Sunday, April 14, 2013

My Grandparents Visit me in my Dreams...


My late grandparents :)

My mamaw Frances and papaw Gordon have both been gone for a few years now. Since they passed, not a day goes by that they do not enter my thoughts. I often smile at the memory of my mamaw's glorious smile or my papaw's adorable sense of humor. These are some of the most wonderful memories of my lifetime. How I miss them so.
I often dream of mamaw and papaw. They are beautiful dreams that allow me, if only for a moment, to see them again. Even though it saddens me to wake up from these dreams, I am nonetheless grateful that I am filled with the wonderful memories of them that make these very dreams possible.
The relationship between a grandparent and a grandchild is truly a special thing. I think my relationship with my grandparents was especially close due to the fact that I lived with them for a lot of my childhood.  They taught me so many valuable life lessons ; lessons that have helped make me the person I am today.
So here's to you mamaw and papaw...and I look forward to the next time that you visit me in my dreams. 

Do you/did you have a close relationship with your grandparents? Feel free to share your stories.

143 comments:

  1. Glad you were close to them. My grandparents were all special, but I never lived close to them and probably didn't fully appreciate them until after they were gone.
    I do remember one particular dream about my grandfather. He and my favorite dog both passed within the same week, and I dreamed I was walking with my dog when I saw my grandfather on the other side of a stream. He waved, and my dog crossed the bridge and joined him. Somehow, it brought me peace to see them together.

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    1. That's quite a dream, Al.

      I dream a lot about my grandparents who have passed away, too. During some seasons more than others. My cousin was raised by my paternal grandparents and that is a very special relationship, Keith.

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  2. I was never able to see my dad's dad. He was gone many years before I arrived. My grandmother was pretty cool. But as things go, I could not spend too much time with her in my childhood, and its been a few years since she's gone too.

    On my mother's side, things get a little better. My parents were constantly moving, from Kolkata to Noida to Mumbai (all in India) etc., so as a child (1-3 years) I lived with my maternal grandparents, aunts and uncle. Got a lot of love from them before moving to Mumbai with parents in 1993-94. It is hard to think that I would miss them, but they went to Australia last year for 3 months, and I kind of missed them.

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  3. What a wonderful tribute to your grandparents. I was not fortunate enough to know my grandparents. They lived too far away and I only saw them once in my life. I wish it had been different. You are lucky to have had that relationship with them. My kids had that opportunity (only one grandparent is left now), and it's been a blessing for them.

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  4. My grandfather had a stroke just before or around the time I was born, and reverted to his native language, forgetting how to speak English... but it's amazing how little language you need to show someone how much you love them.

    My grandmother, his wife, died when I was 19, leaving me grandparentless... but I sometimes used to smell the cigarettes she smoked so I know she was still hanging around watching over me. I haven't felt her presence for a while, so I guess she thinks I'm doing okay.

    I hadn't realised how much I missed them until I was typing this in tears...

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  5. My mom got married at the age of fourteen and I was born by the time she was fifteen. She was a kid herself and wanted to finish High School. So my grandmother(my dad's mom) practically raised me. Most of the time I would run to her for answers.
    I am not fortunate enough to see either of my Grand Fathers.

    My mom's mom was very loving too, but she had eight other kids besides my mom so she a had house full practically.

    Thank you for sharing your grand parents pic and details about them. Also thank you for asking about my every one else,s grand parents too.

    Happy Dreams:)

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  6. Not terribly close, I never even met my paternal grandfather. He died long before I was born

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  7. I'm so glad you had a wonderful relationship with your grandparents and that they visit you in dreams. I hope you have lots and lots of photos and stories about them.
    My fathers parents lived in the other side of our split house and I spent many happy hours with them. My mothers parents lived in a nearby town. We visited often and I usually spent a week or two of summer with them. Holidays and special occasions always included one or both sets. I also had a great grandmother I saw fairly often.

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  8. Two of my four grandparents died long before I was born. Another died when I was a small child but I have a few memories of her. My one grandfather died when I was 18. He lived about ten miles from us and we saw him perhaps once or twice a month. He was a good guy but not at all affectionate or friendly - mostly gruff and silent. Interesting enough, his demeanor matches my own parents.
    My children grew up with similar absentee grandparents. I know that if I should ever become a grandparent (which is questionable at the moment), I will create my own version of a strong grandparent. The version will not be based on any personal experiences I have had.

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  9. Keith, you definitely were blessed. My last grandparent (grandmother) died when I was 6 years old. The other three were all deceased before I was born. I am a grandmother now, and I am hoping that the memories I am giving to my grandchildren will live in them as your memories of your mamaw and papaw live in you. That would be my best legacy.

