Friday, April 15, 2016

Prisoners of the Past

Moving on from the past, whether it is last week or 25 years ago, can be an incredibly difficult thing. 

Nothing imprisons us like the past. The hurt we have endured. The things we have done that we cannot forgive ourselves for. The things done to us that we cannot forgive others for. 

The past is painful. There is no sugar-coating that. It affects us more than we realize. Our life philosophy, our friendships, our romantic relationships, and our world view. 

But just because we carry those scars, some of which will never heal, does that mean we have to allow it to imprison us? Do we have to let our past dictate our present, and even worse, our future?

I am not saying that we should, or could, just instantly look at the past through rose-colored glasses. Quite frankly, anyone who suggests that is naive. Denial is never a good option. 

But perhaps, acceptance is. 

We are often taught to accept the things that we cannot change. To resist the urge to control things that are out of our control. Is there anything more out of our control than the past? Is there anything more unchangeable than the past? 

Perhaps, by viewing it through that lens, we can take a step forward in accepting the past. It happened. There is absolutely nothing we can do about it. Not one single thing. 

But you know what we can do something about? Tomorrow. 

Do you have a difficult time with the past? Does it haunt you?