Saturday, October 29, 2016

True Friendship


"Rare as is true love, true friendship is rarer" - Jean de La fontaine

One of the most valuable things in life, and sometimes one of the most under-appreciated, is true friendship. 

The kind of friendship that is genuine, selfless, and real. 

Throughout our lives we meet hundreds if not thousands of people who become acquaintances. Casual friendships. But, over the course of our lives, I think we can count the number of true genuine friendships on one hand.

And when you find a true friendship like that, I think you hold onto it forever. I think you cherish it. Nurture it. Appreciate it.  For it is every bit as valuable as anything you'll ever find.

Everybody is familiar with the concept of soul mates. But I also think we have "soul friends". Those people who were meant to come into our our lives. The type of friendships that can only be described as feeling like "home".

There something refreshing about being able to be your true genuine self with somebody. Free from judgment. Free from the veneer and the façade that casual acquaintances see.

Let's face it, sometimes in life we need to be humble enough to allow ourselves to lean on someone. And it is those true friendships that sustain us through those rough and rocky times that life can often present us with. 

So here's to true friendship. May we all appreciate it when we find it, and hold onto it - for true friendship is everlasting

What are your thoughts on the importance of friendship in our lives? 

201 comments:

  1. Beautifully expressed! My very best friend also happens to be my sister. I didn't even realize that early on; it was only until the day I invested some thought over which person in my life matches every single quality you've described here. I've spent every moment since making sure I return the same unconditional love, support, and encouragement!

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  2. I too have one of these kinds of friends. It's a wonderful thing indeed.

    Have a fabulous day. ☺

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  3. Love this post! I have one absolute 'soul friend'... I don't know where I'd be in my life without her by my side! :)

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  4. I totally agree with your first sentence. What a pity but dog is always loyal

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  5. I have had very few good friends like you describe. They are a treasure.

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  6. Yes, I believe in soul friends!

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    1. I do believe in soul friends.

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    2. I like the title: Musings of an Unapologetic Dreamer

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  7. We need friends, if only a handful, that we can depend on and vice versa.
    My wife will always be my very best friend though.

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  8. I keep looking for the "True Friend" button on Facebook.

    I think the modern definition of true friend might be one you can't un-true friend.

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    1. I will say, when I see someone has un-friended me on facebook I get pissed off. I'm "friends" with some people I don't even like. For someone to do the same with me is like saying they hate me more than that.

      Funny how friends usually just disappear after school is over.

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  9. They are rare but there is such a thing indeed.

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  10. To have a friendship like this. I don't think I have ever experienced it except in my husband.

    Betty

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  11. Agreed - it is a rare and lovely thing to have a true friend.

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  12. I love the term soul friends. I sometimes think some of my closest friends might be angels, sent down to look after me and teach me things. I think friends are truly wonderful things, even the ones who aren't so close or don't last. They all bring laughter and happiness into our lives for a while. We are lucky indeed to meet them on our journey.

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  13. how true. as I read this I could count 4 in my lifetime, so I am lucky indeed. and as you say ... these friendships are like an on-going late-night chat. Each time I talk to them we seem to pick up where we left off. the kind of friendship that feels like I've known them forever, and yet one only a few years; another since I was 3 yrs old. ones that are always happy to see you, and if you just need to talk you listen, and if they need to talk you listen with all your heart. I am lucky indeed.

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  14. Very thought-provoking post though I can't say I've ever felt true friendship except from my husband. We were friends first, before lovers, then spouses and 22 years later we are still that way. I have never had another person, besides him, who would go to bat for me, so to speak, when I was faced with opposition of some sort. They all talk a good game but when push comes to shove they disappear like early morning fog. I've gone to bat for others many times, stood beside them through family problems, work problems, etc. All for naught. It's a good thing I am ok with being alone most of the time, I accomplish much and never have a disagreement with anyone. It has turned out to be my bliss.
    Enjoy your day!

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  15. Wasn't too long ago a friend perked me up when I was feeling down.

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  16. Excellent post, Keith, lots to think about here, and I love your Autumn background! I do not have many friends, because I look at quality over quantity. Sure, I have many acquaintances! However, good and true friends are few and far between and I am very grateful that I do have a few of these. They are underrated treasures to be appreciated.

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  17. I agree totally . . .
    I can name a few . . .
    One far away . . . we see each other seldom . . .
    BUT whenever we reconnect, by phone, letter, email or in person it is as if narry a moment has passed by . . .
    Another friend who has died, but stays with me through the sound of a whistle, cologne fragrance, Tommy Hilifiger shirts and his wild and crazy fun life and living . . .
    Not sure what "tips the key" from friend, friendly . . . to best . . .
    But if one has had the experience . . . you know it!

