Saturday, May 21, 2016

The abnormality of normality


Normal...

What does that word even mean? 

What is a normal person? A normal day? A normal job? A normal problem? Etc?

That term has always baffled me, to be quite honest. 

If there is such an identifiable concept as normality, I certainly do not fit the criteria (nor would I want to). 

We all have our personal quirks that qualify us as abnormal. 

I for one love winter far more than summer. 

I begin counting down to Christmas beginning in late spring. 

I have been known to go an entire day eating nothing but sweets. 


I used to have heart to heart talks with my cat

I tend to make even the most normal conversation incredibly awkward. 

I will not read a book if I do not like the geographical setting in which it takes place

I prefer rain to sun

I once locked my keys in my car twice on the same day 

​Just a few examples of my little oddities. We all have them...I hope

I have also often said that if a person is not at least a little weird, then we cannot be friends. Normal, if there is such a thing, is boring as hell. 

Is there such a thing as "normal"?

228 comments:

  1. Hello Keith, I can not say I am normal. I have my own oddities and I may have some weird friends. I agree normal could be considered boring. Great post! Enjoy your weekend.

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  2. Ce qui est normal c'est se sentir bien dans sa peau comme on dit, et de trouver la vie belle, ce serait bien triste si tout le monde se ressemblait !
    Bonne fin de journée, merci de ton passage sur ma page
    Marine

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  3. I suppose to look at me I could pass for 'normal'. I have many idiosyncrasies though and feel I think deeper than most 'normal' people. I have never felt as though I fit in and as though I am an outsider on the perimeter looking in.

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  4. I saw two little signs that I liked Keith, one said "Normal is a setting on a dryer." And, "Let your weird light shine so other weirdos can find you." Didn't buy them though because some of us are already on our path.

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  5. We are all weird, some just more than others.
    I like winter a lot more than summer. Bring on the cold and the snow.

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  6. You have such interesting subjects, themes of discussions in your posts!! For sure, we all have some weird aspects, like to love winter far more then summer... And for sure in dictionaries, we can find a sense/a definition for normal/abnormal terms/aspects. Your way of saying "If there is such an identifiable concept as normality, I certainly do not fit the criteria" it is so nice...
    Have a nice weekend!

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  7. when i refer to "normal", i am usually referring to "my" normal. today was a "normal" day for ME. living with MS, i have a definite normal, for me.

    sometimes when the hubs and i talk about normal, i ask him to define normal. if he asks me if i am feeling well, i ask him to define what that means.

    it's all subjective....i am an odd ball as well. park me by a tree, in a park and i am happy and content for the day. take me somewhere where there is a large crowd, it's ok, but i would not define that as fun!!!

    a few of my oddities are the same as yours. i LOVE when it rains, as it creates an indoor day with no pressure to run around and enjoy it. i like being home. i also prefer winter, for the same reason, and i have zero tolerance for heat. i do enjoy spring and fall, when the temperatures are cool. there is no real definition for normal, i liked celia's reply, that's right on the money!!!!!

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  8. I looked up the definition of normal and really didn't like it. I think normal is good when thinking objective, like normal blood test ranges, but not subjective when trying to classify people.

    Betty

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  9. No! Everyone and everything are not normal, like me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  10. I think we all have our little quirks, and it would be boring if we were all the same. I smiled at Bob Bushell's comment, I kind of like it. LOL! :)

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  11. I think abnormal is the new normal, I love spring and fall

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  12. It would be a boring world if everyone was "normal." It is normal to be a little quirky, somethings are weird, as long as you don't mumble to yourself while walking naked down the middle of the Turnpike it's all good.

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  13. We all have our comfort zones. I don't think I've even been normal either. I've been a lot of things at different times.

    Have a fabulous day. ☺

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  14. I'm inclined to think that the very concept of "normalcy" is an anachronism. Given the diversity in this world and the incessant cultural messages encouraging everyone to strengthen individuality, who on earth could accurately define the so-called "norm" against which we are to be measured.

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  15. For me, normal is unremarkable. Some days that's what I aim for e.g. I want a day at work to be as predictable and uneventful as possible. But I make every effort to ensure days with my family are remarkable and wonderful as often as possible!

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  16. What is normal? Who even knows the answer to that question? Would we want a society where we are all the same? I am unique one of a kind and if that makes me abnormal I am ok with that as my life is full of mystery.

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  17. lol,, I think normal is over rated,,,what a boring world if we were all the same and I have no idea what normal means now,, you threw me a curve,, I have to think on this,,,

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  18. Normal is different for any particular day. For me the best/ideal meaning of normal - balanced. And then normal turns in something that not happening everyday, every minute...

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  19. I had so much fun comparing your normal to mine.

    I had a hard time getting my daughter to understand that there is no such thing as a normal family. She thought we were so weird and everyone else's family was perfect. She has come to think that our family is pretty good as she has gone beyond the facade in her friendships.

