Thursday, August 8, 2013

Love at First Sight?


Leonard Whiting and Olivia Hussey in the 1968 version of Romeo and Juliet.

Love at first sight. We’ve seen it in many a movie and read about it in many a Shakespearean story. I’ve always been intrigued by the concept and, as naïve as it sounds, I’ve always believed in it.

What about you dear readers? What are your thoughts on love at first sight? Is it hogwash? Real? Or something else?

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  1. I do believe in it but I believe it's exceedingly rare

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  2. Very romantic post ! So many people have written about love at first sight so it may be true.

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  3. Of course, I believe in love at first sight.

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  4. I believe in lust at first sight but not love.

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  5. Just Keepin It Real, Folks! has it nailed.

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  6. I loved that movie, I love romance, but not sure I believe in love at first sight, maybe an instant attraction...

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  7. Oh I hope you got my email on the usb hub info!

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  8. I also believe what Just Keepin it Real, Folks! has said.

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  9. My mother fell in love with her husband at first sight. He did not, however. It took seven years of their blissfully dating for them to decide to get married. Also, I once met a man in a waiting area, seeing only his shoes, and I immediately felt a connection to him. I don't know that it was love and I couldn't tell you a thing about his shoes except that they were black. I only know that the response I experienced was immediate and completely illogical.

    The problem here is defining terms, however. There are degrees of love and we all know that the English language lacks the nuances necessary to truly convey the varying types of emotions that are labeled with the single word. What I feel for my husband is different from what I feel for my children which is different from what I feel for my friends, yet I love them all.

    So love at first sight? Yes. Sustaining love that can hold a relationship together through sickness and health? That is something that develops over time. I've had brilliant relationships with people standing at a checkout or even sitting at a bar. But lasting relationships take time. Until we can come up with better terms for the full spectrum of what love is, the question itself is almost irrelevant.

    PS: A few weeks later I had sex with the guy with the shoes and it was amazing! Call it lust at first sight or whatever, the lust lasted over a year and almost ended in our getting married. O_o

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    1. I really appreciate your insight as to the varying degrees of love and our lack of truly defining terms. I think that's key.

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  10. I believe in it, but didn't always and that lead to bad decisions in the romantic department.

    I think we should all be taught that it absolutely exists, and that unless you feel that head over heals, slightly sick feeling, that sometimes overwhelming, magical, intense connection, that feeling of being "in love", it does not mean that it doesn't exist, but simply that you have not met the right person - yet.

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  11. Real :)
    I saw Brian, loved him at first sight ... married for 5 years now :)

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  12. i believe in something along those lines. for me it was a i-want-to-know-everything-there-is-to-know-about-him-and-i-want-to-know-why- at first sight. :) so, yeah.... pretty much.

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  13. Not so much, I don't believe in it. At least not for me. I've never felt love at first site. Of the men I've loved (not many) I didn't even feel attracted to them till I got to know them. Maybe I'm weird :)

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  14. hey i am a walking example...smiles...the first time i saw my wife, i told my friend i was going to marry her...and i did...ha...had never thought like that before, but it worked...almost 20 years now...

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    1. AWESOME! My husband told me on our FIRST date that he was going to marry me! He did, too... 4 months later - 24 years ago! :) Happy for you and your wife, too! :D

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  15. Love at first sight? Ummhh, doesn't work for me. I'd like to know the person first before my feelings put into place.

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  16. Oh I do believe in it and still experience it!
    Anna :o]

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  17. Nope. Not love at first sight. LUST ..... just pure old physical attraction. Then, maybe with some time it can go either way but usually after the lust is satisfied, people tend to go back on their own path.
    It's a nice romantic thought, though.

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    1. Wow, that's exactly what I just said. Well, not EXACTLY. But, I did use the LUST example. Good one!
      I really oughta read comments before I comment.

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  18. I don't know that true love can bloom at first sight, but I do think something special can spark then and quickly turn into love- happened to me when I first saw my husband as a freshman in high school~

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  19. Heeeeeey! Are you in love?! :D

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  20. Yes, I believe that those who are open to it recognize something in the other person that makes them just "know" that this person is a good match for them. We are all intuitive beings, if we allow ourselves to be.