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  18. This post is a masterpiece; very beautifully written.
    As for the topic - each one and his life experience.
    In my opinion, one is lucky if he finds his best friend within his own family - usually a sibling or a spouse.
    All the others, considered friends or best friends, just come and go, and are not really there when you're in need.

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  19. Absolutely. Thanks for reminding us of life's gems - in a realistic and heartfelt way.

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  20. True friendship is very special ... yes, it is genuine, selfless, and real.

    All the best Jan

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  21. I am sad to say that I have never had a true friend.

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    1. Don't be sad. There is time yet. It isn't how many years that you have known someone that makes them a true friend. I have many casual friends that I have known for many many years. That is all they are, casual friends.

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  22. What a lovely post. My dogs are true friends. I feel fortunate to be able to say that Willy Dunne Wooters is my friend first and my lover second. My son is a great friend, too. We have hilarious arguments.

    Love,
    Janie

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  23. A true friend may be the only person you can be yourself with all the time. As the saying goes " A friend will understand if you kill someone; a true friend will help you dispose of the body". That is a little macabre but it is a forceful way of stating the relationship.

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  24. I have friends like that and they're worth their weight in gold

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  25. I totally agree. Not counting my husband, I have many friends but only two 'soul friends'. One of them will be eighty this year and has supported me through the most joyful and the most heart breaking times of my life. Her name is Margaret. The other is a lady that I met online a few years ago. Her name is Anona, I feel as though I have known her all my life. Going to see her is like going home.

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  26. Soul Friends...I like that phrase and I like that can say you have one. Wonderful post!

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  27. I think the ideal situation is when your soul mate is also your soul friend. I'm very fortunate in that respect.

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  28. Interesting beautifully written post on a topic that can be complicated. Friends can’t be owned and some are deep but not long lasting. Some friends appeared like angels in my life to drift away eventually. Although short lived, they fed my soul with enough empathy so I could befriend others.

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  29. Who says a soul mate has to be someone you're romantically involved with? :)

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  30. I tend to lean on my husband, and youngest sister the most. They tend to be my go to people. I do have someone I've been friends with since preschool. It's just that she lives pretty far away. Another friend of mine lives right here. We connect so much, but I have a family, and he doesn't. It just gets hard when I have kids to take care of. I need to break free from the kids more often to connect with my friends more.

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  32. Excellent post. I think the need for a true friend may be more important today for our well-being than ever before.

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  33. My very best friend, Sue, and I have been friends since 1966 in high school where we met. She has always been so dear to me. She lives here in Oregon as well and 3 hrs away, but we see each other quite regularly. Her daughter and family live 4 miles from me and I am her grandchildren's "Nana Rose." We have never had a fight and are always there for each other. Ours is a true friendship till the end.

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  34. I love the idea of "soul friends" ... I love this post! Your words resound in so many spots. Thank you!

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  35. I think you stated this perfectly and I have a soul friend where we both think that, in a past life, we must have met and been kindred spirits even then. We live in the same city and we think about each other every day and wish we could see more of each other but do to work and blah blah, we cherish the times we are together and we always make time to see each other and call and talk, talk, talk:) I love her with all my soul and I know she feels the same. You know, I think I am very lucky because she is on top but then I have 2 male friends whom I can count on no matter what and have travelled far and wide just to be near me because I was going through tough times. I would do the same for them.

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  36. Ture friends (and I too love the term soul friends) are more precious than rubies.
    Love your autumnal backdrop.

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  37. I totally agree with you!
    I have had very few friends where I can just be myself. All were from my childhood. We grew up together and shared our innermost thoughts and secrets.
    Now they are all gone and I do miss them very much.
    This was a very interesting post and gave me a moment to remember "true friends"...thank you~

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  38. Fleeting friendships are quickly forgotten. TRUE friends are a rare and cherished gift, a blessing that endures forever.

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  39. True friends are hard to come by true friends are hard to come by and very valuable.

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  40. You described true friends very well. I think our lives are enriched and made so much more by those in our lives who are real friends. I'm not sure where we all would be without our friends. Hope you have a nice weekend and a happy Halloween.

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  41. I do 100% agree with you. I cherish all my friends, face to face and cyber alike.

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  42. I agree entirely, true friendship is very rare, I would love to think that I have such a person in my life but although I have many friends none of them could be classes as a soul friend. Throughout my life there have been friends who have appeared and have been there for me for a short period of time as if they were sent because I needed them at that stage in my life. It's strange how people come and go I envy those who have a life long true friend that is very special indeed. :)

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  43. True friendship along with family is what makes all this bearable. Sadly, several of my true friends have passed and I only have a few left. I am cherishing them.