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  20. I just locked my keys in my car, so that makes me laugh and feel ok, that you did it twice in one day. I was in the mental system much of my life. I left it, and in years since, have realized no one is "normal" and what is "normal" really? And how boring life would be if we were all the same.

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  21. I love that photo and view. And I also don't know what "normal" means. But I must admit that I prefer sun to rain, which is a good thing where I live!

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  22. I too prefer winter and rain or, even better snow, to summer and sun. And Christmas is the only holiday I really enjoy. I don't think I have lived what would be considered a totally normal life, but I have never locked myself out of my car twice in the same day. I copied the quote below this post.

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  23. I consolidate things. Vitamins that are 1/2 full get dumped into one that is new, but let's be real the new ones are never full. Soap gets filled up, and so on. I hate 1/2 full things. I organize colored pencils and crayon boxes in color order: Black, Purple, Blue, Green, Yellow, Orange, Red, Pink and White. I can't stand when they are all out of order.

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  24. Blah to winter at my sea, cold is okay, but screw the stupid snow lol weird as can be, I've sure got that down. Normal is only a word for doctors to throw around so they don't have to do anything but say it.

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  25. What is normal for me, it's abnormal for another person...That's the beauty of life

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  26. Normal is for people with no imaginations.

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  27. Well, I like my quirks just fine. But some other people are truly weird! :)

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  28. Glad to see you 'march to your own drummer' ~ wonderful post ~ as for normal ~ suggest you read about the Bell Shape Curve and where 'most of the population' resides and then the negative and positive ends define whether one deviates from the 'norm' positively or negatively ~ just a suggestion ~

    Happy Weekend to you ~ ^_^

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  29. I think it was Poe who said "there is no beauty without some madness"--and I suppose he should have known! I think that "normal" is pretty bland and overrated. Things that are a little "mad"--a little off the wall, or flawed in some way--are always far more interesting, whether it's a person with their quirks, or a piece of art, or an experience in life.

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  30. I wrote a bunch of "not normal" things about me.
    Pushed Publish and lost the entire "bunch."
    I will try again . . . shortened version!
    Great picture, I hope "your bride" is enjoying that view with you!
    We are alike in that "winter thingy." I will take a wintery day over a hot, humid, sweaty day of summer anytime.
    I could live on popcorn, some days it is all I eat.
    No doubt about it, I am not "of the norm." I would rather be curled up with a good book than getting all gussied up for a big gala affair like we are attending this evening. Could you please rescue me!
    Best posts ever . . . KEITH'S!

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  31. Awesome post! Rain is my magic, and so are storms. A sun allergy since childhood will create a love and affinity for candle-light and stormy weather. Life is a strange and beautiful journey and meeting unique souls along the way makes it worthwhile. Loved all that you shared, fantastic to read your insights. Whatever spectrum of normalcy or weirdness people fall on, no matter to me.. as long as their true-authenticity shines through. I have never known how to be normal, so I don't fight it, I am simply just me. I am so used to being introduced as; "this is victoria ,my weird friend." I take it as a compliment.
    great post
    V~

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  32. I've never thought of myself as normal. Funny, I can relate to several of the little oddities in your list...especially "like making the most normal conversation incredibly awkward". Sounds just like me! Your blog is very interesting, so I will be back.

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  33. Right. Normal is boring and abnormally wrong. It's also the worst crime an artist and human can commit if they want to be, or think they are, special and impressionable. And I've likely gone for MANY days eating only sweets. I have more respect for you than ever, Keith. Smiles.

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  34. Thank you for your felicitations on my retiring. I am looking forward to all the new things I can explore. I will never be bored. I have never claimed I was normal and I have seldom lived a 'normal' life. Quirky, yes. Recently, someone labeled me 'interesting'. I wouldn't have it any other way. I love Christmas, too. But I love sunny days and beaches. Great photo, btw. Question: in your English classes, do you teach writing, also?

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  35. It depends on how you look at it. As an inside-the-box standard for expected human behavior, who wants to be considered "normal," if all that means is "average," and a cookie cutter copy of most other people? But if normal is merely considered the healthy opposite of "abnormal," and covers a wide range of variables, that doesn't sound so bad, does it? It's all a matter of degrees. I like to think we're like snowflakes... all made of the same basic stuff, but with enough differences to make us each unique and interesting. And some of us are "flakier" than others... but that's still... normal. :)

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  36. Normal is something my hubs is striving to be. To him that means how he was prior to his cardiac arrest two years ago. I don't know what 'normal' is any more as my past two years have been anything but. Normal can be boring, quirks show that we have independent thinking and that's a plus for a writer. I've always felt like a bit of an oddity, and I came to Canada to find myself without having all the cloaks of childhood and familiarity around me. Here I found happiness in many ways. I have some quirks in common with you - I have to like the setting of the story. Time for reading is too short to not be selective. You have changed location, too haven't you? A change can be invigorating in many aspects of our life. Hope all is well with you.