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  21. Oh I'd love to believe it's real!
    Unfortunately, experience has left me with too many doubts!

    I kinda get the feeling you're in love too?
    If love at first sight is real, then please let me know...I'm so in need of having my faith restored!!

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  22. Can't really weigh in on this one, though we have a daughter who has had this experience.

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  23. Good question! Can't say that it's ever happened to me, but I suppose maybe it does happen.

    Have a great weekend!

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  24. Oh yes, it's real, and a wonderful thing it is too! :)

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  25. It definitely works for some!

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  26. It's happened to me once. And I'll never forget that moment for as long as I live...cheers for this inspiring post, Keith ;-)

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  27. when i saw my first husband walk into the bank where i worked, i had no idea who he was, but as i rounded the corner to the break room, i said in my head, 'that's the man i'm going to marry.' when i found out later he was the grandson of the bank's owner, i was disappointed as i didn't want a spoiled rich kid (and should have run for my life!) but it was more of a 'fact' hitting me broadside than love at first sight. and he was very poor - with a whole lot of 'i was raised with certain expectations and entitlements' attitude. *sigh*

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  28. Love at FIRST sight? I don't buy it. Now, I'll buy LUST at first sight (and I am NOT being a wise guy).
    Love very SOON after first sight? Sure, that can happen. Once you start interacting as people, absolutely.
    But, before he/she opens their mouth? Nope.

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  29. i have always believed in it - i just think it's very, very rare. not as common as shakespeare would have us believe

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  30. It is just a plot point to make the movies/tv go faster and so they don't have to spend time going through the motions. Lust yes, love doubtful.

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  31. Oh, since you brought up Romeo and Juliet and their love at first sight...
    We all know how THAT turned out.

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  32. I've experienced lust at first sight, but love no!

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  33. I do believe I do believe I do truly believe. B

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  34. Not for me, I have to get to know someone first. However my Dad insisted that was how it was for him the first time he saw Mom. Romeo and Juliet were only 13 or 14 and lived in a time where many were dead by 30, I don't imagine there were a lot of reasons to wait, and repeat they were about 13. I loved that film too, love at first sight.

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    1. My sister married a man 6 months after she met him at the age of 18. I told her she was crazy! (I was 17 at the time). I was going to go to college FIRST, know a guy for at least 5 years first... (yada yada) Then, 6 months later I met Miles. Two months later we began dating. And four months later I married him. That was 24 years ago! :) I was SO IN LOVE - SO INSTANTLY!
      Our Story - http://corinesmiles.blogspot.com/2010/08/twenty-one-years-and-counting.html

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  35. Love comes with obligation and responsibility. No such thing as "free love" and that takes time and investment.

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    1. ...so true! There are instant attractions though, strong enough to help people get through all that hard working time and investment! :)

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  36. hogwash, I don't think anyone in a 6 month or less relationship really experiences "love".

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    1. I think I may understand where you are coming from. But I have another insight as well... feel free to read my comment below if interested! :)

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  37. I'll tell ya... when my hubby turned around from his seat our junior year in chemistry class, I was done for. It was always him. So I totally believe in instant chemistry, instant connection, and yes, I do believe in instant love---love just grows. It may be small at first, but I think it can be there instantaneously. :-)

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  38. Instant love? Perhaps- but it takes time to really love someone- warts and all!

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  39. I'm in the "I believe" column. I think it has more to do with chemistry at first and then the love comes later, but you can't mess with chemistry. It's a mighty powerful feeling.

    Have a terrific day. ☺

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  40. I think you can know instant love. When I met my husband, I knew he was "the one". And he did too.

    Meanwhile, loved that production of Romeo and Juliet. I think it's the best movie version ever.

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  41. I believe that love is a VERB. It is about sacrificing for others and doing what it takes to make another person happy - every bit as much as you work to make your own life happy. It is selfless and giving. You can't have done that with someone you just met - AND YET... There are those who experience SUCH A CHEMISTRY OF ATTRACTION that the DESIRE to love them and be with them is there INSTANTLY.