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  10. Keith
    I seldom get misty but you done do it today, kiddo. What an adorable couple and with him putting his arms around her and her blowing him a kiss. They taught you far beyond the essentials of life. Your posts prove that. I related because my grandparents mostly raised me too, during the depression and they lived on a farm where there was food. I'm so happy they are still with you and watch over you. You are loved.

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  11. smiles....3 of my grandparents were dead by the time i was 10...though i carry their touches in memory vaguely and were inspired by them as well...my paternal grandfather was a fireman...my maternal a seed man...my maternal grandmother a post master general...the grandmother i have now is ailing...she keeps falling and its hard to watch as life writes the final chapter...i am smiling through watery eyes with this one...

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  12. I was emotionally attached with my grand father.I recall those days,when he used to tell me stories of those religious heroes.He taught me how to offer prayers and holy things.And,i used to be a naughty girl so i always teased him like a lame kid:p...

    Beautiful post:D

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  13. Yeah my grandparents on one side really close with, the other side complete a-holes so never haha

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  14. yes I was very close to my grandparents on my moms side of the family. they were small farmers and I also learned many things from them, and loved them very much. I think of them often

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  15. I was lucky enough to get to know all my grandparents but it was only my maternal ones that I truly loved. Dreaming of them and also my parents ( I like to call it astral travelling) is something I look forward to - it keeps them with me always.

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  16. What sweet memories... I was very close to my grandmother and often stayed with her in the school holidays.

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  17. I always missed them in my life..
    they were dead when I was pretty young.. when I see my friends talking abut their own grand parents.. I really miss that element in my life

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  18. A few years ago, my husband and I went to Italy, and in every little old couple I saw walking arm in arm, a bit hunched, dapperly dressed, I saw my paternal grandparents. It felt surreal...and wonderful. :)

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  19. What a sweet, sweet post. I'm so happy for you, that you had wonderful time with your grandparents.

    We hope that living next door to 5 of our grands, will give them nice memories too, in the future. :-)

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  20. I had a very close relationship with the ones I met. I only met two of them and they thought me so many things that make me the person I am today.
    And if I had the possibility, I would go back to my childhood. That was when I was truly happy. And I would love to be there again instead of having just those happy memories.

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  21. What a touching post, Keith. I too had a close relationship with my grandparents. My grandmother is one of my angels. I feel protected by her and her love will always be with me.

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  22. I only had one grandmother, and she wasn't the warm fuzzy type. I am making up for that with my 4 grandchildren...

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  23. My grandma has entered my dreams a few times, it's like the Lord just wants to give you a little kiss from heaven when this happens.

    Sounds like great grandparents.

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  24. I didn't have much of a relationship with my grandparents. I only knew my father's mother and she passed when I was quite young. I would spend time with her occasionally but I don't remember much. My mother fell out with her parents before I was born and they only reconciled a few years ago. I've met them but I don't know much about them.

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  25. What a sweet post, Keith. I love the idea you have of being with your grandparents in dreams.
    My maternal grandmother lived with us during my childhood and I was VERY attached to her. She was born in Spain and was raised in the countryside. She migrated to Argentina when she was fourteen years old and didn't have much of an education, but she worked hard during her life, always putting others first. I guess her life was all about sacrifice; she never thought much about herself, she never considered her own needs. It was the way women were raised in those days, I suppose.

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  26. My grandparents on both sides all did when I was very young so don't remember much about them I'm afraid.

    Glad you managed to have a special link with them though.

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  27. that is really sweet. as the youngest of 8 kids, with my father as the youngest of 12 and my mother as the youngest of 8, i never knew any of my grandparents. the last one died when i was 1.

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  28. What a lovely tribute to your special grandparents. I had a grandmother that was just as special. She died in the 70s and yet I still think about her often.

    Have a terrific day. :)

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  29. Lovely tribute to your grandparents, great post.

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  30. You are lucky to have such fond memories of your grandparents. Mine died when I was so young that I have no memory of them.

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  31. I see my grandparents in my dreams, too. Usually my grandmothers more than my grandfather. One grandfather died before I was born, and I don't recall ever dreaming of him.

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  32. So sweet.

    When I first moved to the city I currently live in the only family I had outside of my brother was my grandparents, I spent a night a week with them. They were my best friends. My grandmothers health has since declined, but I consider it one of the greatest blessings of my life, that year and half with them.

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  33. How wonderful that you still dream about them... my grandparents were much older when I was born -- my Grandfather died when I was two, but my Mom always tells me I was his fave as I was the last grandchild to be born before he died and my photo was the only one at his bedside when he passed away .... My Mom gave me his rocking chair that he used to sit in and rock me when I was a baby - I still have the chair, in fact it sits right across from where I sit right now :)

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  34. I never knew my dad's parents, they died early and lived in the US. But my mom's parents, especially my grandma "big ma" we called her (she was only 4'11", go figure) I had a special relationship with. I've blogged about her several times, you've inspired me to revisit that post Keith.