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  37. Normal to me is a personal thing, must as abnormal. It would be abnormal for me to eat out, as I never do. But it is normal for me to cook everything from scratch. To someone else, even turning on their oven, is abnormal.

    Happy Weekend.

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  38. I hope I'm a little weird. I like that my mind works differently to other people, that I have peculiar thoughts and strange ideas - it's what makes me me, and what gives my writing originality.

    I count down to Christmas on Christmas Eve, usually :-)

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  39. What a wiev! Really like your photo! I like what you write too.

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  40. Interesting thought! I've had those days when I ate nothing but sweets :-) And I do have heart to heart conversation with my kitties, all the time! I guess being abnormal is a normal thing. And it's important to be abnormal or your unique, authentic self.

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  41. I'm not sure if there is such a thing as normal. It is an interesting idea to think about. I think we all have quirks and uniqueness!

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  42. I love this post Keith and I completely agree - what is normal anymore? I know I don't fit that criteria! And I love your enthusiasm for Christmas. - Tasha

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  43. I'm suspicious of people who appear overtly 'normal'. It makes me wonder what they're hiding.

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  44. Interesting post. Comments to your post are also interesting. It seems that most (myself included) are not sure what normal even means. But most, (myself included) want to stand apart from the crowd, perhaps? But then does that mean there is no crowd?

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  45. Schmunzel :) Ja, was ist schon normal ;) Schoenes Wochenende :)

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  46. I've never been "normal". Nor do I want to be. I actually think normal is a false notion. It's not real. Just as no one is perfect, no one is "normal".

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  47. I do not want to be considered 'normal' in the normal sense of the word. A few of my friends would be called 'eccentric' and that's fine by me, life is never boring around them and they always make me smile. I talk to my house when I return after being away, always happy to return and let my house know it :)

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  48. I'm definitely not normal....every day I have many heart to hearts with my two cats. I, too, love rain...rainy days and rainy nights. There is not enough room here for me to list my quirks...just take my word for it. :)

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  49. Pretty sure I don't want to be a boring normal but since I am not an extremest and more of a centrist--perhaps I am, somewhat normal. Pretty sure those of us who fall between the extremes get that title but we still have tons of variations which keep us from cookie cutter profiles. By the way, a lot of your non-normal traits are mine also.
    Love the world at your feet shot.

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  50. I don't know what normal is. Everyone I have ever met has been a distinct individual with quirks and quakes in their being. Humans are such an interesting species. The variations of self in each one of the 7 billion of us is truly staggering. Normal? No such thing. Love your photo.

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  51. I have a fridge magnet which says 'the only normal people are those you don't know very well'. Which makes sense to me.
    Viva le difference.

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  52. When I met Norma in 1968 and learned her last name initial was "L", I figured, close enough --and married her.

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  53. I don't think anyone can actually define normal, but I'm glad we all think differently. I can't imagine everyone being "normal" and being on the same page all the time! I'm proud to be abnormal and loving it :)

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  54. I can't define normal either, but I guess I sometimes view others as normal. My managers thinks I am one of a kind, therefore perhaps outside 'normal'. I am glad of her opinion for I would hate to be ordinary. Life is for living and for the most part I am moronically happy.
    Kind regards
    Anna :o]

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  55. In a psychology class I took in college (a long, long, long time ago) the professor told us of a study where researchers went to a factory and had everyone write the person that they thought was the most normal and apparently the person who got the most votes was the most boring and predictable person working there.

    It seems like that's many people's idea of normal. Normal has never been something I wanted to be.

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  56. Interesting 'quirks' you have Keith!

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  57. Normal is an artificial status. we can make it what we want. I always say, "it helps to be a little crazy." Does that count for being close enough to weird?

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  58. I think it is hard to determine just what normal is. What I think is normal, someone else may think is abnormal. I think normal can be anything that doesn't hurt anyone. If you eat only sweets for a day, it doesn't hurt anyone...so it should concern no one. I think people have to learn to tolerate and accept the 'different.' It would be a boring world if everyone was the same!

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  59. Normal I'm certainly not, I'm happy being quite different from others even though I believe we're all interconnected.

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  60. We all have our perfect imperfections... :0 who defines normal anyway??

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  61. There is no definition of normal in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Psychological Disorders. So must be no such thing.

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  62. I am equally "normal" as you in the way I talk to mushrooms.

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  63. I think weird is interesting and it would be really boring if everyone fit a definition of "normal". It's taken me a long time to accept that about myself, that I'm quirky and that's okay. And I thoroughly enjoy people who are different from me.

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  64. Ah, my amazing human friend, Keith,

    You, my illustrious human, have done your normal thing and asked a question at the end of your blog. You are very clever to do that! Arf!