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  44. It's so true that real friends are rare. We have to nurture our friendships, spend the time, share the love. Even true friendship can die if it isn't given enough attention.

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  45. Beautiful post. I have a sign in my living room that says: "Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart."
    I'm thankful for my true friend, even though she no longer is with us. She's still in my heart.

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  46. A life without friends would be unbearably sad. I've had the good fortune to be blessed with some unbelievably dear friends in my life, and had the even better fortune to marry the best one of them all.

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  47. Hello, I totally agree with you. I have a few true friends, they can always be counted on when I need them. Great post Keith! Cheers to good friends. Happy weekend!

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  48. Very well said! True friendship is such a gift. One that should not be taken for granted.

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  49. I like the idea of 'soul friendships.' I am blessed with several true friends and I can't imagine my life without these sisters who life sent my way. They know me better than my 'real' family.

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  50. Lovely post here Keith, and so true too, once you find those friends you should stick with them until the end as they're so rare. Thank you for all of the lovely comments you always leave too. - Tasha

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  51. The true friend is like a sister or brother from another mother, different though somehow the same. She or he gets you like so few others do. Well said!

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  52. I have true friends in my life...one I've known since I was four years old - actually earlier because she came to my 4th birthday party. We don't see each other often at all...and, in truth, we don't converse often, but when we do we just pick up from where we left off.

    I also have other good friends from my childhood and teenage years. Not a lot...but they are there. I know who they are and vice versa.

    I've only one true friend here where I'm presently living...where I've been living these past 14 years. Again, we don't live in each other's pockets...we don't see each other often...but we know who we are and what we mean to each other. I don't need to see someone every other day for them to be my true friend.

    At my age these days I'm not looking to make new friends...not in the true friend category, anyway. I know a lot of people, casually...and that will do me. :)

    This way for thinking doesn't apply with everyone, I know, but it is the way I am.

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  53. I think true friendship is indeed quite valuable and also a rarity. I enjoyed thinking on that today, thank you.

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  54. My friend have always been my family, and I am a true and loyal friend unless there's a slow piling on of things that make me end the friendship, but it's always for good reasons. My husband told me that he's never seen anyone with as loyal friends as I have, and I'm the first person he's ever met without an agenda.

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  55. I like your concept of Soul Friends. Cathy Winter wrote a song in the 1970s called: "I'm Looking For Some Long Time Friends". I think that 'Long Time Friends' are, in many ways, more important than even romantic partners. Maybe we're all looking for Long Time Friends.

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  56. I don't have any real life friends and I don't mind it at all. I have quite a few online friends but I've never met any of them.

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  57. i enjoyed reading!! i married my best friend, he has been my best friend since i was 15. i love and adore him. i have 2 girlfriends that fit your description here, and my sister...she is also!!!

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  58. Everyone must have friends and fellowship. Man was not meant to be alone.

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  59. Bernice is my forever friend. We've known each other all our lives, all 65 years of them. I love her dearly. : )

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  60. I have my husband as my best friend!! He is a blessing to me. Great post, thanks for sharing.

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  61. A true friend is not defined in years, but through a connection that, in my case, was felt instantly upon meeting, similar to the romance of 'love at first sight'. Another feature of true friendship is trust; it is the foundation from which a relationship flourishes.

    Enjoyed your words, today.

    Poppy

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  62. I used to call it "Heart Tied" - that connected-ness

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  63. There would be no life without cherished friends. End of story! I'm incredibly grateful for the true friends - those who are there through the ups and downs and never pass judgement.

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  64. A very beautiful post! I agree with everything you have said! Funny, you made a post about soul friends today. Last friday, I had dinner with a friend, who I have known now for over 20 years. We hadn't seen each other for the past 4 years. But, when we sat down to eat, it was like we just saw each other a day ago! Soul friends for sure! Big Hugs!

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  65. Very thought provoking. I have so many friends but none that I can call 'best'. I do see these friendships all around but I've never had the privilege. I will say that I'd welcome it in my life.

    Thank you for visiting. Go Cubs!

    Jane

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  66. There are people in our lives that are gems. I have a best friend that I can't imagine my life without. We have known each other since we were four and have walked side by side ever since. She is the most wonderful soul and I love her dearly. And then there is my husband. I am 100% 'me' with him. We are not just a couple, we are also the best of friends.

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  67. I don't under-appreciate my friends and never have. They are great value and I'm happy to have them in my life.