    And I've replied to your comment here:

    http://mypoeticpath.wordpress.com/2013/04/12/parents-quiet-heroes/#comment-6957

    thank you for your kind words!

    Happy Week and thanks for all your inspiring and entertaining posts. I've said it before, but it's always a pleasure stopping by here. :<)

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  35. I lived within walking distance of my grandparents and was there way more than I was home. This is a great post. I've dreamt of my grandmother before but it's rare. I wish it happened more. :)

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  36. I had a very close relationship with my grandmother... I spent time with her where I felt free to be myself. I was living with my dad and ex step mother but she (Ruth) would not allow us to be ourselves... so it was nice to have a place where I could be myself all the time. I miss her a lot and I think about her often:)

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  37. I did have a close relationship with my grandparents and still do although they have all passed. I also think of them daily and hug them in my heart. I believe our loved ones are always with us through our love for them.
    Yours are absolutely adorable!

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  38. I've been meaning to write about my grandparents, and your beautiful post has inspired me to do so in the near future.
    Both of my grandfathers died when I was extremely young, but I was very close to my grandmothers - who made a strong impression on my life.
    So - - your grandparents were Gordons! My great-grandfather was John Gordon!

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  39. I was fairly close to my grandmother on my mother's side of the family. We'd talk about politics and history a lot. She's the one who taught me it takes a bigger man to walk away from a fight than to get into one. I lived with her for about eighteen months after my x-wife and I split up. When my grandmother died I got a tattoo in memorandum.

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  40. In answer to your question, yes -- I was close to four grandparents and a great-grandmother. I had many senior citizens in my life when I was growing up; surely, it shaped my thinking and my ways of relating to people.

    Another thought: some of my friends -- rational, well-educated people -- believe that dreaming about someone who has passed away is an indication that the person wants to communicate with you. My regard for dreams tends to be more informed by psychology, but I respect those other viewpoints because I respect the people who offer them.

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  41. Sweet :) They look adorable.

    You and I must've been friends in a past life or something...it's incredible how much spiritual-related things we have in common. I've been dreaming about my Mémère (grandma in Acadian French) a lot lately.

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  42. Growing up, I was blessed to know two sets of grandparents. They did all sorts of good stuff with my sisters and me. Like you, I think of and miss them everyday. Now, I'm having fun building a relationship with our grandson. You're right, it really is a special bond!

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  43. I was really close to my grandmother and never knew my grandfather. All the elders have passed away including my mother and father. I miss them all and sometimes dream about them. Have a happy Sunday!

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  44. What a lovely post about your grandparents. I did not know my paternal grandparents – they lived in Istanbul, Turkey and my grandpa there passed away before I was born. I knew my grandparents in France and adored them. I got along tremendously well with my granddad, much better than with my dad. My granddad lived to 91 years old and passed away a year before my father. I wrote several posts about my mother’s childhood and in a post in June 2010 I show pictures of him – he was very tall. Here is the link if you’d like to see him http://avagabonde.blogspot.com/2010/06/in-my-last-post-about-my-mothers-youth.html

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  45. you have me close to tears with this post, and the closeness you felt with your grandparents. Mine on both sides had all passed away by the time I was 15 years old. I only truly remember my maternal grandmother and they are fond memories. sigh.

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  46. YOur post really touched me. Growing up following our biologist Dad around for his job our grandmother's homes were the homes we came back too. They represented love, stability, and place we were never strangers. Grandpa was wonderful too, loving, a character for sure, full of jokes, and dancehall songs from London where he was born. I dream about them, being in their houses, and you described it, it's painfully real. Miss them.

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  47. I can only remember my paternal grandfather, my other grandparents died before I was born. Yes, he was very special too. He lived with us on the farm where I spent my childhood and used to have the most wonderful lilies and chrysanthemums in his garden. His love of gardening must have rubbed off on both me and my sister. We spent such happy times helping him.

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  48. This post melted my heart. It's almost as if I had written it myself about my own grandparents. It truly is a special relationship. Thank you for sharing yours with us. As always, I love your posts!

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  49. The older I get the more nostalgic I get for all the people who have gone, grandparents included. I look at photos of them and somehow 'see' them more now, than I did when they were alive. I would love to talk to them now.

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  50. Lovely post, Keith. My grandparents passed when I was little, and, yes, they would often visit me in my dreams. :)

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  51. What a wonderful tribute to your grandparents. I spent more time with my dad's parents because they lived just a couple houses away from us growing up. I just loved them so much. I loved playing grocery store and my grandma would take out all her canned goods and place them around the kitchen and then I would pretend to ring up her groceries and bag them. They were pretty much up for anything I wanted to do while I was there. I treasured the time they spent with me. I hope my grandchildren will have great memories of me like that.