    You used to have heart-to-heart talks with your cat. Excellent, I have heart-to-heart talks with my human, Gary. Then again, Gary is actually a fictional character created by me.

    What do you think about that, Keith?

    Peace and pawsitive wishes,

    Penny!

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  65. Your wallpaper is beautiful. I'm so glad I'm not normal if there is such thing. I like this post Keith.

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  66. I take pictures of me talking to a skeleton I bought at COSTCO.
    So, I'm thinking 'normal' is relative.

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  67. That is an interesting one about the geographical setting in books. I think I am much the same.

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  68. Reminds me of the old tagline, "Why Be Normal?" :) I really hope there is never a thing as NORMAL :)

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  69. Normal should be placed with are you "happy" or "satisfy"
    Coffee is on

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  70. Normal is boring. The most interesting of us embrace the weird, the singular, the extraordinary, and the utterly perplexing. STRANGE is the spice that makes taking nourishment on earth worthwhile!

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  71. Normal is definitely subjective. ;)

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  72. I have a friend who says normal is only a physicians idea of normal on paper. No one is normal! I think each of us is unique, one-of-a-kind!

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  73. Normal is boring! And normal is just other people wanting others to fit in with their own beliefs or way of life...

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  74. There is no normal. There are folks who would like you to think there is so that you continually strive and stress for something you can never attain. It is said we are more alike than different, and that's true with regard to basic human nature, but individually, we are quite unique.

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  75. "Normalcy" is an unattainable untruth.
    I love that header photo!

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  76. Normal, I don't believe that I know what this word even resembles, my life sounds quite parallel to yours, so you're normalities and mine would have a ton of fun I'd imagine... is that normal? LOL

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  77. Hi Keith - I'm an independent kind of soul ... but I do prefer our English summers! Love Christmas though ... but you're still settling in I guess .. and adjusting - that's great you're teaching English and seeing around your part of Bavaria ... wonderful photo! Cheers Hilary

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  78. Doesn't everyone catch chicken snakes and turn them loose in their barn?

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  79. Ah, normal. I think, I *think* I used to be considered normal, before moving to Kentucky. I did everything expected of me, got good grades, graduated from college, got the *good* job- you know, the one that pays well but you work 80 hours a week? I did it all, numbly. I don't what happened, but one day I looked around and didn't recognize what I'd become- basically a zombie. A zombie that believed I HAD to work 80 hours a week to get everything society tells us we want- the house, the car, the shoes, the purses, the clothes, and eventually, the perfect husband and 3 kids. I realized I didn't want any of that.

    Long story short, I'm pretty sure everyone I meet now thinks I'm a weirdo. You can tell from the looks they give you when they ask you the questions everyone is supposed to have the same answers to. The 33 year old college graduate who doesn't work and has no kids, and is so liberal and not religious that she should probably get her butt out of Kentucky? Weirdo. While it used to bother me, I shrug it off. Nothing I can do about what society thinks I should be doing with my life, why should I bother worrying about it or trying to meet their expectations for what I should be?

    To heck with normality, I say! :-)

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  80. Great photo of your header, Keith!
    Many people say: 'I normally live' to do not to tell details.

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  81. I think you're right no one is 'normal'. I find that the people who try so hard to be in the norm to be some of the most boring people. I like folks with lots of quirks and outstanding characteristics. They make it a lot more fun to be friends with them!

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  82. Hello Keith!:) Another interesting topic! We do tend to conform to certain standards, but in different ways. What is considered normal for one person, is completely abnormal for another. I bake cakes for birds! Enjoy your Sunday!:)

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  83. Everyone of us is unique, so I don't know what is normal standard. Each one of us has quirks and likes/dislikes. Also we have to allow for people's development and learning styles - some are slow, some are fast.

    Hope you are doing well, smiles ~

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  84. Normal is an individual thing but as I related to four of your oddities Keith I guess that makes me almost as 'normal' as you 😃

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  85. Normal is an individual thing but as I related to four of your oddities Keith I guess that makes me almost as 'normal' as you 😃

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  86. We live in a sparsely populated area populated with "independent individuals", as we like to label ourselves. Shortly after our daughter went away to college, she realized she had always thought she was a "normal" kid, but came to see that being raised the way she was in the place she was meant she was not like the other kids she had met at college. So the question is, as you have asked, what is "normal"?

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  87. Normal vs abnormal, I don't know... But anyway it is soooo liberating to quit some norms of the society - and just be who you are. At this stage I don't put much emphasis what the others think of me. It is enough that I enjoy my own company and have a few persons with whom to find sympathy of the souls. You can't please everybody and that's ok.

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  88. Love that picture, Keith--you must be on top of the world. :-)

    As for normal, society will try to label and define what is normal and what is not, but humanly speaking, everyone is imperfect and that's what makes us beautiful and unique. :-)

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  89. Lovely post . I loved your blog .
    Sharing it with my friends . My life itself is abnormal and I love being that unique one ! So are my friends ... Lol
    http://shilpachandrasekheran.blogspot.ae/?m=1

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  90. Normal is boring, trust me! :) It's good to be different, unusual & full of great memories in your life! :)

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  91. Quirky is my favorite word. We like quirky people. I think you'd qualify. (But you can have the rain and snow -- that's one quirk I don't share ;>)!