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  68. I had lunch this past week with one of these true friends. She and I have known each other for over 30 years, and she is a treasure. I agree, true friends are among our greatest blessings. Have a good weekend! :)

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  69. I am lucky to have had (and still have) some special friends in my life. The first group that comes to mind is my group of childhood friends. Sadly two of them are dead now --and I miss them terribly. Then there are friends (many special) from the many places I have lived all of my life... George and I have the most special bond (soul-mates and soul-friends) that I have ever had in my life. We are blessed by God to have each other. YES---true friendship is SPECIAL.

    Hugs,
    Betsy

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  70. Thank you for this post. It lifted me greatly.

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  71. I had a true friend like that. She died a few years ago and I still miss her.

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  72. I love the concept of soul friends. True friendship is really rare - it's a treasure. And it's not limited only to human to human friendship. I've seen very special friendship between humans and animals, and between animals :-)

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  73. I've had my soul friend for almost 20 years. There isn't a thing I wouldn't do for her. It's a lovely thing when you are blessed with such a friendship that can not only be true, but can span decades.

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  74. I've had lots of conversations on this very subject lately. In this digital world, where it should be so easy to keep in touch at a distance, I find that some people are making more excuses than ever for having a lack of time. But as far as I am concerned, it is just that, excuses. We all make time for what is important to us. And if a friend is a true friend, then they will certainly make time to reach out and stay in touch.

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  75. For me, friendship is one of the most complicated things that exist in the world. I always thought it was easy and always tried so much to do for other people ... but: I never can meet the demands of other people's friendship. Too many social things I do not understand, no wordless communication, no unwritten rules. I always make mistakes, will not suffice - friendship will never succeed!

    Love I know well andI had never problems to find a life partner ... I have good life together. But friendship has so high expectations, it seems for autists never to fulfill it.

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  76. Quelle mauvaise traduction de la part de GG mais j'ai compris le sens !
    Oui avec le temps qui passe beaucoup d'amis disparaissent ou s'éloignent, par la force de la vie... Pourtant quand le courant passe entre deux êtres on le voit dans les yeux et cela fait beaucoup de bien
    Bonne journée et merci d'être passé...
    Marine

    http://emprises-de-brises.over-blog.com/

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  77. Oh, là làl c'est encore pire comme traduction de mon commentaire !!!

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  78. Hello,
    Wonderful words about friendship.
    Great picture above this post.

    Greetings, Marco

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  79. Finding true friend is very difficult. Been there done that.
    Lovely post.
    Hi there, your new follower.
    Follow each other.

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  80. I don't have any friends. my "soul friend" is dead.

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  81. I have a couple of very close friends, they are so important to me. After that I have circles of friends who fit into a variety of subsets. My life is a venn diagram :-)

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  82. Hi Keith - brilliant ... I don't have very close friends - but then I've moved around ... I do have friends I can call on ... and I do love making friends and keeping in contact ... family are essential though ... cheers Hilary

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  83. This is a true and meaningful post. I have often said that I think of one or two of my friends as soul mates. I love your phrase "soul friends." I will think of that often going forward. Thank you.

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  84. i enjoy friendship. long for it, i had a few friends. nothing earth shaking happened we just don't see each other often any more ... i guess life something gets in the way. it is a give and a take. hoping for new friends all the time. makes the world go round. ( :

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  85. Interesting post. I found, on Facebook, I hadn't met up with my former teaching partners since 2011. Retirement changes friendships, too.
    I find many are friends only around their volunteer work. Very busy people in the 60s and 70s, with little time to just hang out.

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  86. I couldn't agree more, Keith. True friendships are extremely special - they are the sort of friendships that can survive long periods of separation, yet come together again as if the separation had never happened. My closest 'true' friend was my late sister and never a day goes by that I don't miss her and our special relationship.

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  87. Friendship is precious. There are certain people that no matter how much time has passed since you last spoke, you just pick up where you left off and it is as if nothing has changed. I'm blessed to have such friends.

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  88. Friendship is not always truly valued. For me it is as equally valuable as love, for instance.

    Greetings from London.

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  89. I laugh sometimes when I see someone has 750 friends on Facebook. What???? Impossible! I find myself wondering if the young who grow up with FB will think of friendship in this kind of way.....that it will be only those who 'like' a picture on occasion who will be those who are considered friends.

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  90. So important to me, too. Quite often, it's been what has saved me!

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  91. I have one true friend I love and trust! Sometimes less is more!

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  92. Especially the soul friends...the ones who were meant to come in to your life for a reason. They may be few. But unique and special and valuable for your soul.
    Happy Indian summer!

