Monday, July 31, 2017

I Don't Want the Stream...I Want the Ocean



Even though I'm an introvert by nature, I love people. I love learning about them...learning their stories. Turning the pages that make up their book. Learning their dreams, aspirations, fears, hopes, and joys. Learning the very essence of what makes them, them. Most of all, I love listening. We go through life with surface interactions because that's what we are conditioned to do. I place a large part of the blame on our fast-paced society. It's as if people do not have the time anymore. 

However, I want to know what's below the surface. I want to know the real you. I don't want the stream. I want the ocean...

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  1. I wish you lived closer; we could have fun playing getting to know you. now why did a show tune just spring to my mind?

    and the ocean is MUCH more impressive than a tiny stream; water is a strong element.

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  2. People don't take the time to listen anymore. The next time you have a conversation with someone, ask questions. A lot. See if they answer only or ask the same in return. Chances are, you will learn a lot about them and they will know nothing about you...

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    1. This just happened to me yesterday, Alex!

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  3. Your thoughts wise and true.

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  4. I'm not as much of a people person as I used to be. I still get some enjoyment out of blending in and people watching, but I've given up on people for the most part and don't really try to get to know them much anymore.

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  5. I enjoy learning about others, until said others repeat the same damn stories so many times that you know them word for word. Then the ocean tends to fill up with lots of fish poop rather quick lol

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  6. Hi Keith, it's so good to see a post from you...
    I'm looking for your philosophical question this morning and I see non. I'm interested in people too and I have a variety of followers with a variety of interests and it makes getting to know them interesting. It takes me out of the groove sort to speak.

    I'm wondering what the next generation will be like with all the communication devices at the fingertips. Will they loose their ability to express themselves verbally and just become numbers in the crowds?

    A lot of young people can no longer write cursive and print instead, what's next to go?

    There's a lot more in the ocean but I prefer the stream. The ocean can get stormy and is so vast.

    Hugs, Julia

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  7. Hello, I think when people start having families they have less time to spend with old friends. I am on the shy side and tend to be quiet around new people. Happy Monday, enjoy your new week!

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  8. Me, too, Keith. I have a difficult time with just small talk. So nice to see a post from you.

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  9. I get that. The big diff between having acquaintances and work mates and real friends. Those moments below the surface mean so much -- they are the ocean. and you're right -- listening is the key.

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  10. So wonderful to hear from you Keith! We want more of you!

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  11. So nice to see you posting again! Your interesting analogy of ocean vs stream is thought provoking. I wouldn’t be surprised if you have an interesting story of your own to tell. I believe everyone’s life is a fascinating tale with chapters filled with hopes and disappointments, successes and adventures. We just have to risk plunging a little deeper to find them. :)

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  12. I work for a dentist and am on the phone every day, listening to people/patients. What makes me really sad is an older individual that talks to me for 20-30 minutes ~ because they are lonely. Some stories are funny and uplifting, but most are simply sad reminders that no one listens to them anymore. This is what I do ~ I listen. Sometimes my previous boss would get irritated at how long I was on the phone. He would whisper "tell them there is someone on the other line!" or make the slashing motion across his throat telling me to stop the madness. But, for some reason I can't do it although I do try to bring the conversation to an end before my boss goes ballistic. Luckily I don't work for him anymore, and I still find myself on the phone listening....the appointment has been made, the pertinant questions were asked and answered. What follows might be a discussion about the plumber, or their recent vacation, or a great restaurant they went to.

    I prefer the stream....it's more personal.

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  13. So nice to see your post today. I guess I like the streams of life. Less crowded, goes everywhere flowing in multiple directions through various climates and environments. Diversity in each location and leading two ways; one toward the larger ocean or toward the stillness of solitude at a peaceful journey's end. Enjoy your day!

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  14. This is a gorgeous way to articulate the desire to know a person beyond superficial interactions. Thanks for writing it, I will keep thinking about it and smiling.