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  92. I don't know, you seem pretty normal to me. Especially happily eating sweets all day long and having heart-to-heart convos with cats :-)

    Cheers - Ellen

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  93. So interesting! I'm fascinated by your more personal posts and the responses. Maybe normal is this construct we have created, which doesn't exist? It appears none of your readers see themselves as normal. So who is then? Maybe nobody? I love the bit about you and your cat. I'm not a chatterbox generally; I like peace and quiet, but around awkward people, I go into overdrive. I always hope they understand the effort I'm making and forgive the inane content!

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  94. Well, if all that isn't "normal" then it is at least typical - at least for me. We share a lot of the same quirks.

    Oh, and I drive barefoot whenever possible. I do everything barefoot, as often as I can. Shoes are for conformists who don't appreciate the warmth of the earth :)

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  95. Ah, we are all a little crazy, OE. Just in different ways and different levels.
    I'd pay good money to see you have a heart to heart with your cat!

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  96. I agree with you. I've been searching my whole life for normal! I am a huge fan of Christmas too. I love your examples of your oddities. Thanks for stopping over.

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  97. All of the above sound perfectly normal to me. Grin.

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  98. No wonder we found each other! LOL! I happen to love the uniqueness of humanity although society would like us to conform to their definition of "normal". I am finding that now as I age I am "slotted" into the "patronizing of the elderly" as if gray or white hair is a sign of brain dysfunction! It could be but don't count on it! LOL!

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  99. God made us all unique, as in all 'special' some a little more 'special' than other. (My kids would get this a little family joke, they would be yelling at me right now, "MOOOOOMMMMMM!"

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  100. Normal is a myth perpetuated by troubled, fearful people.

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  101. I don't think you can find one normal person in every way

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  102. And who gets to state what's normal and what isn't? Who said they were the know all and in charge of the rulers? ;)
    All that you described as the abnormal in you can be found in everyone. If not in the cat, in the dog... if not in the sweets in Doritos... if not in the Winter by thinking there should only exist Summer...
    I don't fit a definition set by others. In my day by day, or in my oddday, I like to believe I set my life and my routines by no-rules and tags. It is what it is. What I wanted or what I could have done, thought etc etc.
    Tags are so last century, don't you think? This is a all new era. Of a free road to wherever you want to be or go-
    Be Well,
    Teresa

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  103. Lol. I've never thought of it like this before but you make a great point.

    Thanks for the visit.

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  104. I laughed so hard at your list here...all but one fits me absolutely to a T....amazing....and I thought I was the only one....LOL
    Thanks for stopping by, Keith.

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  105. Wonderful post. Love your perspective on normality. I would not admit to being normal, even if I were. Who could tolerate being so BORING! lol

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  106. I am wit you Keith... normal is boring... I love different and unique.. better conversations, life is much more interesting... I am not into dull... I want to be challenged with fun and new xox

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  107. I consider myself to be Abbey....abbeynormal😄. I have a couple of Christmas decorations up all year long. I thought we all talked to our animals and I think they sometimes respond. I'm so happy being abbeynormal

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  108. Most people have quirks, some more than others. So, I think we have to find our own kind of quirky; our own kind of quirky is completely normal to those that accept us. Great topic. xoxo Su

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  109. Normal cannot be contained, that's for sure. And just about the time I think I'm fitting somehow into the label, my world changes and a new normal arises. I like winter better and the rain as opposed to the sun, love sweets too!

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  110. Thanks for stopping by my blog and commenting/following. :-) I'm following back...I love this photo it speaks volumes! Also love that you are left handed (me too) and a teacher! Lots in common :-) Have a wonderful week!

    Blessings,
    Jill

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  111. I relate to a number of your little "quirks" and quite enjoyed your list. I may make one myself (lol). Normal, I think, is that which one finds "comfortable" and pleasant. As one grows old, society's - or peer group - "cues" don't provoke the same knee-jerk fall-into-line compliance that they do in young people. THANK GAWD, for small mercies!!! An interesting observational piece.

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  112. I spent so much of my younger years trying to be like everyone else. Now, I embrace my weirdness and really do think those cookie cutter types are so boring! If we can't love our own quirks, then who else will?

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  113. Regarding “normal act”, though the society tends to see “normal” as good and “abnormal” as bad, the concept of them depends on social standards which change with time. As to the person’s personality, everyone is unique, everyone is different, so there’s no definite “normal” and “abnormal”. I like your title “abnormality of normality” and will keep it in mind. Your post is food for thought.