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  52. Oh I understand this I miss my Grandparents so much too. I think we are the lucky ones that had that special love that only Grandparents can give. I am sorry more children do not have a chance to experience this now a days. You are better for that relationship of unconditional love just as I was.
    Love that photo I see mine in my dreams too. I love that. B

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  53. This is a beautiful post filled with love Keith. My grandparents on both sides lived quite a distance away so time spent with them was rare. They all were gone by the time I was an adult. Sadly I don't have any grandchildren.

    Your grandparents (your guardian angels) are smiling down on you today.

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  54. They will never leave you and for that I am grateful for you. How fortunate you were to have them in your life. I miss my grandparents, aunts and uncles and Mom and Dad so much. Hang on to these wonderful memories. They are sure to be so proud of you.

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  55. While my father's parents died long before I was born, I knew my mother's parents quite well.
    She a homemaker of Slovak descent, he a bartender of Irish (talk about your stereotypes!). What cool people they were, with a collection of idiosyncracies all their own. I wonder how the next generation of Penwassers (and Penwasser relations) will view me and Mrs as we continue to age.
    At the very least, while not a bartender, this grandson of an Irishman likes to have a drink or two (talk about your stereotypes!).

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  56. You truly are blessed. Three of my grandparents died before I was born. My last grandparent died when I was under two years of age, so I have no memory of him.

    Although my parents were around throughout my entire childhood and into my thirties, they are now gone too. I've had several delightful dreams in which a parent comes to visit me, so I understand your joy.

    http://joycelansky.blogspot.com

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  57. I was really close to my grandma. I was her favorite. :p

    I spent every weekend at her house. I'd spend the night, and every Sunday morning we'd go to the local 711 and she'd let me get 3 pieces of candy or 1 piece of candy and an icee. She always offered to buy me a new Little Golden Book, too. (She taught me to read through those books, and unfortunately my evil little cousins stole them).

    She had an unhappy life, but she was a great person. She never, not once, said a bad word about anybody... even those that definitely deserved it. She was a HUGE animal lover. She really, really loved her dogs and always said that her job after she passed was going to be taking care of animals. (My own uncle never knew this, yet after one of our dogs died he had a dream where Grandma was doing just that. That was proof enough for me. In his dream he even saw rows upon rows of little doggy beds with their names carved on them. Lol! Like the dwarf's beds in the Snow White cartoon).

    Kristin

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  58. Oh, this is just a wonderful picture, and how good that you have it!! My grandmother helped raise me and spoiled me, like all grandparents. It IS a really special bond. For one thing, I think we mellow as we get older, and we also now want to make up for the mistakes we made as parents.

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  59. Beautiful dreams, Keith. I was close to my Maternal Grandmother as a child, and she influenced my whole life. When I am a Grandmother I want to make sure all my Grandchildren feel as special as she made me feel. xx

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  60. Wonderful picture!

    I was really close to my mom's mother. She died nearly three years ago, and I think about her a lot.

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  61. You are lucky to have that relationship with your grandparents. Mine are all dead now but I knew them very briefly. I hope to have deeper relationship with my grandchildren someday.

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  62. Just because people leave us is no reason not to miss them or think fondly of them.
    I write a blog which I have entitled “Accordingtothebook” and I’d like to invite you to follow it. I’m your newest follower.

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  63. i miss my grandparents that went on, i have one grandma left (need to go visit her!)
    i hate being far from them and now my kids are far from their grandparents. moving stinks!! and travel is expensive & time consuming. wish we lived closer...

    i also liked your rain post. i like spring rain & storms. they mean warmer weather is coming!

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  64. What a beautiful post. Grandparents like the ones you had, like the ones I had, like the ones so many had, are true blessings. It's a special thing to still see them in your dreams.

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  65. Hi Keith,

    Your wondrous relationship with your grandparents is most inspiring. Sadly, even in my dreams, do I have any happy recollections of my grandparents. Such is life, my friend.

    Be well, Keith.

    Gary

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  66. Two of my grandparents died before I was born, and the other two died when I was young. I didn't get the same "grandparent" experience like a lot of people. I had great aunts and uncles that made up for it but I wish I had been able to know my grandparents better.

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  67. I have been without grandparents for many years. My maternal grandmother lived nearby, so we saw one another daily. My maternal grandfather lived in town with his second wife, and we didn't see him very often at all. My paternal grandparents also lived in town, though we visited them rather often. My paternal grandmother was a good old-fashioned cook, and she expected family members to come for Sunday lunch or holidays.