    It's exactly the reason I blog but am not on Facebook : )

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  15. i'm not always sure. I might drown in the ocean

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  16. YES! YES! YES! I want the whole life story.

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  17. I want to read all about it, your life.

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  18. I don't think people always take the time to listen, and that is so important.
    Always enjoy your posts.

    All the best Jan

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  19. Hi Keith - yes good to hear from you again ... getting to know people is not always easy ... and it depends on the why one wants to know ... I just enjoy finding some things out and then I can relate ... I did that from the time my Ma went into hospital and have kept it up ever since ... I'm now of an age when my contacts and friends have things going on that make life difficult - if I can relate it's easier.

    Cheers and all the best - Hilary

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  20. My feelings exactly. The things that make a person who they are. Those are the fascinating aspects of a personality.

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  21. The story teller in me loves to hear new stories so listening is my favorite pastime along with people watching. Often the real person is not even close to what they outwardly portray.

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  22. wise words but we are too busy in our lives....

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  23. I'm kind of introverted but for some reason in lines, grocery, post office etc. I hear the most amazing stories about people that I could never start up at a gathering. Being one on one maybe. But yes, I wonder what is going on under there.

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  24. I like deep conversations too. I never was a fan of superficial talk. Nice photo!

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  25. Welcome back! Inquiring minds want to know "where ya been?" Turn about is fair play...I want the ocean too! :)

    Glad to see that you haven't lost the gift of inspiring people to bare their soul to you.

    I too like to listen to people, but not when they are being negative and talking only about politics or religion. I like hearing stories of their ancestors and their aspirations. What they want to do in the future. One thing I really dislike is speaking to someone, baring my soul, giving them the ocean and I can see they are not even paying attention, just putting together their response in their mind. Good listeners are hard to find.

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  26. Lovely to see you pop up in my reader. And my also introverted self agrees. About 10000 per cent (conservatively speaking).

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  27. Agree. I would love to live in a simpler time when life isn't so fast.

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  28. Very, very few people truly know how to listen. I think it is important to listen, ask questions and let people...talk. Glad to see you back in blogland

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  29. I'm glad to see you back too!
    Like you, I am a happy introvert, yet I love people.
    I think I read people very well and in doing so, choose (my few) friends wisely.
    If I was the last person on Earth, I wouldn't mind, I wouldn't be lonely. Yet I would fear the dogs...
    Anna :o]

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  30. I am often told I am a good listener. I like to hear peoples stories. And sometimes people need to talk. When my husband died, no one wanted to talk about him afterwards or hear me talk about memories. It saddened me. It was like they were saying I should let his memory go, forget him.
    Be a good listener.

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  31. This is why introverts do better with deeper friendships. Where you talk and talk and talk for hours every time you get together.

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  32. I thrive on the stories from my family, my friends and those
    newbie, almost unknowns that float in between . . .
    Best family moments are when we sit around the table
    after a festive meal and the stories emerge.
    Our grandchildren love to hear our "old tales" . . .
    and it becomes aniother way they are woven
    into the family story mix.

    I love times like this, must be some "ocean girl" in me.

    Maybe it is the "fast pace of today" . . .
    to make it seem like we don't take time . . .
    to care, to listen . . .
    I believe it is all still there though
    and I most certainly see a hunger in each of us
    to share about our own life and stories . . .

    Wonderful to see "Musings of a . . . " appear in my reader.
    I love having a visit with you . . .
    You have a way to stir my thoughts . . .
    Return again soon Keith, you are so loved . . .

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  33. I too always want to know more and probably share more than people want to hear. People do fascinate me> Love the picture!

    betty

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  34. The spring, the river, the sea, the sky, the spring again -- I want them all, dear left-handed optimist!

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  35. I like a good conversation; sadly people now talk across each other, not listening to what people have to say but cutting in with their own thoughts. So sad!