    Yoko

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  114. Normal are the neurotypical people.
    I'm me and I'm different.
    They let me feel it every time.
    It hurts often.
    So I live alone and do not manage to have friends in a small town full of normal people.
    There are often moments, I wish to be more normal.
    But it does not mean to be happy.
    Only less problems and more integration....

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  115. There is no normal - behaviour is a spectrum with a million axis and we move about on these all the time. There may be typical - but thats different!

    Cheers - Stewart M - Melbourne

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  116. I dread the idea of being normal. A bit weird is more for me. Locked keys in car twice in one day - Damn that sucks

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  117. I don't think I am normal, but then I don't think I'm abnormal either, whatever that is.

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  118. I am sure when most people read this they will sigh with relief that they too are normal much like you in their own strange way.

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  119. Normalcy meant different to each other... and no one could be same and if that was the life it won’t be interesting.

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  120. Hi Optimistic...thanks for dropping by Nagaland. I have enjoyed your views of Germany. Our last name is Grimm and my husband is a fourth generation American. His family hails from Ruppersdorf. I would love to have a chance to visit there! And as a chocolate and pastry lover I am sure I would stay busy eating!!:)

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  121. I like your post!It's great! We all have a little bit of "weirdness" in us and that's one of the things that makes us unique from each other :)

    trulyfionaa.blogspot.com

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  122. As a collective, groups may be "normal" but individuals vary from the norm enough that individually we are all pretty abnormal, in my honest opinion

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  123. Hi Keith, I don't think "Musings of an Unapologetic Dreamer" is a "normal" blog. If it was normal I surely wouldn't be looking forward to each new post as I do. I equate "normal" with "common". Wow, I could really get going on this topic. :-) I'll save you the pain of reading one of my long comments, but must say this: I'm so with you on rain and winter! Thanks for another great post!

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  124. I'm normal for me and that's the way it should be. I don't want to be someone else's normal. I prefer fall and spring to all other seasons, rain makes me sad, I talk to my cat constantly and she tries to talk back

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  125. Like you, I think we are all abnormal. But some of us are more abnormal than others. AbNormal is good

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  126. Oh Keith, I wish I'd read this when I was a teenager. All I wanted was to feel normal and "fit in." Now I relish in my abnormalities. Thanks for this.

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  127. Everyone's definition of normal varies. Personally, I think we're all a little abnormally normal :)

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  128. Is normal little copy cats of each other? Just little dolly dingles all in a row? I don't know either but I like your quest.

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  129. Weird's why we like ya ;-D I think maybe what makes us unique is the most beautiful thing about us.

    Cool new header photo, btw!

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  130. "Normal" is overrated. I see we have several things in common. I too prefer winter to summr although I will complain about the weather at any time of year if it inconveniences me. I do my Christmas shopping all year long, rain is my favorite weather, and I can eat nothing but cereal and milk for several days. This is the beauty of getting older. Now instead of being "abnormal" I am "quirky".

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  131. Hi, I laugh because none of us really know what NORMAL is... I guess that to me, normal is when things are ROUTINE. When we get up in the morning, we walk 2 miles on our golf course. That is our 'normal' when we are home. When we travel, NOTHING is normal.

    Hope you are fine... Still in Germany?

    Hugs,
    Betsy

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  132. I remember my mom telling me when I was younger that the definition of normal becomes more and more narrow all the time. If you are different, you are not normal. But, we all have our quirks.

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  133. I think everyone has his or her own quirks and unique aspects to their personalities. That's one of the wonderful things about us!

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  134. There really is no single answer to "What is normal?" I like to say I'm not very normal but really, what is the norm? There are plenty of things that we would class as "normal behaviour" but no one is bound to be completely normal. We're all different.

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  135. Very philosophical statement--what is normal? I think there will never be an answer for this but I'd say being normal is being able to get along with others but not need people for happiness. Being happy and content with oneself is the best form of normal, even if it means dongs things differently than most. My grandmother used to say it takes all kinds of people to make the world a good place!

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  136. Normality not exit there are in the world a people and your life who decide normality?

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  137. I like the slogan of Tylenol: Get back to normal, whatever your normal is. We're all a little different and a little weird and a little unique in our own way ;) And that's what's so interesting!

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  138. I, too, like rain better than sun, and winter better than summer. Fits the bleakness of my mind.

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  139. Normal is boring. That is the beauty of life. We are all different. Shaped by our different experiences. What's normal for me, is not normal for you. And that is great! I've been learning to let go of the need for "normal" which often translated into "perfection". Everything has to be perfect to be normal...what a burden to carry! No more striving for perfect. No more need to be normal, haha. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on normal. Loved this.

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  140. Great blog post!
    I, for one,hear the stories old furniture has to tell. Yes, the chairs speak! Who says THAT'S not normal?

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  141. You're so right. Normal can be so boring. Everyone is a little bit different but locking the keys in twice in one day? Not good karma for that day.