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  93. True friendship is certainly rare and should be treasured.

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  94. my granddaughter Jamie is my best friend...

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  95. I am so lucky to have two friends like this. It would be so good to see more of them, but even just knowing they are there and imagining what they would say to me is a big comfort.

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  96. My best friend is my husband, as other friends have fallen by the wayside when our lives don't mesh. I've learned that true friends are few and far between. I've known too many fair-weather friends and since I've changed countries, many from my past are now lost to me. I don't miss them really, they were a part of my life for a time, and came into it for a reason - we learn from those who touch our lives. But we also must move on. I know many people who still hang around with their high school crowd. In my mind that's not growth, that's fear of the unknown outside a comfort circle. An interesting post, you always get us thinking.

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  97. Nothing like true friendship!Great picture. Interesting post from you.

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  98. Friendships become more precious as one grows older. And to have a friend for life is truly a blessing ~ Have a good weekend.

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  99. Keith, that's very philosophical theme. You're right we need true friends, but... The those from school are not true friend in ages, so we lost them and can rarely have new ones.

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  100. Keith, I was just thinking about this last night, and you're right, we can count the number of true friends on one hand. I'm glad for you that you have one true friend. I do as well, but at the same time I feel that many people are self absorbed, and there are very few friends who will be there for you whenever, whatever. I like the phrase "soul friends." You sound like a loyal friend, Keith, and that is something very special, indeed.

    ~Sheri

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  101. this is something i was just thinking about as i was talking to two of my friends that i've not talked to or seen in a small forever, ha! i definitely think that friends are the most important people in our lives, but they're also the relationships a lot of people seem to overlook. also, thank you for your most recent comment on my blog, i'm at least trying to come back to blogging right now! xx

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  102. "Soul friends" I like that. It's true. Any good relationship is founded on trust, honesty, & respect. It took me years to be a good friend but now that I know how it's pretty amazing who's in my life.

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  103. True friendship is really rare indeed, but how nice it is when you know we can count on somebody!

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  104. Crafty Green Boyfriend is also my best friend, but I have a couple of other really close friends and they are very important to me. It's good to heave people who you can truly be yourself with and with whom you share a history of friendship

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  105. I'm not sure if someone quoted Emerson before (although I often read comments, here are too many to follow them all) - he said: "The only way to have a friend is to be one." So true!

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  106. You ARE very lucky to have a friend like that. True, true friends are one in a million.

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  107. 3. I have three. It is a pot of gold I very much appreciate...even more so as I get older.

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  108. I love the term, "soul friend"...it fits a couple of dear friends I have. They are the ones I want to tell any good news to and the ones I will ask to pray for me when needed and the ones I can shed tears with and come away refresh. And I love your header picture, would love to sit on that bench for a few hours and soak in the colors of fall.

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  109. I don't have friends well not in real life the closest I get are my online blog friends I am and always have been a loner but I am close to my family

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  110. When I was doing my metaphysical training, the teacher was disgusted with the term "soul mates". Because it was being misused. A soul mate is what you describe--a true friend. They can be in any guise, as a family member, a friend, or sometimes as a life partner. But never exclusively as a romantic thing.

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  111. Lovely photography and well written post and so important to life!

    Wishing you a Delightful Week ~ ^_^

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  112. excellent post. the older i get, the more i appreciate friends. (and the fewer i have as old age claims more souls)

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  113. I am blessed to have a true friend in my life, and I do cherish it. Thank you for stopping by my blog earlier today to ready about AnnMarie's Favorite Things! It's nice to meet you!

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  114. Interesting, though I think: once, one or both "soul friends" find their "soul mate", it is never the same.

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  115. Hi Keith! How are you doing?
    Love this post !
    Friendship is really important. More now than in the past. You know . Not so much but good people, you can talk any time and always is ok.Hugs to you both !!

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  116. i think friendship is vital to all humans.
    relationships with others is oxygen to our daily lives.
    but the quote has it right-
    true friendships are rare and hard to find.
    in a world where it's hard to trust. hard to truly know a person. hard to know what is a mask and what is real, finding that "kindred spirit" is like finding gold.

    beautiful post...thanks for sharing!

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  117. I understand how important friendship is. I only made it through my life thanks to the good graces of just one friend. It only takes one to see you through anything.

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  118. True friends are very hard to find, and keep. I think I have several kindred spirits that I don't know personally, except through their blogs, but in real life, I have but just a handful of friends that I trust.