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  36. Beautiful and inspirational as always!!!

    i am exactly the same person that you described above .
    I am not social though i am in deep love with humans and humanity .I find no one STRANGER here .I relate to other by the same source "Creator ,whoever is he though"

    Life is an invitation to me to meet ,to explore ,to learn and to apply my learning for bettering the life !

    when i look at the ocean i see no boundaries

    when i look at stars and space i see no limit

    i float far above through my imagination and swim among all extraterrestrial bodies ,i wonder ,i starve i look for who made me ,who made all this .

    I find no answer but this flight enhance my learning unconsciously somehow ,widen my soul phenomena .broaden my depth of serenity .

    I smoothly glide down among restless spirits and feel sorry for while .
    i wish i could make them be still and realize the preciousness of moment they are wasting in things that really don't matter for the peace and joy of their heart

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  37. Agreed!!!!!! Glad to see you back!!!!!!!

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  38. I enjoy what you write. You say more in one paragraph that I can say in full page.

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  39. Hard to have the time to listen when your nose is stuck in your phone.

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  40. What a tremendous thought to go along with a fantastic photo! I would love to see and enjoy more communication among humans, but those days seem to be gone and replaced with distance, spite, hatred and greed. Wishing you happiness!

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  41. I'm rather listener and prefer listening to talking. In fact, I'm really poor at talking about myself. Love your beautiful writing and photo!

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  42. it's fast paced now but it's going to be light speed fast soon when get brain implants and are connected to the hive. but maybe i just worring too much.

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  43. being a senior now I see this as a major problem in society now-very little real communication and interaction with people-many of the younger ones don't know how to-very very sad
    ps I love your background

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  44. Hello Keith, nice to see a post from you again. That's true, it's as if people do not have the time any more, or the interest. That's awesome that you love listening.....and rare.

    Happy August!

    ~Sheri

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  45. Life is a journey of exploration and we each have our own wonderful way of completing it.

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  46. I'm not a fan of small talk either.

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  47. There is something really cool about sitting across from someone and diving deep with them. Getting to the issues rather than just the topics. Great to see you on Blogger, Keith. I've missed your posts!

    Enjoy the rest of your week! I've got a new blog:
    Elsie

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  48. Hey Keith!

    You certainly made waves with this one, kept it current and that's for shore :)

    Nice one, buddy.

    Gary

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  49. Time passes too fast, and I wish to slow it down. Every morning that the weather is nice, my cat and I take a walk. I enjoy God's beautiful world, the sky, the clouds, the sun and moon, the trees and flowers and all the beautiful critters. Though some I see no need for, like mosquitoes, except they are food for birds and such. I walk. The cat climbs a tree. A great way to start the day.
    A beautiful picture of the ocean. Have a lovely week. Thanks for reminding me of this beautiful world.

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  50. Lovely photo! Although we are all more connected than ever through modern technology, I agree that much of what we call connecting today is superficial small talk. I miss getting to know people well too.

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  51. It's nice to know you, far away dreamer.

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  52. Fellow introvert here. I'm the same with you!

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  53. Nice to see you back!
    I agree totally! Bring on the ocean!
    Great photo!

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  54. I much prefer a few deep dear friends to a roomful of acquaintances. Give me the ocean!
    And yes, I too am glad to see you back here.

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  55. Ah, we really don't spend a lot of time listening to one another today, I agree. Everyone is so anxious to take a look at their smart phones that they don't pay attention to those who are sitting in the same room!! I do love the photo.

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  56. Makes me wonder if all of us introverts want the ocean. I always have.

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  57. .... hmm. I always thought the saying went 'still waters run deep' .... but then no idea if that meant a stream, ocean or lake. Me personally, I need the ocean. Physically, and metaphorically. I need to live by the sea. It is what calms me. As for people, if there isn't much beneath the surface then there isn't enough to hold my friendship. I just need people with some history, some karma to work through, and some life experience. Why? because I need to be able to share some of my own stories and not feel like a freak. Just say'n

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  58. Hello Keith
    I like certain people.....not all people. There are those that I will never allow to come close to me. (LOL and here I am, blabbing it to the whole world. Does that make a lot of sense?)