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  142. Is there such a thing as normal? It's all down to perception. I only know that no one who knows me think I live a 'normal' life - and that's a good thing as far as I'm concerned.

    Susan A Eames at
    Travel, Fiction and Photos

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  143. I know what "normal" is. I found it. It's a setting on my clothes dryer.

    Thanks for stopping by my blog and commenting! Funny how you ended up in a small Bavarian village...I was born and grew up in a small Bavarian village (about halfway between Nürnberg and Weiden). Ha!

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  144. I'm not sure normal exists. We all have our idiosyncrasies! As my friend Aunt Esther used to say, "We don't all come from the same cookie cutter."

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  145. Normal is what you see as usual.
    I am not normal to most normal people too :)
    But i guess if we embrace our own oddities, it will only be normal to us only.

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  146. Greetings and thanks for visiting my oft-neglected blog recently. I find "Normal" only on the dryer these days. Ancestors on my grandmother's side came from Bavaria. Looking forward to more of your thoughts.

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  147. I prefer the little things that make us all unique :)

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  148. Hello Keith,
    Nice and special words with a wonderful image.
    Great picture.

    Greetings, Marco

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  149. Hey Optimistic, great post and your list on what you like shouts, normal? Normal is simply being human. :)

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  150. as my daughter tells me ... 'mom the weird teachers are the most interesting' ... I'm glad she has learned this at a young age

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  151. In recent years, we hear more and more the word 'normative'. Sociologists distinguish between 'normal' and 'normative': normal - according to norm, rules;
    normative - conforming to norm. I don't quite understand the distinction, but 'normative' sounds less demanding to me.

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  152. I stopped by to say thank you for visiting my blog. Normal is a different thing for all of us. As you say we all have some unique quirks. It makes the world a much more interesting place to live in.

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  153. Very interesting and good post. Thanks for visiting my blog and I'm looking forward to following yours.

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  154. If there is such a thing as normal, I don't want it. I talk to my cats too. They listen and talk back, in their own way. An interesting topic. Yay for being ourselves, whatever that is.

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  155. I laughed at several of your normals. My dog knows more about me than anyone else on earth! I won't read a book if I don't like the main character or the setting.

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  156. Well, to me it seems as though we are nearly clones, apart from that winter over summer thing! But don't you think that's better -- that we are our own normal and it's unique. If we were all the same it would be seriously boring! Give my best to Beate!

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  157. I love reading about the quirks that make someone who they are. I think I love winter more than summer too (I love the clothes!) and I love that you have to like the geographical setting first! These are my favorite type of posts to read.

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  158. Oh Keith...I love the rain...and I love the snow in winter. Most of the people I know, would tell me that is not "normal". I think "being normal" is a state of mind that is railroaded by the ego. And the ego is not the true self. The point of just BE-ing is the true commonality that is given each of us at birth. Humans, just BE-ing. Not being this, or being that...JUST BE-ing HUMAN! And that photo above, I hope you made a good wish on your "wish flower". As for books, I don't read fiction anymore. Aloha to you and Beate. JUST BE, FRIENDS!

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  159. I am sure I am "abnormal" in so many ways! And I am fine with that. :) Can't stand normal.

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  160. Excellent post! Nice to meet you! Thank you for coming by my blog! I am certainly not normal! LOL! And, I finally got it this year, that it was perfectly fine to be me and love me and it has been like, yes, the cloud has been lifted! Happy dance! I have to tell you, I was marking off check marks down your list! I love winter over summer. Serious talks with my cat, for sure! Rain, bring it on and yes, counting down the days to Christmas!!
    Such an experience moving to Europe, with just two suitcases!! And, now you are a teacher! Brilliant!!

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  161. My goodness, you get a lot of comments on your posts! Is that even normal? *hehe* I'll often say I want things to just get back to normal, and then I think what is normal anyway? Is there even such a thing? I'm not sure I know what I mean when I say I want my life back to normal. For me, I think it means to have a balance, without any extremes in one direction or another.

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  162. Ha, a man after my own heart!!
    I never have...nor, I suspect, ever will be described as "normal" - whatever that is.
    So many people have said to me, "Why can't you act like a normal person?"
    And that really annoys me.
    Does "being normal" then mean we have to act like clones and all be exact copies of each other?
    If so, I am perfectly happy to be ABnormal...for instance: having frequent meaningful conversations with my two goldfish, talking to trees and flowers, and generally viewing the world in different ways to the majority of other people...I guess many would describe me as "mad"...but then, what exactly is sanity? *smiles*
    I strongly suspect you know exactly how I feel...

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  163. Here's another kicker: normal is constantly changing. What is normal for you today will not be in six months. What was normal for you as a child is completely different than what is normal now. Normal is an oxymoron.

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  164. I guess we have our own personal sense of normal - like what's normal for us. But we're all different. So one person's sense of normal can be completely different from another person's sense of normal. It would be boring if we were all the same.