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  68. Oh, that is just awesome! :D I love that you are so close to your "pawpaw" and "Mawmaw" (love the names, too! :)I loved my grandparents a lot, too, but I called them "Grandma" and "Papa." I had a photo of them in my living room, then by my bed stand for a long time. I need a permanent place for those photos; I miss them. By the way, I imerse myself in doing genealogy once a week. Mostly I help other people do theirs as well. I work at a local Family Search Center through the Latter Day Saint church. The Genealogy services through them are free! :) That's just how important families are... If you haven't taken up genealogy, you should try it! I think you would really grow close to your ancestors. It is so much fun learning who they are and all kinds of little things about them. I look forward to seeing them after I grow old and pass on to the other side, especially since I will have gotten to know and love them through researching their genealogy.
    Well, enough for now. Have a great day, friend! :D

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  69. Can't say I've ever dreamed about my grandparents. I knew them, of course, and my paternal grandmother and fraternal grandfather were at my wedding back in 1974. Their spouses were deceased. So I knew them, and have nothing but good memories of them. Can't say that about very many things.

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  70. I had a great relationship with both my grandmothers.

    My dad's mom had 8 grandchildren, numerous great grandchildren and even a few great great ones. She died at 97.
    All of us grandkids were talking and come to find out that we all thought WE were the favorite!! She was a special lady!!

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  71. What a lovely post! I love the photo of your grandparents. I'm so glad you see them in your dreams!

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  72. my grandfather passed away just after i turned 8. i think about him a lot. my mom always tells me he would be so proud of me.

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  73. No. My mom's parents died before I was born. My dad's mom died when I was 3 so I don't really remember her. My grandfather was a not the grandfatherly type. His wife tried and I was very appreciative of her efforts. That being said, my parents live less than a mile from us and see my daughter on a daily basis. That was a routine that started when she was born and was in the NICU. It still continues to this day. I love that she has a special relationship with her Oma and Papa that I hope lasts for some time to come.

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  74. I actually didn't really have any sort of relationship with my grandparents. Both of my dad's parents died far before I was born. We visited my mom's family on occasion, but not too often. My mom's dad was probably who I was closest with and he passed almost 10 years ago.

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  75. My grandparents passed away some time ago too but like you it's impossible to forget them. I really regret that my children were never able to really know them. The things they passed on to me I fully intend to pay forward!

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  76. That is so sweet. I called my grandparents Mamaw and Papaw too. I liked with my mamaw for a year when I was 11 after my parents got divorced and they both went off the deep end. I was pretty close with both of my grandparents.

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  77. Great to hear you had such a wonderful relationship with them! I agree, that relationship can be so special. My grandparents are all deceased except for my step-grandfather. They all have been on my mind a lot lately.

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  78. It is sad for some children who don't have loving and wonderful grandparents for whatever reason.

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  79. It's ironic that you posted this post today...this week marks a year that I lost my frist grandparent, my late grandma. It's weird I don't think I've dreamt of her yet but everytime I hear something funny or I hear something similar that she used to say I hear her laugh in my head and I can see a vision of her laughing. It makes me cry sometimes because I hear her laugh so powerful like she's right there with me but then I'm so grateful to have that memory that vision of her in my heart. =)

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  80. With my mom's side I have TONS of memories. They were so great together. My Grandpa is still alive. My Grandma just passed away this last fall. We were glad for her because she was really sick with Alzheimer's disease. We didn't like watching her suffer.

    I was lucky to know my Great Grandma. She passed away when I was a freshman in high school. She was sane, and so interesting up until she broke her hip a few months before her death.

    With my dad's side not as much. My Grandpa was a Christian Scientist and didn't believe in going to the doctor. My Grandma that had my dad died when my dad was only a few years old. The story is, is that she died because my Grandpa didn't take her to the hospital when she needed to go. Then the Grandma that raised my dad had a stroke when my dad had just gotten married. Again she wasn't taken to the hospital; she sadly died. He got married a 3rd time to the only Grandma I knew. They were so opposite. She was a Filipino Catholic and went to the doctor whenever she wanted to. HA! She is still living in LA. He passed away 5 years ago.

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  81. My grandfather lived with us from when my sister was born until she was in high school. When he passed a few years ago, all of us, especially my sister, were devastated. As you said, it is a very special bond and I know one that I'll keep close to my heart for always

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  82. i can understand what you're writing.. i feel the same too. mine have passed away too but i often dream of them. I'm sure a part of them lives inside of us for ever..

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  83. I was really close to one of my grandmothers. I have such fond memories of spending several weeks in the Summer with her.

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  84. Never knew my Dad's parents. I couldn't really talk to my other Grandfather but my other Grandmother is alive and well and I hope it stays that way.

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  85. My grandparents taught me unconditional love ... they was with me shortly ... and perhaps long enough that I felt what love is ...I have an unusual conection with them in my heart, soul, dreams ...