    My husband and I experienced such an attraction. Go to the following link if you want to read our romantic story! :) http://corinesmiles.blogspot.com/2010/08/twenty-one-years-and-counting.html

    I didn't think it was possible until it happened. On our first date he told me he was going to marry me (by the way, I knew before we even dated that I would marry him - I don't know how I knew - I just did, and can't explain it.) It really did feel like love at first sight (or close to it), though I realized years later what love really was... We were married after a 4 month courtship. That was 24 years ago. Instant love. Sometimes I think we must have loved each other before...

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  42. LOL - I haven't read all of your comments, but I glanced through and read and commented on a few of them. Sorry if I over did it here today! :O It was fun though! :D Thanks for making it possible!
    Corine :D

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    1. I was also glancing through the comments and saw your name and have to ask if your name is pronounced like "Kor-een" or "Kuh-rin"? My daughter is Corrine and I wish we would have spelled it Coreen because people always call her Kuh-rin. Drive me crazy.

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  43. I guess I can only say for my own experience. I believe it...felt it and the one I felt it for I still do after 16 years of marriage.

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  44. I do, though it didn't occur for me, but the other person, in Florence a few years ago. I definitely felt an initial energetic connection, but he was head over heels at first sight. It took me almost a whole evening together before I was convinced. It was a passionate love affair, but sadly did not end with us together. Luckily, we are still friends.

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  45. The first time you see someone, you know nothing about them, so you cannot love what you don't know. Being IN love with what we see is one thing, but not a true or abiding love. That comes as we get to know the person. Sorry, all you romantics out there!!!

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  46. i don't believe in love at the first sight, but i do believe in 'something' at the first sight.

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  47. I believe more in "connection" at first sight. I think there can be an instant connection between people--something that pulls them together, a spark maybe. I think love builds over time. But I wouldn't argue against someone who says they experienced love at first sight because what do I know about their experience? :-)

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  48. I definitely believe in it. My hubby says he knew he was going to marry me and here we are almost eight years later.

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  49. Love at first sight - No. Lust at first sight - Definitely

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  50. I believe in love at first sight. But it could mean, as some have mentioned, a connection, a love of who they are, friendship love, or a love of the mystery of that person which can then grow into a romantic and deep love for one another. But as all that is too complicated to distinguish sometimes, love at first sight is simple and beautiful and real.

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  51. Love at first sight ... some say it happens, and some don't.

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  52. I think you can definitely feel something at first sight, but true love develops when you come to know that person all the way through. Lust may be that intitial feeling, maybe compassion, maybe some other form of intrigue . . . but in Romeo and Juliet situations, I think you more time before you can really say you love eachother. However, like stated before, I can't really be the one to judge someone else's experience.

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  53. I never had many boyfriends prior to my husband but when someone introduced us one day in March I remember looking in his eyes and thinking "This is the one"... we married in July of 1999 we've been married for 14 years :)

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  54. I don't think you can necessarily be in love at first sight, but you can definitely have a real interest in someone at first sight. I think in order to really love someone, you have to know them first, which would mean spending a lot of time together. I guess I believe in infatuation at first sight :)

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  55. Yep! Love at first sight. Yep! :) Still in love with my "love at first sight". Been together 13 years and haven't been apart for more then a few days. We are together 24/7 and always have been. Weird. lol.

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  56. I suppose it depends upon your definition of love, really. I believe that you can be very attracted to someone, and can even feel a real connection with them. I think that sometimes when you know, you know (you know? lol), but also that love is developed through daily interactions and decisions that we make. I think love is when you value someone's well-being equal to and above your own, and you will act in their best interest. So I suppose it's possible to love someone you just met, though it's exceedingly rare. Most often, it must be developed over time, brought to bloom through much care. But you know what? Yeah, I do believe in love at first sight, if the two people are the right kind of people. (This, of course, is not to be confused with lust at first sight, which is your garden variety physical attraction.)

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  57. REAL! Well.. love at first meeting I guess. I loved Joe the first night I met him. I lusted him on first sight though, that's for sure. He's amazing!

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  58. I think love at first sight is somewhat related to our past lives and relations

    sounds a bit odd but thats what I feel!

    we have a song in Hindi 'tera mujhse hai pehle ka nata koi; yun hi nai dil lubhata koi' which means we are attracted to people that we had some past life relations with, not every one can charm us.