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  119. I think I’m blessed with very good friends both close and afar but don’t know who is true friend. I don’t like definition, maybe I have several, or maybe none, but I’m so happy when I’m with them or the friendship that have been tested and reevaluated over time.

    Yoko

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  120. Keith, I like that: "soul friends." I have some of those, and they make all the difference in my life.

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  121. Hello Keith! My goodness, you don't post often, but when you do, you give us a lot to think about. I have to admit to not being great at maintaining long term friendships.

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  122. Hello, Keith! What an excellent post. The only thing wrong with Optimistic Existentialist is that there isn’t enough of him. :-) The coincidental thing about this post is the timing. Well, I was just thinking, over the past weekend, about life friendships. As you will know, we, here in the USA, have been in a toxic Presidential Election campaign for the past 18 months. (Way too long, in my humble opinion, for civilized people.) Sadly, our country has become very divided, almost right down the middle, on important issues, and no one seems to want to compromise. In my case, I find that life long friends end up on the “other side” and then try to tell me that politics is not personal. What do you think about that? After a lot of reflection, I’ve decided that one’s politics must be a reflection of their values. When a “friend” adopts opposite values, what does that mean to you? For me, it has become most difficult and caused me to re-evaluate whether I can continue to carry on a friendship as if though we shared the same values. So, now I need to give more reflection to the aspect of “true friendship” … can it exist when so many life values are different? Thank you for this post! As always, I will be looking forward to your next!

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  123. Just as I was thinking of a dear friend.. you had to write this!!!

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  124. Friends are everything to me. The friends who allow me my tantrums, my push aways, and don't run away, who know I'm just having a bad day, those are the best people whom I appreciate so greatly. I was thinking about it yesterday after reading about someone who died suddenly. I was thinking I need to tell those I love how much I love them and how knowing them has made my life! How their acceptance of me as is, has touched my soul and means everything to me.

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  125. beautiful and connective post Keith. I always feel what you express. Thank you for your heart, you feel the home you write of.

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  126. True, friends are rare and few.

    Everybody else is just an aquientance.

    We may feel "close" to online "friends" but it's often an illusion and not the real thing.

    In-person, face-to-face is best to develop lasting friendships.

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  127. I think friendship is more important than anything material. I have just a few as you've described and cherish them and nurture them!

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  128. Seems my truest friendships always move away (or I move)! At least now with email and FB we can still stay in touch.

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  129. My best friend of 30 some years, lives many miles away and often we don't connect for months. But we both know the other one is there for us if we ever really need them. So I would say they are important and quality is much better than quantity!

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  130. What a great post. In my humble opinion, the importance of true friends comes right after family which comes right after God :)

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  131. wow...this hit home. I had a hurtful situation with another blogger recently. She vented about it in a post. It was very hurtful to me, as she has done this before. I think true friends do not do this. Thank you for your great post here. I needed this. Hugs.

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  132. It best to be friends with your self. If you treat your self right. It will atract you to good soul people.
    Coffee is on

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  133. Hi Keith, it's nice to hear from you again :) My best friends are my husband and my children. I've had lots of other friends, but none that I could call, 'best' like I call my husband. We've known each other since we were young teenagers (13 and 15). There is something so wonderful about having that special friend who knows everything about you and knows all your history. I have never found another person that I can truly call my best friend. My children are also my best friends. I am very blessed in that way. xx

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  134. though me and my husbands are of little different natures and our attitude towards life is or i would say WAS quite different, by the time unconsciously we adopted what was positive and right from each other and became true friends ,
    i find myself lucky to have him as friend because friendship i mean the REAL ONE was missed in my life and now since i realized that there are no pretending between us and we are at our most genuine comfort level when be together it gives me delight and energy to exist in my best way .

    i think one can find true friend when he himself is loyal and selfless in his friendship .

    this relation is like mirror you find in it what you represent

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  135. The measure of true friendships are of those who are around when one is down.

    Hank

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  136. So true, beautiful put into words :)

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  137. Keith, this is so beautifully stated. I couldn't agree more about "soul friends" -- I have several. Three or four who totally "get me" despite the years. It's almost as though they were supposed to be your family members by birth instead of by choice, for my soul friends are indeed my extended family.

    I am an only child by birth. So friendships provided something even more than pal-ship. They were siblings who understood the me as a sister or brother would. They did then, do to this day, and someday when one of us is gone, that connection will still be there for the other.

    Thanks for putting this up today. It's a good reminder to let my nearest and dearest know how much I love them.

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  138. A true friend is a rare gift indeed. You have to cherish them when you find them!