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  59. So good to read your thoughts-put-to-screen once again. Welcome back. :)

    I'm not a real people fan. I just wrote today's blog entry addressing such, before I came here. But I do gravitate toward blogs that I feel a sameness with. It's always a joy to read yours.

    Peace, Andrea

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  60. Since I work with people, I think I'd rather have the stream. hahaha.

    Great post!

    T.

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  61. I much prefer a few deep dear friends to a roomful of acquaintances. Give me the ocean!
    And yes, I too am glad to see you back here.


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  62. I'm really enjoying the streams at present aka Netflix and Stan Streams! :)

    The sound of the ocean and the smell of the salt air are always wonderful. Sometimes I yearn to do so again...permanently...but not where there are a lot of other people around.

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  63. I used to be a people's person but now that I am older ....no.

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  64. You are so very beautiful, Keith!!!

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  65. I am relentlessly happy despite an unhappy childhood and this makes me grateful for everything now.

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  66. What a great picture to go with the post- so peaceful. Love the words you wrote too. I do wish everyone in the world would just slow down a bit. What is the rush? When we rush we miss it all!
    ~Jess

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  67. It's like something I would have written! I feel exactly the same way. So refreshing to know that someone out there is like that too :-)

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  68. Are you ready to plunge into an ocean being an introvert? That's what sounds contradictory in your musings. Appealing though. Few people love listening as far as I see, when the subject is not them. Ever noticed that?

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    1. Got that right about the folks who just love, love, love to hear themselves talk...about themselves!

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  69. Love this post and love the picture!

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  70. I'm the same, but sometimes I can see it makes people uncomfortable. Guess they're not comfortable in the depths of their own ocean. :-/

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  71. I think all introverts are the same and enjoy those things, too. I know I do. :)

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  73. A good conversation with a stranger makes a day well spent! :)

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  74. How are ya, Keith? Oh, there's so much to be learned about a person by quiet observation. And have you ever noticed that the quick passerby convo is so robotic... The other day when I passed someone I know in the grocery store, not friends, just a member of our community, I said hello...and the reply was, "Ok, you too!" Now, I didn't ask a question...and I didn't even say, "have a nice day", which I normally do when departing someone. But the automatic and robotic response was just that...automatic and robotic and unrelated to a simple "hello". Folks need to turn off the mind babble and tune in. Life is passing them by...and I for one, am tuned in to every single moment, of every single day, and even though I am surrounded by those who love to hear themselves talk...about themselves, I smile, acknowledge them. And unless they are asking a specific question of me, the water continues to flow downstream...instead of waves washing over us!

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  75. Surface relations are great in some cases. If you're friends though, that ocean line friend, is always a marvelous find. :)

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  76. I missed this when you first posted it. Beautiful, thoughtful post. I would rather have the ocean too. Hope all is well!

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  77. A good conversation with a stranger makes a day well spent! :)


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  78. I'm very old school.
    I enjoy writing letters, not FaceTime or Skype. Even hate visiting jail inmates, as it's all video chat now.
    Blogs are a great way to express one's life.
    I've heard a quote recently.
    "Have memories to share, not things to show".
    (Aside pictures of memories)

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  79. And that is how it should be Keith. To know the real you and me is what we should long for. Writers are great observers and listeners for sure.

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  80. Yes, I too want to know how different people live, what they eat, how they dress, what their homes look like. So nice to see someone who feels the same. Good article.

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  82. For sure----give me the ocean.... I want it ALL.... It's that way with blogging. Some people are so private/secretive that no matter what I do, I don't really get to know them at all... Are they my 'friends'???? I think not... They are acquaintances... I guess that is okay---but I want to know my REAL friends...

    I have a good blog post today about our visit to a Slot Canyon in Arizona recently... You would enjoy seeing the pictures I think..
    Hugs,
    Betsy

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  83. There seems to be pressure onus all to do lots of things, which means we brush the surface of as much as we can, rather than concentrating our efforts in one area.

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  84. I couldn’t agree more! And I’m the same. Hate small talk. I want ocean.

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