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  59. Could be, but I think that loving someone ( in the romantic sense) is something you grow into or grow out of.

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  60. Yes, there is lust at first sight, I agree with what some others have said in that regard, which isn't love. But I also agree with what Joy said. Sometimes you just know. When I first met my husband. I felt an immediate feeling like 'click...that's it! match made'. I have never experienced that feeling at any other time. He says he knew the first time he saw me that he was going to marry me. We were married 5 and a half months later and just celebrated our 15th anniversary. I don't think it always happens this way for everybody though. And we have have definitely learned how to really love each other...and that takes time!

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  61. The absolute love of my life for almost 20 years was NOT love at first site. He asked me out for 6 months before I would even go to lunch with him. Love grew from that first lunch but it wasn't instant when I met him or with first date.

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  62. I suppose love at first sight does exist, but it's more rare than hen's teeth.
    Strong initial romantic feelings are usually only infatuation or lust.

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  63. Yep true believer I fell in when I opened the door to my husband 23 years ago. We are married for 22 years

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  64. I think it does exist for some people. Not everybody has the same karma.

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  65. Oh it's real alright. Happened to me an my husband and we've been married for 41 years!

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  66. I am gay.... But I must admit Olivia Hussey was one absolutely beautiful woman.. The perfect Juliet

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  67. Do I believe in love at first sight?
    No
    Third or fourth perhaps

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  68. My husband says it was love at first sight for him. It took me three years :-)

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  69. Love at first sight exists for me and not only with people but with nature and animals also. I fall in love at first sight many, many times all year long.
    Your photo brings back my favorite Romeo and Juliet movie to date. Thanks for reminding me of the mysterious spell of love Keith!

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  70. Of course it exists - but whether it lasts or not is another matter.

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  71. I don't know that I believe in love at first sight... but I do believe in instant attraction, if I don't feel it right away, I never will. I just know... then love has the chance to follow:)

    I think it beautiful if someone has experienced love at first sight... it has just never happened for me... :)

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  72. It's real. I've experienced it. Problem is, the heart and brain work separately. I - er, a friend of mine - have fallen in love virtually at first sight, only to learn what a loser he was when I'd already invested a great deal into the relationship.

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  73. I believe it exists. I have a friend who knew the first second he saw his beloved that he would marry her. He did, and they've been together for years. It's never happened to me, but I have experienced lust at first sight :)

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  74. It is real, Keith. I have lived it and it has endured for over 40 year for me. My heart still skips a beat when I see my love walk through the door. I do believe it was destiny. xo

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  75. Love at first sight is real ... I experienced it when I was 19 years old ... then I waited another 7 years ... just to make sure ... 31 years of marriage later ... I can honestly say ... I still love him as much as I did on day 1 ... :)

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  76. I don't believe in it. It happened to someone I know and it didn't make for a happy marriage. Though part of the problem was their relationship was long distance, so they didn't know each other very well when they got married.

    It wasn't love at first sight or lust at first sight when I met my future husband. It was his friend (who turned out to be a complete loser) who I was first attracted to. LOL

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  77. Yes I do believe in love at first sight. But it must be nurtured to last, and not everybody falls in love this way.

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  78. Nope, I don't believe, but only cause it's never happened to me. Maybe it does.

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  79. In some ways I do but it really depends on how you define love, doesn't it?

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  80. I dont know Keith; I think sometimes happens I would like to believe is true.
    Maybe sometimes....anyway this picture of this movie one of my favorites:)

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  81. I've got mixed feeling on this topic. I think we can be strongly attracted to someone immediately and I do believe there are "kindred spirits" that are drawn to each other, in spite of obstacles, distances...how romantic is that.

    At the same time, for lasting love, the kind that really counts, I think it takes time. You don't get to know anyone overnight, quirks and all. Living with someone and falling in love with someone are two very different things.

    Great photo Keith and thought provoking post, as usual!

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  82. I haven't been by your blog in a while :( and was stunned to read about your scary situation in the ocean!!! It must have been terrifying, so glad to hear you are okay.