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  139. Very good post Keith. I enjoyed your thoughts on friendship, and have enjoyed reading the insights left by all the other visitors here. I would say my true friends are my family: sisters, brother, parents, and grandparents. I do have some good friends I've known for over a decade, and whom I hope will stay friends for the rest of my life. But so many other friendships grow, reach a peak of beauty, and then fade. I wouldn't say they aren't true friendships, they're just meant for a time. And I'm almost always happy to see and hear from those friends again when our paths cross anew.

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  140. I've come to find that having a true friend is more valuable than having a lover.
    Well, in most cases.

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  141. So right. I've had more girlfriends than I've had true friends.

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  142. Friendship is precious and everyone deserves to have a true friend... I have friends who are mostly bloggers and rare get to meet either. After schooling I had no friends to frequently meet or communicate but it’s the blog world bestow me even though it’s almost virtual

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  143. I too look upon my sister as not only a sister but a soul friend, someone who completes me. It's not easy to find a soul friend, I've had many friends that I thought were life long friends but somehow along the way our lives changed, jobs, marriages, children all made us different people with different needs and the need for a different kind of friendship. That's why I'm glad that my mom give birth to my best friend!

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  144. A true friend is truly a treasure. Anne of Green Gables called those friends part of her 'tribe of Joseph'. Sometimes we use the term 'soul mate'. I have a couple of soul mates in my tribe. One is my sister-in-law; also my daughters are my soul mates. (Do spouses count?)

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  145. First of all, sorry I'm so late getting here! Whew book release insanity!

    I completely agree. On of my soul friends was a gay guy I met in West Yellowstone while working there for a summer. Another was a woman from Columbia I met my first year in Florida. And another was the friend who never shunned me through a very unpopular stage in elementary school.

    Truth though? I think these people are also our family. I feel that way about my hubby and each and every one of my kids. I guess that's the joy of parenthood, building the kinds of relationships that fill our whole souls.

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  146. So very true. I have one sister and brother who have become true friends and two other friends who are the best. My husband is also my friend. He puts up with me.

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  147. I love the wisdom of your post. True friendship is a wonderful thing, a thing to be treasured.
    I have a treasurer friend and I too count my immediate family as the truest of friends.
    Kind regards
    Anna :o]

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  148. I love true friendship! It would be difficult to find a true friendship! Wonderful post!

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  149. So True!!! Nothing like having that tight bond with someone who is a true kindred spirit. Friends make the world a nicer place. Happy Thursday Optimistic.

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  150. Oh how true! I have many I know but only a very few I can say that are true friends through the years.
    Thank you for leaving well wishes for me. Very kind.
    Happy Thursday and a wonderful weekend to you ahead
    betsy

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  151. I'm fortunate to have a few very steadfast good friends who have been with me for nearly 50 years now. It's hard to believe. Time is a real test. Over the years I've seen many friends come and go and the ones who still are there have passed that test. A friend "feeling like 'home'" is a good way to describe a solid friendship.

    Arlee Bird
    Tossing It Out

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  152. So well said! True friends are a real treasure!

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  153. You're so right. It is rare to find a friend who you can be your true self with and be completely vulnerable with.

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  154. Agreed. Montaigne has a big section on this in his essays. 'Friends with benefits' are not bad, either.

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  155. I think friendship is incredibly valuable and important. It has a great emotional impact on ourselves. It can be in a short term form where you have someone to get along with for a while, or the long term kind of relationship that spans years, or life. But everyone feels that sadness and loss when friendships break or are at unease. Selfless, true friendship is so filling and so much light that it creates its own kind of happiness.

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  156. So true. True friendship is so rare nowadays that I consider myself lucky for having found a few real ones.

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  157. Friendship may be the true sustaining force in a lifetime. Acquaintances come and go, but a true friend stands by through thick and thin. I think it would be hard to survive without one true friend.

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  158. I have never visited a blog with this many comments...wow..and I agree and I have a friend like that...thank you for liking my blue jay..I sit every morning now and watch them pick up the peanuts screaming with joy...Michelle

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  159. Hello Keith! Sorry, I'm so late, but I couldn't take my leave without visiting one of my favourite blogs.:)


    This is such a beautifully written post, and I'm so glad to say that I have a true friend in my husband and I let him know how much he means to me daily,... and also I have a soul friend, whom I have known for over fifty years, and he is like family. I think it's very important to also let a soul friend know on a regular basis how much you appreciate their esteemed friendship, for I realize how very lucky I am. Best Regards, see you on my return to blogging.

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  160. I have a soul friend that I wouldn't trade for the world. She has been my sounding board and supporter for nearly 50 years. I hope she considers me the same. Many times it is easier to talk to a friend than family.