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  86. I am only close with one side of my grandparents, I used to go over to my grannies house all the time for lunch during the school week. Can't wait to see her this week!

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  87. As a child I and my parents lived with my maternal grandparents. The relationship was very warm.

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  88. This is beautiful. I didn't get a chance to have a relationship with my grandparents.

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  89. There is a school of thought that says those visits are real...keep enjoying them! My grandparents were all passed before I turned 5, but I do remember my Grandma C giving me a dime to spend when we picked her up from her house to take her to our house (in a different town).

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  90. awwww i loved this post---i was close to all of my grandparents and i too dream of them so often---those are some of the most vivid dreams i have :)

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  91. I loved my Nan and Granny. Nan was beautiful, pretty much deaf, and on the quiet side. Granny was WILD! First woman in her county (maybe her state) to have a drivers license. Bore 5 sons at home. Was a health nut opening windows every single day of the year and taking sun the same. My mother says I "parent" like her. I take that as a compliment.
    Didn't know my grandfathers well. That's probably obvious by this post!

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  92. It's a blessing to have grand parents. I don't do as much as I should for them.
    They visiting you in your dreams must have something beautiful along. You should be glad you don't carry anything worth regreting in that.
    When my granpa died, I was filled with remote and for years blamed myself for his heart attack. This was until in one of my dreams I saw him telling someone that it wasn't my fault.
    Love is a beautiful thing. I hope there's a lot more for you in this world :)


    Btw, I wrote the last post as you asked me to. :)

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  93. What a sweet tribute to your grandparents. I remember my maternal grandmother very well. She lived with my family for a long time. She was an uncomplicated woman with the heart of gold. I do miss her presence.

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  94. Grandparents are very special people no doubt!
    I've always lived far from my grandparents and therefore whenever they came to visit it was a very special treat.

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  95. Yes - my paternal grandfather in particular. It was lovely to have my daughter spend time with him (and still be able to remember him) before he died when she was six years old and he was ninety two.

    I've blogged about him here - http://blurbfromtheburbs.blogspot.ch/2007/01/trifling-tomato-tussles-jack-herbert.html

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  96. How wonderful that you still feel their presence. You are blessed to have them and been so close.

    Play off the Page

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  97. Such meaningful & special dreams you have.
    I never got to meet my dad's parents. I met my Grammy once, when she came to America from England. I was four.
    It's makes me sad that I never got to know my grandparents. It would reveal so much about my own folks, if I could have spent time with them.
    Lucky you. :)

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  98. 4/15

    your comment in my blog: "It always bothers me how healthy eating is promotes yet the heatly food is so expensive that people on the lower end of the socioeconomic spectrum can't afford it! "

    have you ever done any research, into the "WHY" of this??? ever read "food inc." - "fast food nation" - "The Omnivore's Dilemma" - etc.????

    me'thinks we need to do more looking into many issues, for ourselves. there are eye-opening things, out there.

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  99. What a great post. Grandparents are so special. Thanks for sharing!

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  100. Sadly, I never knew any of my grandparents. My parents were in their late forties when I was born, so mine had already passed away.
    Strangely, though, I really miss them!

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  101. Both sets of my grandparents were polar opposites from one another. One set was rich with cold personalities, and the other set didn't have much, but there was lots of love (and food). Guess which ones I miss? Glad you had that relationship with yours. :)

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  102. I can relate to your post, my friend.
    Wonderfully written.

    I was close to my grandmother and grandfather.

    I spent part of my childhood with them.
    He loved polithics and to talk and she loved culture and she liked French language and to cook.
    They had plenty of books...they loved to read and collect.

    I really miss them both.

    Take care, my friend

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  103. so sweet! love this post! I lost my grandmother about 16 years ago and like you...think of her daily. I loved my granddad too, but not like her. And on my other side..they were gone before I was born.

    My grandmother formed who I was with her sweet gentle kind spirit. I never not once heard her say one single ugly word, smoke a cigarette or take a drink of anything other than sweet tea.

    Now that I have my own grand daughter, I realize two things

    1. she had a life
    2. she loved me beyond belief

    and I suppose the 3rd thing? as you so wonderfully express...the power and influence a person can have on another...I want to be like her, she is my example!

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  104. I absolutely loved my Grandad. I miss him so much but am glad I was lucky enough to have him as my Grandfather :)

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  105. Hi OE! I loved the photo of your grandparents! I had wonderful relationships with my grandmothers, but my grandfather MacDonald died long before I was born, and my grandfather MacBeath died just a few months after I was born. But I had the most fabulous great uncles! Hope your day is going well!

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  106. I never knew my Grandfathers as they passed before I was born and my mom's mother died when I was only 4. So I only had one grandparent who was difficult to really know- or maybe I just didn't know what questions to ask. Lucky you to have such wonderful memories.