    Love at first sight... I think there is a definite instant, unexplained connection that occurs between certain people, makes your heart go thump, thump - must be love :)

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  83. I think love is a very complex emotion, so at first sight I think the more fitting word would be lust.

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  84. I do believe that some people just click - so sure, love at first sight!

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  85. I believe or else why call it Love at first sight?
    Thanks for your visit on my blog.
    I been so busy that I haven't posted lately.
    JB

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  86. Of course! Anything is possible. Attractions can be strong, in just one look.

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  87. I don't know if I believe in love a first sight. I think there is definitely an instant attraction or a sexual chemistry. I like to think there is love at first sight. It's more romantic.

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  88. Well, it's happened to me with my husband (the second one; the first was a bomb...lol...), so I do believe in it. And 11 years after we met, we are just as in love as we were when we first laid eyes on each other. So yes, I do believe in it. Very much so.

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  89. I think lust at first sight, intuition at first sight, but you have to get to know one's character first in order to fall in love. Just my thoughts.
    Cortne @ Coco in Magnolia

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  90. I believe in a connection at first sight, not love, though. I think in order to love someone you have to get to know them first. But when you feel that connection at first sight, I think it's really easy to think of as love.

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  91. Sometimes I fall in love even when nobody's around.

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  92. I like it in movies but I in the real world I think the one that grew steadily over a period of time might be the stronger one.

    Because if you can fall in love in an instance, you can fall out of love in an instance too.

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  93. It’s a magic happens once in a while :)

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  94. I believe in lust at first sight but that gets you into the game where love can develop and the participants will never know the difference.

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  95. It is real. I can vouch for it. However this is no guarantee that it will last for ever!

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  96. Yep, I fell in love with Olivia Hussey when I saw the ad for Romeo and Juliet (as an 11 year old).

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  97. i have to say i agree with sage ---i thought olivia was the definition of beauty---and i do believe in love at first sight---haha, when i saw my daughter's now husband, i picked him out in my heart for her, right then :)

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  98. I believe in lust at first sight too. I have only loved two men and neither were men I was attracted to at first. However I believe in intuition and I believe no one feels love exactly the way. I mean babies imprint on their mothers faces, why can't adults? I personally hope it's true, and love the movies with that theme, but if my friend said she met a man and she knows he's the one, I would worry about her getting her heart broken. I hope that makes sense.

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  99. I think it's a fun notion to believe in, but at the end of the day love requires more work than most romantic stories let on. If Romeo and Juliet had lasted a few years, I'm sure Juliet would nag Romeo over the same things any woman might and Romeo would hear about 20% of the things she says hahah! (I'm totally oversimplifying for fun and to make the point, but hopefully you get what I mean haha!).

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  100. I believe it happens...
    But I was already in love with my Hubby before I ever met him.

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  101. I was only twelve when my hubby and I met, and there was definitely "something" there, but I dunno if you'd call it love at that point. We certainly had a natural affinity, and sitting next to him lit my cheeks up like hot little apples.

    That being said, I happen to believe "love" is an action verb. It doesn't just happen; it takes work, and I think any two decent caring people can make a go of "happily ever after" if they're both willing to put in the work.

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  102. Lust at first sight, maybe. I think you need to take the time to get to know someone for who they really are before it actually turns into love. Though I do fall for it in movies lol.

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  103. Keep believing Keith, naive or not - it really does exist but whether you are blessed to come across that person in a lifetime is another matter. A little digression, I also believe that we have more than one soulmate out there for all of us but again, how many people meet one of theirs in a lifetime let alone more. Food for thought.....
    Have a great weekend!

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  104. Hey Buddy, sounds like you're taking it to the next level. Next May, I will have been married to my wife for 40 years, and she still takes my breath away.

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  105. Love at first sight, not so much. Although, there was one time, I drank a little to much, saw a guy and thought for sure, but wasn't so.

    Madison:)

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  106. Who knows - but there is no harm in hope!

    I'll make do with at second sight!

    Stewart M - Melbourne

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  107. I think we all used to believe in love at first sight but we become skeptical with age.

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  108. Hmm, good question. I'm not sure about love at first sight, but maybe psychic connection at first sight?