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  165. "Normal" may often mean conventional and unimaginative... boring. I like the list of your oddities and share some of them. Counting down to Christmas already now is my favourite oddity. :)

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  166. I like winter more than summer too (but I live in TX!), love rainy days, and have heart to heart talks with my dog on a regular basis ... hmm.... Normal isn't all it's cracked up to be! Yeah, whatever normal is! Have a fantastic day!

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  167. Normal is this elusive idea that people try to mold to so they can feel like they fit in. Once we all realize that the only normal is being a quirky, kind of weird, unique individual, I think we will all be better off!

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  168. You have awesome and fun quirks! Love this post!

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  169. Don't know how you found my blog, but think I'm going to enjoy yours. Normal? Actually, as I was scrolling through it all, I got to thinking about when I was in 6th grade and a fellow classmate tried to choke me to death... I accidentally hit him in the ear area... didn't know he'd had surgery and had tube in his ears... anyway, when it hurt he got an armhold on me and tried to kill me (yes, honest)... I told him he was crazy and then he choked in earnest. So... normal? I don't know... I do know he committed suicide about 8 years later and I never did know if he was "normal" or not. Now... aren't you glad you read my blog about birds and deer? There's more under there that's lurking ;-)

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  170. I agree that a normal person would be boring. Everyone's different quirks and personalities makes the world more interesting. I have some "abnormalities" in common with you. I like rain better than sun and I turn many conversations into awkward silence. I also love winter and Christmas :)

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  171. I'm just so glad you're back, Keith. I was missing you. You are a beautiful original!

    As for oddities? I have a gazillion of them.

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  172. I don't even know anyone normal. Birds of a feather, and all that jazz, I guess. ;) :)

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  173. I have always thought that if we were all normal life would be sooo dull and boring lol

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  174. No, I've always been a bit strange. : )

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  175. this norm
    all things of life
    abnormal

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  176. I love rain. Especially the smell when it's over. :-)

    Greetings from London.

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  177. I agree that our oddities make us more interesting. :) I love people's quirks and our differences keep things interesting!
    I don't think anyone has every described me as normal.
    ~Jess

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  178. The other day, I was meeting with someone who began his remarks thusly: "You know that person in families everyone thinks is strange but they love them anyway..." and before he could go on, I said, "In my family they think that's me..."

    It all boils down to perception. I hope you're having a good day.

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  179. I think we are all normal in our own weird, quirky ways. Step away from that sugar, Keith!

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  180. Guten tag! Thanks for visiting my blog . . . however on earth it was that you found it! How fun that you are counting down to Christmas by your own calendar! Let me give you a short Christmas video suggestion to help you count down: "Alfred Hitchcock Santa Claus and the 10th Avenue Kid", starring Barry Fitzgerald...just under 26 minutes. Available online! Not an advertisment. I'm just a grandma stopping by your blog for a visit.

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  181. Normal is highly overrated! lol

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  182. It's our quirkiness that makes us each unique. There are no norms anymore and it's time people tried to stop pushing us into cookie cutter molds. We don't fit.

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  183. I'm delighted that we are all unique and decidedly not 'normal'.

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  184. Hello, I agree normal is boring, routine and monotonous. You seem to have some wonderful quirky ways which makes life exciting.

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  185. Normal is definitely boring. I agree. :)

    Rachelle @ Shell's Stories

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  186. That is a difficult question what does it mean> In my point of view it depends on person and country. Greetings from Poland

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  187. I think "normal" in our society is defined by the majority. The majority of people, in 2003 were not beekeepers, nor were they into honeybees. I was a bit odd. Now, however, I'm pretty cool since beekeeping is a cool thing to do.
    I once told a friend I have too many hobbies. I love to do/make all kinds of things. She said, "well I think people that don't have hobbies are quite boring, don't you?"

    Cindy Bee

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  188. Today is just another normal day to me.

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  189. I think we are all perfectly imperfect... thats what makes us unique. :-)

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  190. being imperfect is normal but being abnormal makes us perfect SOMETIMES

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  191. I love this space you've created here...it's a sweet spot in a hectic world. Great resting place. Thank you. I'll be visiting again:)
    -Jennifer

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  192. Hi Keith, thanks so much for commenting and signing up at my blog. I'm here to take a look at what goes on here. Based on this post, I think I'll like it a lot! Plus, I know several of the people who are already here.

    As to your subject, I totally agree. I've often said that I seem to identify most with people who have at least an issue or two. Here is one thing about me. I live smack dab in the middle of one of the most beautiful coast lines in the world, and I'm more drawn to the desert, than I am to it.

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  193. Thank you. And no, I don't think there's such a thing as "normal", you just have to look at different cultures and they already have a divergent view of what they consider to be "normal". "Normal" just seems to be the pressure of fitting in and I can do without that. "Variety is the spice of life" and all that...:)) ♥nic

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