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  107. This post made me a little misty eyed! It's nice to think they may never be really gone...

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  108. i only knew my mother's parents, and we always spent a lot of time with them. it's strange how i seem to stop having dreams about people once they die, only recently i've had dreams with my dad, grandparents etc in them and for me it just feels really odd! x

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  109. No way, no one could care like grandparents in this world! I lost both my father come parents… but my maternal grandparents are there and I can’t say how much I love both of them. My grandfather is not well now, is really disturbing me more these day.

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  110. I didn't know my paternal grandparents. Wish I would have had that opportunity as they seemed like fascinating people. Both of my maternal grandparents passed 2 years ago. My grandma spent a ton of time with my sister and I when we were little. She made sure we were at church with her 3 days a week, and had us spend the night quite often. I remember how she didn't impose limits on the peanut butter and always let us use as much as we wanted. I can't wait to be a grandma some day! There is noting like the bond you have with your grandma!

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  111. Oh my gosh, that picture is adorable! You can see how spirited and in love they are. I only really knew my grandmothers, one of whom was the inspiration for my blog. I love to see my kids with their grandparents now. It truly is a special bond. :)

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  112. I didn't know my maternal grandmother (she died when I was a baby) and my maternal grandfather died when I was young. I do remember him, but not extremely well.

    My Nana & Papap, my dad's parents, passed in 2008 and 2010, respectively. I loved my Nana very much. I, too, dream about my grandparents from time to time. I have nothing but happy memories about the two of them--staying at their house in the summer, riding my bike in their neighborhood, the way their thick, green lawn felt under my bare feet. So many little intricacies come together to combine lovely remembrances of them.

    I wish very much that Nana would have known my daughter because she would have LOVED her so much. But truly, I know that she's watching over her, everyday.

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  113. I only ever knew my granny Blackhall, my mum's mum. She died when I was nine but, as with yourself' she lived with us. She was a funny woman and I remember my older brothers teasing the life out her. My kids and my dad had a close relationship. There's no grandparents left now.

    I am in awe of mamaw Frances and papaw Gordon in the snap. And I'm glad to say I have similar snaps at home. Grandparents are paramount in life.

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  114. Loved my grandparents! Only my maternal grandmother left, and she is my angel. :) I never knew my paternal grandparents as they dies before I was born. Sometimes though, I really feel they have come to me in my dreams... Lovely article, Keith.

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  115. I loved both sets of grandparents very much. Even the half who were "step." They treated me as though I was theirs and ill never forget that kindness.

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  116. Keith
    Your most. Personal and move post

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  117. Very touching...I hope my grandson feels the same way about my Frank and I some day.

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  118. you're very lucky to have had that relationship :) I only had one grandmother alive when I was young and she was in a seniors home by that time, crippled with dementia. I would very much liked to have met my grandparents.

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  119. My grandma died 2 years ago. She was almost 100 years old - just 4 months shy of it. My whole family was very close to her - she was the shining star of the family! I feel so lucky that my kids were able to know her from day one and have a close relationship with her into their adult years. She attended 2 of their college graduations! My parents have also played a big role in my children's lives, and I hope to carry on the tradition with my grandchildren.

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  120. Writing just to say: such a sweet post :)

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  121. My grandparents have been gone many years but I think of them often. I wrote a column a month or so ago about my grandma.
    The piece resonated with a lot of people because I got a ton of feedback.

    Yours was a great post.
    r

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  122. My father , my grandfather and my uncle they often visit me in my dreams .

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  123. I am very close to my grandparents as well. They were at every birthday party, game ect. I learned how to bake bread from my grandmother and how to do floral arrangements from my other. Special memories. My grandfather is in the hospital right now and it's hard watching him suffer. I love the photo of your grandparents they look like such sweet people!

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  124. I never knew my grandparents however I feel a special link to my grandfather on my dads side. Possibly because of all the stories I've heard from family members.

    I can relate to this, though. I lost my mom right before my 19th birthday. The night after she died she came to me in a dream, she looked peaceful and it was almost as if she wanted me to know she was okay. Every so often she will visit me and it's usually significant to a situation. An example: I was going through a hard time taking care of my dad while he was dying (very slow, old age). My stress level was through the roof due to also taking care of 2 kids and a house as well as dealing with a failing marriage... Needless to say, It didn't take much to upset me and I was in serious need of family / friends support. Anyway, I had a dream that we were having electrical problems and that I went to check the circuit breaker in the garage. On the way I passed the master bedroom where my mom was sitting in a chair we have by the bed. I looked at her and said "it's probably the circuit breaker" and she nodded yes agreeing with me - then I woke up. The next day the outlet in the kitchen wouldn't work. Instead of freaking out thinking "great what else can go wrong" I remembered my dream, checked the breaker and sure enough it had tripped.