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  109. I would have said yes, years ago. I might still say yes... there can def. be a strong connection from the get-go when you meet the right person.

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  110. I think it exists and its powerful enough for a non-believer like me to believe in it! :)

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  111. I think the love at first sight may exists but the two have to be very young people.

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  112. I believe in it. There's something unexplainable that draws you to another person...and it doesn't happen often. When it does, it's special! :)

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  113. I loved my husband the first day I met him. We are going on 39 years. Not always easy, but still in love.

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  114. Sure, I believe it ~ I am romantic at heart, smiles ~

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  115. Of course I believe in love at first sight!
    I love Shakespeare, by the way lol :)

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  116. Keith, dude,

    Of course there is love at first sight. And look at this, you put up a short posting and a photograph, and your ardent followers loved your blog at first sight.

    I'm outta' here,

    Gary :)

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  117. I think I would call it a "strong connection"...yes, definitely....
    My definition of LOVE has evolved over the years... :) That can only happen with truly getting to know someone....at least for me....I think.. :)))

    Thanks so much for visiting, Keith!
    Have a great week...
    - Irina

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  118. 100% real.

    I was 18 years old- I went to visit my best friend after not seeing her for a few months, knocked on her apartment door and he answered. It was like someone kicked the wind out of me (she lived with her boyfriend, he was their roommate).

    Two weeks later we were dating, roughly two weeks after that we were living together and about two years later we were married with a child on the way. We split up after 7 years because I grew up and he stayed wild (it took me 9 years to get over the loss). We are still close sharing a grandson, we just chose different paths (he's still wild at the age of 45-very).

    He was my first everything and my most fun partner in crime. I would've been perfectly content to grow old with him. I guess in a way I have.

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  119. I believe totally in lust at first sight! Love comes later - much later!

    Take care
    x

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  120. When I first saw my husband I actually did a double take. he walked in the room wearing his tight little light colored blue jeans and I was reading. I darn near dropped my book. For the next couple of weeks, whenever I saw him I smiled and responded to polite conversation until he asked me out. Years later I found out he almost tripped over his feet when he saw me that first day, which I found really funny. We've been together for 23 years now and have a 6 month old grandson now.

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  121. I think it happens for a lucky few!

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  122. I so very very badly want to believe in it...but I simply don't. I love the idea and how terribly romantic it is. I just don't think you can love someone you know absolutely nothing about.

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  123. I think you can feel an overwhelming attraction and connection to someone, but you must know someone to be truly in love with them. I've joked about falling in love with my hubby at first sight, but the truth is, what made me fall madly in love with him was who he was, which I didn't see until later, and I fall more in love with him every day!

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  124. There's a difference between attraction and love. Attraction, sure, can be physical. But that doesn't mean that person is a Safe Person or healthy person to relate with, or even compatible with values important with me, or, if I'm compatible with hers. This is where character discernment helps, in the long run.

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  125. I believe we have soul knowledge that we intuit when we bump in to a right person. Catching up on your other blogs....glad you were able to get out of the ocean before she took you all for herself :)

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  126. Not a believer, but enough people seemed to have experienced it. The chemicals between us, as Bush called it.

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  127. I hear a lot about sight. Why not sound, or taste?

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  128. Its your heart telling you that this is the best time and the best person standing right in front of you. Make the most of it. :)

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  129. I'm on the fence. I've met a few people in my life and had the distinct feeling that I'd met them before. Sort of a "there you are!" feeling. And I've felt lust at first sight. But, the kind of love that I share right now with my partner? I had not a clue of it when we meet as college dorm mates when we were 18.

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    1. I've had this feeling too, of having met them before. Maybe in another life? But, I too am on the fence regarding love at first sight.

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  130. Yes, love at first sight can happen, but the real test as to whether it's true love is if it grows and lasts ... :)

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  131. I believe in the fairy tale. I do believe in love at first sight. I know because I am now happily married to him.

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  132. i totally believe in it. when you know, you know! you know? :)

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  133. Totally...I loved my babies the MOMENT I laid eyes on them! If I could ever live one day over in my life it would be the days they were born!

    and there have been a few other persons I have loved from the moment I saw them too! Love is so grand!