    In answer to your question - friends are one of the most important things we can claim, and I am proud to have one and be one.

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  161. Beautiful post. I am very lucky to have two such friends. Very lucky indeed....:)

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  162. I'm luckily to have friends who I have known for 40 odd years, invaluabe.

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  163. Friends, so rare indeed, I have such a one....

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  164. Cheers to true friendship! I have a few friendships that are true blue and I don't know what I would do without them. :)
    ~Jess

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  165. Hey,
    Wonderful writing, I have to say at first. Friendship is a big part in life. I think I haven't found these soul friend. Hello, is there anywhere my other part of soul?
    Jokes beside, it is important to have friends you can leave. Friendships broke sometimes, I'm the perfect example. That is sad, but now I understand that such sad things always have a happy end either.
    Love,Lea

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  166. My husband was and still is such a friend. But he is ill now and, although the goodwill and affection we have always had are intact, the friendship is now only the basis for caring and nurture. I said ‘only’ but just realised that caring and nurture are a great part of any true friendship, no matter what the circumstances.

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  167. Hi! Nice capture. Sorry not o visit soon.

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  168. Agreed, I have one friend like that.
    I have known her 45 years.........

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  169. I have a couple soul friends and they are precious Christian sisters.

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  170. I know the meaning of true friendship. I broke my arm 3 weeks ago and Terry from "My journey with candida" blog, almost immediately arrived
    at my doorstep to help me.

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  171. Very very similar to yours, Keith.
    Your words here are so true...we do feel obliged to act a certain way when in the presence of acquaintances, don't we?
    Yet, with our true friends we can just relax and be ourselves, safe in the knowledge that we will never be judged.

    A really great post.
    Thank you so much.:)

    Have a Fabulous Weekend.:))

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  172. Years ago, I'd have said Yes! Exactly!, but due to my current mental disorder I am no longer really able to sustain them.

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  173. Good friends are so hard to find. Especially as I've gotten older. I wonder why that is? No time, I guess.

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  174. True friends are a necessity, I like how you said that a true friend is like coming home... You are right, I have only had a few very true and real friends. It is hard to open up. Recently I have found a new friend and I am loving that I have that person I can tell anything too... she does the same. It is a lot harder to make friends as you get older as I think you have your friends and stop opening up.. thankfully we took that chance and now we have a great friendship xox

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  175. True friendship is indeed rare and valuable and important!

    Happy Thanksgiving, Keith!

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  176. I most certainly believe in soul friends. I know for me personally, those true friendships have been beacons in my life during the hard times. They are the friends that I don't get to see everyday but our hearts and souls connect on a level that is different than other people. I think that having those true friendships are important for everyone, even if you consider yourself a loner.

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  177. You said it perfectly Keith, TRUE friends, especially life-long friends are one of the true gifts in life. So rare, so special...I've had some wonderful friends over the years. Sadly, a lot of them left this world much too early. Maybe that saying " the good die young" is true.

    I hope you are well and send a big hug your way, G

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  178. True friendship is as rare as true love.
    Or is there such thing as true love / friendship?
    Because i haven't experience them.
    Well, maybe a lot of cheap love and acquaintances though.
    Hahahaha.

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  179. True friendship can't be bought, and it's as rare as winning the lottery. Hit rock bottom and look around. Whoever is still standing around is bound to be a true friend.

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  180. I am blessed to have a bestfriend since high school until now. Long live to our 23 years of friendship. The two of them are my true friend because they are still around after 23 years.

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  181. True friendship is one of the most things I love and care !
    I really appreciatte a good friend and Im lucky to have lovely friends especially here in my blog. They are always there and are lovely.
    Hope you had a lovely thanksgiving!!
    Hugs and love for you both!!

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  182. I agree with you 100%! I do have some of those soul friendships and value them every day. Have a wonderful holiday season!

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  183. My thoughts on friendship... Well, that's easy. Hit rock bottom and see who is left. That person is a true friend.

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  184. Keith!!! How are you? Long time no connect. I'm terrible at keeping in touch. This is a wonderful post. Thank you for reminding us how truly special friendships are. I have some dear ones and I can't imagine my life without them ;-)

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  185. Hi Keith, Just stopping by for a second time simply to say I hope your year is getting off to a good start. You're one of the best in the blogosphere and I'm looking forward to your next intriguing post. Take good care my friend!

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  186. Yes, good friends are very hard to find. Especially since I've been told that I'm a nonconformist.. My husband and I are best friends. I have one female friend, my age where I live. I have others that I communicate with through Email.
    I liked that friendship post.

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