    I guess my point to this longwinded comment is that our loved ones -do- visit us! Your grandparents are obviously watching over you and I think that's awesome. :)

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  125. What a lovely story, Keith. So wonderful you have such vivid dreams of your grandparents. I've recently spent time with both my grandmothers as you commented on my blog. I feel so blessed to have them in my life.

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  126. Wonderful memories you have. Bless your heart!

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  127. This is very special. My dad often comes to visit in my dreams, usually when I am going through a hard time.
    Sweet post.

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  128. What an absolutely beautiful post, Keith. I agree-the relationships between a grandchild and grandparent is such a special and unbreakable bond. You, like myself, were blessed with wonderful grandparents and I am so glad you have many fond memories as well.

    Wishing you a fabulous Tuesday, dear friend!

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  129. I'm not as close to grandparents as I used to be. But i think of them often.

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  130. I was close to my grandmother ( father side ) but it all changed 3 years after my father died, It sad to think about it, I guess sometimes things are not really mean to be. There are just some things in life that I don't have any control. I'm not close to my grandparents( mother side) either for the reason that they lived far away.
    I love them, and I think of them often. Hope to see my grandma again :(

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  131. I love the photo, Keith. Unfortunately, in my case, I never got to know my grandparents, as they died before I was born. Except for one...my mother's mother. She died when I was 8, and I don't have many memories of her but the memories I do have are good ones.

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  132. It's very cool that you still dream of them! I only met one of my grandparents--my maternal grandmother. I was a late life child for my parents so my grandmother was older by the time that I was born and we lived in different states for the first nine years of my life. Once I was in the same state as her she had developed dementia. If I told her who my parents were (if I visited with someone other than my mother) she could remember me, but towards the end she didn't really remember anyone. So we weren't as close as we could have been. But I do remember sitting with her and listening to her talk about the "good old days." Also, she was an artist and I always admired her paintings so when she died I was able to get one of her paintings. The one thing I remembered from before the dementia days is visiting her once and she greeted us at the door with a bowl of jelly beans, so now when I see jelly beans I think of her. :)

    Even though we weren't as close as I would have liked, I love that woman more than I can say. She was a very strong, hardworking woman and I really admire her. I named a character after her in the novel that I'm currently working on (which I wrote the first draft of years ago).

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  133. I grew up with my grandparents, but have recently moved out on my own. They now live in a retirement community in Ohio, which I thought would be a tough transition, but they turned out to love it there! I still see them every week and we are still extremely close. Thank you for sharing this post.

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  134. You are so blessed to have been close with your darling Grandparents!
    What a sweet photo!
    I lived with my maternal Grandparents for some time as well, and was also lucky enough to be close with all of them...
    Dreams are magical that way, aren't they?
    Thank you for sharing such dear memories.
    Blessings,
    - Irina

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  135. My MeMaw and PawPaw were so very special to me. I'm pretty positive no one has ever or will ever love me as much as my MeMaw! She had a way of making me feel so safe, warm and comforted. Like I was always wrapped in a comfy blanket and smiling. Her favorite movie was The Way We Were. It has become my favorite. I have amazing, happy memories of them and I am thankful everyday that I got to spend so much of my life with them. :)

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  136. My grandparents were gone before I was born. I used to feel like I really missed out on something. I have to say your grandparents are adorable!

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  137. Beautiful post. I never had a close relationship with my grandparents, they lived far away so I did not get to see them as often as I wish I had. However, my dad passed away nearly two years ago, and not a day goes by that I do not think of him, his way, his smile and wonderful, kind heart, I miss him much. Thank you for sharing your beautiful thoughts about your grandparents.

    Madison:)

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  138. Lovely post. I only had the pleasure of meeting one Grandfather, but have good memories of him visiting every Christmas and staying over for a few days. He was part of my childhood.

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  139. This is so incredibly precious! I know that as a child I was extremely blessed to not only have both sets of grandparents, but to also have each of my grandmother's parents as well! There were the Bells on my dad's side, and the Greats on the other. In the last three years I've lost both my Nanny Bell and my Great Grandmother, and earlier this year I lost my Great Granddaddy too. The loss of my Grandaddy was of course sad, but it was uplifting to know that after being together for almost 70 someodd years and then two years apart, he was with my Great Grandmother once again. In general, old people are precious and I can only hope that my children will get to be as lucky as I was. (But that involves some playing with fire... and growing up... lol)

    I also want to apologize for not keeping up with all of your musings, you know how crazy life gets(:

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  140. My Mom and I moved in with my grandparents when I was a tiny baby. I stayed there even after Mom moved out when I was 14. I miss them every day. My granddad was the dad I never had. I never see them in my dreams, but unlike most people, I hardly ever dream.

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