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  134. I had an instant, intense feeling when I first saw the man who became my husband. It was strong and wonderful and felt like love but I think the lasting love came later. I loved my babies at first sight.

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  135. Instad of love at first sight, I'd say I had love at first "feeling". It was a feeling of deep recognition, like I had known this person from long ago. We were connected in ways that we don't really understand fully even before we met! I write about this in my book Lessons from the Monk I Married.

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  136. First off, the 1968 Olivia Hussey and Leonard Whiting version is the best! Totally gorgeous! Moving on...

    I think Romeo and Juliet, being conditionally romantic, is a story of two horny teenagers who made bad decisions with their hormone-riddled brains and got everyone killed. Blame my theatre training. :)

    As far as love at first sight, I believe I can sense an immediate connection, like knowing that someone is going to play an important part in my life. Love from one look? I think love at its core is a learning someone and choosing to put in work, and the instant connection can simply serve as a catalyst to the decision to love someone.

    The only love at furat sight I truly believe is a parent seeing a child come into the world for the first time. They all say it happens. Lol

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  137. Love is a very complex feeling that evolve along the time, so the love you experience at first sight is not the same love that you´re going to experience along the time this love lasts, but it does exist. And I am not talking about being in love with someone... I have experienced love at the first sight with some paintings, with my cats, with some books and some songs, with some places and also with my husband. I felt that I knew him for ages when I met him the very first time, it was attraction, it was sense of connection and also love... of course it was only the seed of the love I feel now after twenty seven years but I am not sure that we would have had the same story without it...

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  138. I believe in lust at first sight or infatuation, but true love takes time to grow.

    http://joycelansky.blogspot.com

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  139. No no, it's not hogwash, and I believe in it! Though of course a lot does depend on one's values and level of maturity at the time I suppose, and it's easy to mistake lust for love. But love is love y'know? Personally, it was love at first sight for my husband and I -- or perhaps it was intense interest at first sight which quickly blossomed lol -- more than a decade later, we're still in love :)

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  140. Sure! I believe at the love of first sight.........Great question....

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  141. Oh this is post for my :) I am hopeless romantic ;-) Yes... First sight of course but after that the biggest lover is time... If something is real... it will surviwe but... everything in ouer hands and heart. Do we have enought power to take care of love without expectations? Hard lesson but I want to learn it...

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  142. Yes it's true. My name is Juliette so how can I possibly disagree! ;)

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  143. sorry, love at first site is really lust at first site... at first sight you dont know anything about them, they could be in a relationship or have a flaw you cant get past...
    love is knowing your partners faults and staying with them anyway

    sorry, romantic hearts!

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  144. Without question I believe in it!

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  145. Real...My frank and i experienced it...love at first sight.

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  146. I think the more accurate term would be "lust".

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  147. i find it hard to believe, and like some people above have said it's more likely to be lust than love. it's a prettty idea, though! x

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  148. Yes! I fell in love with my hubby the second I saw him. We've been married for 18 years.

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  149. After 48 years I would have to say I'm a bit sceptical of it. I have occasional experienced "corr blimey" at first sight - though being particulary poor at acting on these feelings, I can't say if there was ever any love behind it.
    Love, I think, is a developing thing.

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  150. I would have to agree with DWei. I believe you really have to get past that and get to know the person first.

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  151. Whoah! Great question. It's such a lovely idea, I hope it exists. I think maybe there is CRUSH at first sight and then within a week the deal is sealed, probably with a kiss:)
    (I'm stealing this question, Keith, to be a FB status question!)

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  152. Oh Yes! WE feel something beyond mere attraction that
    awakens the soul.

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  153. I think love at first sight it a real thing, but is rare. Many people mistake lust for love at first sight, only loving the thought of someone of someone's looks. Love at first sight is seeing someone's soul in their eyes and falling for the beauty there without even having to speak to the person. ♥

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  154. I know it was real for my husband and me!

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  155. I believe in something like love at first sight.

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  156. I think it's more attraction at first sight. For me I believe love takes time. By the way, I can see why your blog is so popular. It's wonderful and so much fun.

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  157. I knew there was something about my husband the first time he and I saw each other. We were engaged six months later and married three months after our engagement. We're best friends. :)

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