used to love it, though.

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  131. I miss it too:( my husband loathes talking on the phone but when we dated it was long distance so he was kinda forced to! And I loved it

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  132. i've never liked talking on the phone, i just hate not seeing the other person's emotions, facial expressions &c! x

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  133. Hi Keith, although I have never been a been phone conversationalist, I totally feel talking on the phone for many has lost it's place in this new technological age. I know some people who are so hooked on texting and emailing that I don't even think they ever use the phone anymore. And than I know other's who pretty much hide behind the phone screen. It's all kind of sad when you really think about it. Great post!

    Madison:-)

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  134. I don't do texting, but I also don't like a long time on the telephone. In person is better, with a cup of tea in hand. :)

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  135. I don't like talking on the phone. I much prefer either talking in person or via text. Talking in person allows you to read body language and see the person, texting allows you time to think and avoid awkward pauses.

    Talking on the phone offers the worst of both worlds.

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  136. I have never been one for phone conversations - I much prefer proper letter writing - something else that seems to have vanished with technology - shame!

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  137. I can talk forever....but not on the phone. I don't know why. I just don't like it. Texting is fine and I'm great on email but I panic when my phone rings!!

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  138. true..
    There are so many times when I could have n should have talked but I avoided that by textin..
    I see it as an ultimate escape.. :P

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  139. Would be fab to bring it back... the only person who I really chat to on the phone is my grandmother, and we could talk for hours! :D

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  140. There are only a few people with whom I can have a phone conversation with. Then there are those conversations I am moving around and cleaning or something, because I cannot stand incessant talkers. What I really miss are the days of letter writing. A few of my friends and I will write lengthy prose a couple of times a year.

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  141. Fellow phone talker, here- lol. I remember monopolizing the phone as a teenager, too. :) Fortunately, I am blessed with many friends... And they're all chatty.

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  142. I remember being on the phone for HOURS as a teenager...so much that my parents alowed me to have my own private line. By the time my three brothers became teenagers the 2nd line went away...heh heh
    Today email has precluded a lot of phone calls unless of course you are a teenager and then you are just texting 24/7.

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  143. I totally agree with you. I think that phone conversations have lost their importance because of text messages and that is really bad. I hate talking on the phone, anyway haha

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  144. I think phone calls have lost their importance because we live in a culture that looks for convenience above all and text messages are definitely more convenient since you have to get to the point. I don't like talking on the phone, so I'm all for that! It's not that I'm against conversation, I just don't like not being able to see the other person. I prefer talking to people who aren't in town on Skype rather than over the phone.

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  145. I prefer face to face, have never liked the phone much either.

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  146. The only person I really talk to on the phone is my mom, but even she started texting me a few months ago!

    I feel awkward on the phone. it's kind of bad, even voice mail makes me anxious. I worked receptionist for a while so that helped me get over my anxiety a bit, but i think that's mostly because the calls were never for me.

    Having said all that, a call from a friend makes me feel really special!

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  147. Hi Keith:)
    Phoning loved ones either family or friends is the only way I can really tell if they are as well as they say they are.
    Texting is fine, but there is nothing like hearing the voices of the people you care about.

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  148. I agree 100%

    I may be a technology junkie, however I do still appreciate simple things like phone conversations or facetoface talk. I think that technology is causing a social disconnect (ironically due to the increase in social networking). People start to lack social skills because they're so used to communicating without having to say a word. We just type or text.

    More and more I see people hanging with friends with their eyes glued on their phones with meager chit chat in between.

    I thoroughly enjoy phone calls, it brings me back to my teenage years. I also enjoy skyping with people too, it's great to hear and see them :D

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  149. Oh my....you do not want to get me started on this. hahaha Once Facebook came around and EVERYONE (including my parents, grandparents and all family) signed up, I get no phone calls. Everyone relies on Facebook to contact me. Which is frustrating because I don't use it daily. Then they are upset because I haven't emailed them back fast enough. BOO! Just call me if something is important!! hahaha I do want to try out Skype. I think that would be fun. :) Two of my very close friends still talk to me on the phone. Usually the calls last 2 hours or longer. Yay!

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